Hey. My name is Meghan. I have a full-blown gayhalf brother named Tre. My dad wants to get a divorce from his wife because she lets him be a girl and he thinks it's a disgrace. Should he divorce her because of my brothers ways?

Hello Queenie:

No, she should divorce him because of HIS ways.

excon

It sounds like your dad and step mom may have more problems and issues than just your step brother.
It will be your dad and step moms decision and only him and your step mom know all the details of why they want a divorce.

Hello Queenie:

No, she should divorce him because of HIS ways.

excon
The reason he wants the divorce because she lets him have sex with boys in the house, dress drag, smoke, and all types of crazy things, and my dad is tried of her letting him kill his self. The marriage was going good until my brother had a life change, and a very drastic one

Hello again, Queenie:

Sh*t happens. Life is not like TV.

excon

To add to my earlier question how do I love a full-blown gay who has turned my life into a havoc? He doesn't listen to me he is only interested in gay things. I am hetrosexual, not only to mention he is 16 and I am 17.

What things does your step brother do that you hate that have nothing to do with his gay choices? I know you mentioned he is having sex in the house which I don't think any kid should be doing in their parents home. Other than the sexual things what ways do you and he not get along?

how do i love a full-blown gay who has turned my life into a havoc? Hello again, Queenie:

He's your brother. Love him cause of that - nothing more. No, he's not going to live up to your ideals - but you're not going to live up to his either.

excon

When I was a social worker, I had a very good friend who was gay and he told me he had some women friends in college who tried to turn him hetero by having sex with him.

From *his lips*... gay guys don't like to have sex with women, they never will like it. The best you can hope for is a friendship. Don't become a "fag hag"... find a man who is interested in you as a sexual being.. a guy who doesn't want to exploit you.

Best wishes, :)

Moved from Adult Sexuality because the OP is not over 18.

Here is the other post

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/divorce/love-gay-boy-250129.html

How old is he?

16 she is 17

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/love-4-gay-250144.html

Accept him for who he is, a spoiled indulged youngster, he does sound a bit out of control, per your other post. Your mom lets him have way to many liberties for a 16 year old, but that's has nothing to do with him being gay.

Your dad is right as, your step-brother has to many liberties, and not enough discipline! 16 and having sex in the house?? Never. This has nothing to do with gender identity, that's irrelevant, but obeying the boundaries set by the parents is another question. Can you have sex at home, and smoke??

Yeah really and I am sure dad doesn't want the conflict of why can he and not me as well as the bad influence of kids not having boundaries

What things does your step brother do that you hate that have nothing to do with his gay choices? I know you mentioned he is having sex in the house which I don't think any kid should be doing in their parents home. Other than the sexual things what ways do you and he not get along?
He uses me to do bad things, he puts me in the middle of his shanagains it is a long list

I think your dad sees all this and wants to get you out from under it.
Your step mom is allowing way too much to go on and your dad may have thought that when they married he would have a say but it looks like he doesn't and his not having a say is even to the point that he doesn't have a say in how things go for you.

HE is 16 not 30 his life has limits