My new sexual partner (41 years of age) whom I have known for 8 months seems to have an erection problem. I questioned him gently about past erectile problems and/or experiences and he explained that even though he initially had erection problems the first couple of tries in a new relationship, the problem has sorted itself out and not been a problem since. To begin with, we have known each other for 8 months now, initially explored the sexual side of the relationship a couple of months after meeting and then not again until recently now that we are a steady item so to speak. The problem has remained and I am quite concerned for both of us. He says he has a normal erection until he lays down with me and then loses it. Even though he seems to still be able to ejaculate when barely inside me (bit like putting a marshmallow into a money box believe me), I am wondering how a guy can ejaculate without a normal erection, pardon my ignorance, and then on the same token, am wondering if he really knows what a normal erection is. This is debatable from my brief conversations with him on such a sensitive subject. I don't want to make him feel inferior in any way. He seems to be a fairly well balanced guy, strong personality, full of fun, doesn't seem to be masking any sexual/emotional problems from the past. I don't know how to address this problem as it is all very new to me. I just want to help this lovely man to achieve his and my dreams of having a normal sexual relationship.:confused:

maybe he's worried about his performance... since he claims that it happens the first few times when him and others attempted to have sex... maybe u try playing with him or oral sex.. they have KY jelly warming lube.. watching porn while having sex... that may also help... also u should talk to him without making him feel "less of a man" maybe ask him what his turn ons are... and be open with yourself too.. hope this helps.. good luck =)