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nickeknew
Aug 22, 2008, 10:58 PM
See me and my Gf are hangin at a friends Tomorrow. She keeps talking (on AIM) about how we are going to make out. I really like her so I can not say no. The thing is that I never have made out with a girl and not sure I want to tomorrow. So I need help on what I should do.

nickeknew
Aug 22, 2008, 11:22 PM
Please help!

Wondergirl
Aug 22, 2008, 11:30 PM
How old are the two of you?

nickeknew
Aug 22, 2008, 11:33 PM
13

Wondergirl
Aug 22, 2008, 11:37 PM
Tell her you respect her too much to get involved physically. (She is probably as inexperienced as you, but has big ideas based on movies and TV shows and books she's read.) You have to be very good friends first.

nickeknew
Aug 22, 2008, 11:40 PM
We were very good friends I know she's experienced I think I want to just scared since I never have and don't want to mess up. Im confused.:-(

Wondergirl
Aug 22, 2008, 11:59 PM
Just tell her no. Don't let her play around with you and your body parts. Do you want to hold her hand, kiss her? Or just give her a nice hug and get her interested in something else.

Don't do anything you're uncomfortable with.

You're only 13, for pete's sake! I held hands with guys when I was 13 but didn't get my first kiss until I was almost 16. If you do everything at 13, there won't be anything fun left to do when you're 21!

Tell her your mentor (me) says not yet.

nickeknew
Aug 23, 2008, 12:01 AM
Its hard though I just don't want her to dump me.

nickeknew
Aug 23, 2008, 12:08 AM
Cause I really like her a lot:-{

ChihuahuaMomma
Aug 23, 2008, 12:09 AM
If she dumps you for not kissing her then she doesn't really like or respect you. Tell her that you want to wait, and that you want it to be very special.

Wondergirl
Aug 23, 2008, 12:09 AM
So you will do anything she wants in order to keep her?? I sure hope not!!

Tell her you like her a lot, but you two are only 13!! Tell her no. You want to enjoy getting to know her real well first. Tell her you read on chat boards all the time about how easily couples break up and it's always after the relationship gets physical.

Btw, what does she mean by "make out"?

nickeknew
Aug 23, 2008, 12:12 AM
Thx you are right! I will take your advice!

ChihuahuaMomma
Aug 23, 2008, 12:13 AM
Oh good question. What does making out mean these days? When I was your age, we called it "necking"..

Wondergirl
Aug 23, 2008, 12:15 AM
"Making out" is not something you plan. If she's planning this for tomorrow night, she has the wrong idea.

Wondergirl
Aug 23, 2008, 12:17 AM
My memory of making out is hugging and kissing a lot until you start to get sweaty and breathless.

TrueFaith
Aug 23, 2008, 02:15 AM
In my view there probable just going to kiss but see how it goes I don't think you will get a play by play action on kissing just have fun with it you are young but don't base your relationship on a kiss take it slow

talaniman
Aug 23, 2008, 06:14 AM
Be respectful in her parents house. That's a bigger deal than the making out!!

hjpan
Aug 23, 2008, 11:36 AM
WAYYYYYY TOO YOUNG!!!

Making out =/= nice kiss
Making out = LONG KISS --> usually leading to sex.

N0help4u
Aug 23, 2008, 12:11 PM
I agree you just tell her that a relationship is more than 'making out' and having established a good friendship is more important. If she gets mad she didn't really care enough about you in the first place and just wanted somebody/anybody to mess around with. In the long run she will end up respecting you for not being another one of those guys that makes out then breaks up.

A kiss on the check when you leave so she knows no hard feelings is all you need to do.
Making out from kissing to whatever is more than you need. Too much too soon is never good.

nickeknew
Aug 23, 2008, 08:22 PM
Thank you all I told her that we will stick with just kissing and she actually respected me more!

ISneezeFunny
Aug 23, 2008, 08:35 PM
Oh good question. What does making out mean these days? When I was your age, we called it "necking"..

... cm, I thought you were MY age...

... and we made fun of kids that called it "necking"... :D

ChihuahuaMomma
Aug 23, 2008, 08:47 PM
LOL... that's what we used to call it.. LOL... I'mma nerd!

Wondergirl
Aug 23, 2008, 09:04 PM
I can't wait to hear nickeknew's report. He will give us a kiss by kiss report, won't he?

ChihuahuaMomma
Aug 23, 2008, 09:09 PM
He usually does!

nickeknew
Aug 23, 2008, 11:44 PM
I will.

ChihuahuaMomma
Aug 23, 2008, 11:48 PM
I thought it was tonight that you guys hung out.

nickeknew
Aug 24, 2008, 09:56 AM
It got changed to today.

star3114
Aug 24, 2008, 03:18 PM
A word of advice... my friend in junior high was 13 when she got pregnant. She did what he much more experienced boyfriend wanted instead of listening to her instincts that were telling her to wait. Plain and simple, if you don't listen to your conscience... you will regret it later... guarenteed. If she dumps you for it, just think of all the possible trouble and agony you saved yourself by not being her little puppet. Take care!

7Arwen
Oct 27, 2008, 10:38 PM
She's obviously not worth your time if she already has experience at that age. She's used. You seem respectable, so don't let her ruin that for you. When you're older, you'll see that a lot of girls will be after you because you respect others and them. Don't waste yourself now. Trust me.

Do you want to cheapen yourself for some girl now? Or get the BEST woman later?