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Allforthebroken
Aug 16, 2008, 08:24 PM
My boyfriend and are already know that we are together forever... but we disagree on when we should get married...
I want to get married at 17-18 and he doesn't want me to have to deal with being engaged in high school... he wants to wait until I am 20...
Should I go with what he's saying? Or should I convince him that being married early is what we should do?
FYI
He is a grade older so when we both finish high school we are moving in with each other even if we aren't engaged
Clough
Aug 16, 2008, 08:38 PM
What's the rush, please? How many people have each of you dated? I note from one of your other posts, that you are 13 and he is 15. Both you and he will be facing many choices that you will need to make and things to experience in the next many years. You might grow apart from each other but still remain friends because of the things that you will learn, experience and the choices that you both will make.
Both of you are really just beginning with life on the level of exploration as to what you will really want to do in life as an individual and also with people. I know that he is correct that you should both wait - not just for marriage but anything else for that matter that involves activity that could lead to you getting pregnant.
At 13, it's really not possible to know everything that you will want for the rest of your life because you haven't yet experienced everything that you need to in order to prepare you for a life of your own or together with someone else.
In short, you don't know what you are missing because you haven't been there yet. That's a quote from me.
I'm sure that others will come along to respond to your post. Anyone posting on this thread would also do well in reading what you have posted on your other threads.
Please do know that I only hope and pray for the best for you and that there are many of us hear who really care about you, even though we don't know you! Please listen to the voices of experience on this site.
Tralyn
Aug 16, 2008, 09:20 PM
At that age Love is so MONSTROUS and you see things SOOOOOOOOOOOOO different now compared to how you will see things in the future. And Clough is right, you don't understand that now and you probably think we are just being ridiculous, but we really aren't - we too were your age at one time.
You two might be together forever, who knows, but let TIME and experience predict that. You cannot expect anyone to make a life-long decision at the age the two of you are at. I wish you the best in love and life! : )
N0help4u
Aug 16, 2008, 09:26 PM
No point in disagreeing and arguing over something that far away. Take things one day at a time and build a relationship. When the time comes you will know.