DWORKS
Aug 13, 2008, 04:43 AM
To make a long story short (cant tell by the long story,huh?) my boyfriend and I separated 01/07.. he was an over the road truck driver with our old address in Atlanta, GA. I moved to Tennessee for a new job. We had our problems but never officially ended the relationship until 05/07. He finally quit his job and moved to Tennessee where I was in August. We didn't get along because he felt like I should have dropped everything to accommodate him when he arrived. I had no idea he was coming but he felt like I should have had a room, food, clean clothes, etc waiting on him. He also has a friend that lives in the same city so I just assumed he would be living with him since he never contacted me regarding him relocation. He came angry at the world but I couldn't stop and drop everything because I was getting ready for work when he arrived. We purchased a car together and he asked if he could use it I explained"no problem just as long as I get to and home from work." Not to mention... I had a roommate. So to me that would be totally unfair for me to move someone in without my roommate permission/approval.
We continued to talk like boyfriend/girlfriend but I guess I wasn't giving him what he felt he deserved. We had several arguments regarding the car. His argument was he felt like he should have 100% use of car since I had it for 8 months prior to him arriving. In the meantime he's dating another woman, did I mention she was our old neighbor when we lived in the city prior to our Atlanta move which was due to him being closer to his children. (have I confused you yet?) Well, back to the story... we continued to date, (unofficially, so he says), have sex, etc. We were basically back to who we were before minus us living together. I didn't see him as often because he had finally gotten him an apartment on the other side of town and we worked opposite shifts. Again, we had never said OK we are officially a couple again but we did all the things that couples do, e.g. date, shop together, do laundry together, look at houses (to live in together), pay bills together etc. So how was I to know that we were not together?
Well, my lease on my apartment was up Jan 31 so I asked him if he would like for me to move in with him Feb 01, 08 so that we could save money, pay down balances on our credit so that we could finally buy a house by the end of his lease, Sept 08. So... I moved in with him and that night he didn't come home. I asked if he had someone several times prior to moving with him and each time he said NO, NO, NO. When I moved in our relationship changed for the worst he finally revealed that he had someone pregnant, yes, the neighbor. I felt like he did me wrong because I could have looked for another apartment or stayed where I was at. He had me waste my time, move all of my things on a lie. But not only was this woman pregnant but she was his WOMAN. We, she and I, finally had a run in. He actually disrespected me and allowed her to come inside the apt and when I arrived he was trying to get her out. I told him that I would leave but that I needed the key to the storage in Atlanta (where our furniture was). He told me no and then explained that he would call the police on me. For what? I'm only coming to where I live. He also proceeded to leave with her. He jumped into her car after she threw him the keys. Out of anger I pushed him and told him he owed me an explanation. It got ugly... he finally jumped out of the car and ran because he said he didn't want to deal with any of us (she and I). Prior to this incident I worked 345-1145pm but when I arrived at home about 1215 on a weekday he was still at her house. His excuse was "she's pregnant, and needed closer". So she needed closer at 1215am?! I finally left and went to a friends house because I have NOOOOOOOO family in this city. My closest family member is 800 miles away. So I was forced to go back because I couldn't afford to rent rooms from night to night and couldn't get another apt right away for the same reason. He finally came back with all of his belongings and proceeded to treat me really bad. Well, that was the beginning of February. I found out that they still continued to talk everyday, when she arrived at work, at lunch, and before she went home from work and sometimes when he was at home alone. He lied, of course, and said that they didn't talk that often and that I was paranoid. I finally showed him proof , detail billing, and he didn't have anything to say but "she needed closer, she's pregnant." The most painful thing about this is he and I were together 5 years and 3 of the 5 I unsuccessfully got pregnant. He officially dated her, out of convenience according to him, 3 months before she got pregnant. Ain't that a slap in the face? She already has 2 teenage daughters (youngest 15 years old.)
I would be lying if I said I didn't love him but where am I to draw the line? I know we weren't officially together when the baby was conceived. But how much she I allow being that she is pregnant? Where should I draw the line as far as how much they talk. I know they have to talk but how often is "too much". By the way she was sleeping with a married man before him and couldn't understand why she was having such a hard time with men.
Tell me your feelings:confused:
We continued to talk like boyfriend/girlfriend but I guess I wasn't giving him what he felt he deserved. We had several arguments regarding the car. His argument was he felt like he should have 100% use of car since I had it for 8 months prior to him arriving. In the meantime he's dating another woman, did I mention she was our old neighbor when we lived in the city prior to our Atlanta move which was due to him being closer to his children. (have I confused you yet?) Well, back to the story... we continued to date, (unofficially, so he says), have sex, etc. We were basically back to who we were before minus us living together. I didn't see him as often because he had finally gotten him an apartment on the other side of town and we worked opposite shifts. Again, we had never said OK we are officially a couple again but we did all the things that couples do, e.g. date, shop together, do laundry together, look at houses (to live in together), pay bills together etc. So how was I to know that we were not together?
Well, my lease on my apartment was up Jan 31 so I asked him if he would like for me to move in with him Feb 01, 08 so that we could save money, pay down balances on our credit so that we could finally buy a house by the end of his lease, Sept 08. So... I moved in with him and that night he didn't come home. I asked if he had someone several times prior to moving with him and each time he said NO, NO, NO. When I moved in our relationship changed for the worst he finally revealed that he had someone pregnant, yes, the neighbor. I felt like he did me wrong because I could have looked for another apartment or stayed where I was at. He had me waste my time, move all of my things on a lie. But not only was this woman pregnant but she was his WOMAN. We, she and I, finally had a run in. He actually disrespected me and allowed her to come inside the apt and when I arrived he was trying to get her out. I told him that I would leave but that I needed the key to the storage in Atlanta (where our furniture was). He told me no and then explained that he would call the police on me. For what? I'm only coming to where I live. He also proceeded to leave with her. He jumped into her car after she threw him the keys. Out of anger I pushed him and told him he owed me an explanation. It got ugly... he finally jumped out of the car and ran because he said he didn't want to deal with any of us (she and I). Prior to this incident I worked 345-1145pm but when I arrived at home about 1215 on a weekday he was still at her house. His excuse was "she's pregnant, and needed closer". So she needed closer at 1215am?! I finally left and went to a friends house because I have NOOOOOOOO family in this city. My closest family member is 800 miles away. So I was forced to go back because I couldn't afford to rent rooms from night to night and couldn't get another apt right away for the same reason. He finally came back with all of his belongings and proceeded to treat me really bad. Well, that was the beginning of February. I found out that they still continued to talk everyday, when she arrived at work, at lunch, and before she went home from work and sometimes when he was at home alone. He lied, of course, and said that they didn't talk that often and that I was paranoid. I finally showed him proof , detail billing, and he didn't have anything to say but "she needed closer, she's pregnant." The most painful thing about this is he and I were together 5 years and 3 of the 5 I unsuccessfully got pregnant. He officially dated her, out of convenience according to him, 3 months before she got pregnant. Ain't that a slap in the face? She already has 2 teenage daughters (youngest 15 years old.)
I would be lying if I said I didn't love him but where am I to draw the line? I know we weren't officially together when the baby was conceived. But how much she I allow being that she is pregnant? Where should I draw the line as far as how much they talk. I know they have to talk but how often is "too much". By the way she was sleeping with a married man before him and couldn't understand why she was having such a hard time with men.
Tell me your feelings:confused: