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Allforthebroken
Aug 13, 2008, 08:31 PM
My boyfriend and I are underage (13 and 15) and we know that w are a bit too young to be involved in sex, but we plan on doing it when I am 15 and he's 17... we really can't wait to do this, but is it right? Even if we use both ways of protection?

ChihuahuaMomma
Aug 13, 2008, 09:18 PM
I think the better question is at 15 and 17 are the two of you ready for the responsibility of sex? Are you guys going to be ready for having a baby?

ISneezeFunny
Aug 13, 2008, 10:00 PM
To go along with CM said..

.. what happens if you miss your period after having said intercourse?

y.i.k.e.s.

ChihuahuaMomma
Aug 13, 2008, 10:03 PM
The longer you wait, the more special the first time will be. Imagine waiting until you're married and losing your virginity to your husband and then getting pregnant with your first child!

ScarletSea
Aug 14, 2008, 01:07 PM
Depending on where you live (if UK) maybe you should wait until your 16 then it will be legal... However if you are both ready - bearing in mind he is a couple years older, you shouldn't let yourself feel pressurised - then look over different contraceptives and/or talk about it with your GP. Also, if you do really love each other then I'd be careful as he can be charged as he is older epsecially if you have sex when he is 16+
Main line is if your going to do it be safe and make sure you are clued up on everything for example if you do find yourself pregnant...

Xx

J_9
Aug 14, 2008, 07:52 PM
Don't forget that sex = pregnancy. Are you, or will you, be ready for a baby? Can you afford it? Are you prepared for the possibility of being a single parent?

Honey, there are also many dangers involved with been a pregnant teen. Dangers that can cost you your life or the life of your baby. Are you ready for that? Are you ready to raise a developmentally delayed baby? It's possible you know.

You are too young for sex right now, not only mentally and emotionally, but physically.

Trust me, I am a nurse in the labor and delivery department of the hospital I work in, I can promise you that now or in the next 2, 3 or 4 years, that you are not ready for this kind of lifelong commitment.

LoveisBlind
Aug 15, 2008, 07:02 AM
It is really up to you. If you think you are ready for sex at that age, then do it. But don't do it just for the sake of it. Personally I would say wait until it is legal.

It is good that you are worrying about contraception. Both types of contraception would be best but, remember they don't work all the time.

If you are not planning to do this for two years, I would really say don't worry about it now, just enjoy the relationship you have and being together. You never know what the future may hold, in two years everything may have changed.

kp2171
Aug 15, 2008, 07:45 AM
Well, as the father of a wonderful son who was conceived while using birth control AND tracking her cycle, trying to avoid pregnancy, all I can say is when you have sex, you risk getting pregnant. Period. When using because or not.

And, unfortunately, when younger... sometimes sex is used to "elevate" the relationship to some perceived higher level, and in the end it just complicates the relationship.

JBeaucaire
Aug 15, 2008, 08:49 AM
The sex drive you're feeling is nature trying to make babies. That's all it is. It's survival of the species. Your mind tries to convert those urges into "love" in hopes that you will give in. It's up to you if you fall for that.

At 13, you know you're not ready to be a parent, right? That's why you're talking about protection, right?

Both of my two kids were conceived when my wife and I were using protection. Protection is not assurance. Only being smart and NOT putting a penis inside of you can keep you from getting pregnant 100%. That's it. Nothing else.

So, at 15 will you be ready to play mom?