Ok so I dated this boy for 2 years. We started dating our senior year of high school. He always partied and was with his friends, I actually met him at a party. Well when we met he was instantly obsessed with me but I wanted nothing to do with him. He would always ask me to hang out, call and text my phone nonstop, that kind of thing. So I finally started talking to him and although he is not that attractive he has an awesome personality. He just loved me so much, he would do absolutely anything in the world for me. After about 9 months of being together he went to VT for college for 6 months. We were kind of rocky while he was there but we made it threw. He then came home for a 6 month intership, but at that time I started school. So I would have school 8-4 everyday and he had work like 3-2 a.m. Our schedules conflicted so much and slowly we started drifing apart. I would call and text him and get nothing in response, he would always say he didn't have time, he had things to do. It was like complete role reversal. It went from him being so obsessed with me, to me being completely obsessed with him. During the 6 months that he was home, we fought a lot and at one point he even left me in a restaurant parking lot! I found text messages to girls, they would even text him at 3 a.m. and hed say their just friends. Well after the day in the parking lot I told him I hated him, out of complete anger and I did apologize for it. But he wouldn't hear it, he was done. So we've been broken up for about 3 weeks, and he won't talk to me at all. He says he has no time but yet he has 2 days off a week and he goes out both days. I mean all I'm asking for his a hey what's up and he can't even do that. So one Saturday I went to his house so we could talk, and he got really mad that I showed up, he just keeps calling me psycho. All because I want to talk and not lose the person I love? He smokes pot 5 out of 7 days a week, after work at to a.m. he meets up with his friends and does it too. So it makes me really upset when he says he doesn't have time to talk to me but he has time to smoke pot? Im just in complete shock because I never ever thought hed do this. When we talked he said we could be friends and see where it went from there but he said as of right now he's done. Over the last couple of weeks he's said a lot of hurtful things, like I don't love you anymore, I have no feelings, your annoying, your psycho, your bipolar. I don't know what to do anymore! I've stopped texting and calling, thinking maybe he'll miss me and text me but nothing at all! Its like he deleted me out of his life. I want him back so badly but I don't know what to do anymore, escpecially since he won't even talk to me or see me. He leaves to go back to school in 3 weeks for a year. So my time is limited to make this work. What should I do!

There's nothing you can do, you can make someone be with you if they don't. Stop contacting him and leave him alone. Sometimes people grow apart and want different things. First he was obbesive with you, which is not good and unhealthy, now your obessive with him. Focus on school and your young your meet other guys. Also, why would you want to be bother with him since he is going away to school for a year? It's time to move on and take this as a learning tool.

Find a new person.

Get on with your life and someday he will see what he missed out on. It doesn't sound like you are missing out on anything as far as he is concerned you CAN do better

Ok so I dated this boy for 2 years. We started dating our senior year of high school. He always partied and was with his friends, I actually met him at a party. Well when we met he was instantly obsessed with me but I wanted nothing to do with him. He would always ask me to hang out, call and text my phone nonstop, that kind of thing. So I finally started talking to him and although he is not that attractive he has an awesome personality. He just loved me so much, he would do absolutely anything in the world for me. After about 9 months of being together he went to VT for college for 6 months. We were kind of rocky while he was there but we made it threw. He then came home for a 6 month intership, but at that time I started school. So i would have school 8-4 everyday and he had work like 3-2 a.m. Our schedules conflicted so much and slowly we started drifing apart. I would call and text him and get nothing in response, he would always say he didnt have time, he had things to do. It was like complete role reversal. It went from him being so obsessed with me, to me being completely obsessed with him. During the 6 months that he was home, we fought a lot and at one point he even left me in a resturant parking lot! I found text messages to girls, they would even text him at 3 a.m. and hed say their just friends. Well after the day in the parking lot I told him i hated him, out of complete anger and i did apologize for it. But he wouldnt hear it, he was done. So we've been broken up for about 3 weeks, and he wont talk to me at all. He says he has no time but yet he has 2 days off a week and he goes out both days. i mean all im asking for his a hey whats up and he can't even do that. So one saturday I went to his house so we could talk, and he got really mad that I showed up, he just keeps calling me psycho. All because i want to talk and not lose the person i love? He smokes pot 5 out of 7 days a week, after work at 2 a.m. he meets up with his friends and does it too. So it makes me really upset when he says he doesnt have time to talk to me but he has time to smoke pot? Im just in complete shock because I never ever thought hed do this. When we talked he said we could be friends and see where it went from there but he said as of right now hes done. Over the last couple of weeks hes said a lot of hurtful things, like i dont love you anymore, i have no feelings, your annoying, your psycho, your bipolar. I dont know what to do anymore! i've stopped texting and calling, thinking maybe he'll miss me and text me but nothing at all! Its like he deleted me out of his life. I want him back so badly but i dont know what to do anymore, escpecially since he wont even talk to me or see me. He leaves to go back to school in 3 weeks for a year. So my time is limited to make this work. What should I do!
TELL HIM HOW YOU STILL FELL, by the way why did use brake up??

I've told him how I felt. I've written notes, emails, nothing works. We broke up because we fought too much over stupid things. They were fights that could have been completely avoided. I went to a palm reader the other day, I know kind of stupid, but the first thing out of her mouth was that I suffered a lot of heartbreak recently and that the one that broke my heart is the one I will marry. Like I don't believe in stuff like that but its just so weird, and she said hed be going away shortly. She also gave me his initials.

HARSHNESS ALERT: Defcon 1

He's not too busy to answer your texts, he doesn't want to answer them. You bother him.

He's not waiting for you to figure out the special trick to prove you care for him. He knows. And you bother him.

He's not mad you show up and keep trying to see him because he's embarrassed by his feelings for you or is confused in any way. He's mad because you bother him.

He doesn't say "I don't love you", "You're psycho/bipolar", or "You're annoying" because he wants to teach you a lesson or help you get better. He says those things because you bother him, continuously.

You really don't seem to be paying attention. He knows you like him, we know you like him, EVERYONE knows you like him. And he's NOT INTERESTED anymore. Can you grasp that?

When the movie is over, you stand up and leave the theater. It's over. Go home. Time for a new movie.