Hi,

I believed I met the love of my life. At first all was very intense as one might imagine, but one day things started to cool for her. She told me that her daughter is the centre of her life and her number one priority. She told me that I will have to be patient and that in time she felt we will marry. This struck me to the heart as I am completely in love with her. As time has moved forward she was often too tired to see me and when she did the wonderful physical relationship we have had seems no longer. She tells me that her state of mind is not right at this time and that we need to have conversation to discuss what troubles her. We never seem to have this conversation. When I ask are we all right as a couple, she replies yes and I love you. All the while she will not return phone calls to me and when I do speak to her the conversations are short. My heart tells me that this love affair has ended for her but she doesn’t seem able to tell me. This relationship is breaking my heart and driving me a little crazy.

My question to you is: is she lying to me when she says she loves me, should I get out now before this affair ruins my health? Will this love affair turn toward the good for us both or not?

She could be very well being truthful with you I know my kids took all my time and energy
BUT it is not all that fair for her to keep you dangling in suspension with no idea of how long she expects for you to 'wait'