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atrocitymmp84
Aug 20, 2008, 06:02 PM
It seem like no one is answering my question? I been in a relationship for a long time? Why have I not gotten pregnant? Is something wrong with me I been having a period every month since may, I used to be irregular, but now I'm not. So forget that he cheated cause happens but once again what is wrong with me!!
bigbird213
Aug 20, 2008, 06:39 PM
For one your trying to get pregnant with a guy who cheated on you and got another girl pregnant...
atrocitymmp84
Aug 20, 2008, 06:58 PM
For one your trying to get pregnant with a guy who cheated on you and got another girl pregnant......
But that's not the question I asked though the question is why have I not gotten pregnant all this time?
starbuck8
Aug 20, 2008, 07:13 PM
Do you really want to get pregnant that bad, to try and get pregnant by a guy that is cheating on you, and has another girl pregnant? Are you trying to "one up" her? I think you should sit back and give some thought to your reasons for trying so hard to get pregnant, and dump the cheater for starters! How about trying to get into a stable relationship first?! That would be your best bet!
Alty
Aug 20, 2008, 07:13 PM
We can't diagnose you over the internet, go to your doctor.
As for trying to get pregnant with a guy that cheated on you and has a baby on the way with another girl, well, to each their own, good luck with that. :rolleyes:
J_9
Aug 20, 2008, 07:17 PM
Firstly, I cannot diagnose your pregnancy over the internet. If I could, I'd make a million just by telling you to pee on your monitor. Not to be too graphic.
Secondly, why in the world would you want to get pregnant by someone who has cheated on you and possibly spread STDs?
Is this really a man you want to be the father of your baby? I should hope not. The father of your baby should be true to you. He should be monogamous.
The only thing that is wrong with you is that you don't realize that you will be raising this child, should you get pregnant by him, that you will be a single mother fighting for support or eventually asking us how you can terminate his rights.
Please, quit trying to get pregnant until you are in a stable relationship.
bigbird213
Aug 20, 2008, 07:18 PM
but that's not the question I asked though the question is why have I not gotten pregnant all this time?
Sorry, the last question I read was
What is wrong with me?
starbuck8
Aug 20, 2008, 08:51 PM
but thats not the question i asked though the question is why have i not gotten pregnant all this time?
Once again, as said above, there could be many reasons. You would need a Dr.'s diagnosis for that. We were looking at the bigger picture in this situation that you are in. We can often see right past the actual question, with the other things that the poster has written, and your question called for more than one response in a particular area.
atrocitymmp84
Aug 21, 2008, 05:46 PM
Can you still get pregnant if ou have irregular periods?
starbuck8
Aug 21, 2008, 08:03 PM
Why did you change your original question? The edit feature is used to correct spelling errors and such. They are not meant to change an entire question, so nobody knows what everyone else was responding to.
Once again, we cannot diagnose you over the internet. You had a nurse tell you that a few posts back, and others have told you also. You will need to go and see a Dr.! It depends on WHY your periods are irregular. There could be many reasons, and sometimes periods are irregular just because, and other times there could be something that needs immediate attention. It could even be an STD, since your boyfriend has cheated with someone that you probably have no idea what she's been up to.
If your have the mind set that cheating just "happens", then I suggest that you work on your relationship first, before you bring a baby into the mix.
In answer to what you are doing wrong? You are asking someone on the internet to diagnose you for one. You are obviously not ready to have a baby for two, and number three, apparently you haven't seen a Dr. to find out what the problems are to begin with.
It depends on why your periods are irregular, as to if you are able to get pregnant.
I believe I covered your questions there!
bigbird213
Aug 21, 2008, 09:32 PM
I feel bad for any child brought into the world under those conditions
Alty
Aug 21, 2008, 10:28 PM
This sounds very much like the "If I have a baby our relationship will be better, he'll be more devoted to me, he won't stray" scenario I've seen time and time again.
OP, having a baby with a man that cheated is the worst thing you can do.
Why do you want a baby now, with this man? If you think it will fix the problems in your relationship then you're wrong, a baby makes things worse. Honey, babies are blood sucking, screaming, whining, pooping, bundles of trouble, that's what they need to be in order to survive. Even the best relationships falter when a child is brought in to the mix. If a relationship is alreay on rocky ground, well you can kiss it goodbye when baby comes along.
Work on yourself, find someone loyal, someone true, someone that wants only you. Date for a while, get married, get a great job, then, only then, think about bringing a helpless child into the world.
I don't think it's a matter of can you get pregnant, it's should you?
Good luck.