My boyfriend of 4yrs has been very distant lately, I just got new hours at work so I'm home every night now, seems like when I'm home he just wants to sleep and have nothing to do with me. When I used to work nights he would always go do stuff at night. We are at a stand still in our relationship and I don't like it... I want to move on but I love him with all my heart. He's always crabby with me when I tell him how I feel seems like it doesn't matter to him? How can I get through to him without leaving? He's seen how upset I get about it. Then it gets better for a few weeks and its back to the same old? I want him to know I'm serious.

If you were not there, then he would have to make a decision. Buy the cow to get the milk, or get another cow. That he refuses to discuss it is a red flag as to how he regards your feelings in this matter.

That was my advice to your other question, Same advice to this question too!

You got a crabby man so take it or leave it.