I met this girl about a year ago in college and we hit it off. We got to know each other so well and spent a lot of time together. From the beginning I wanted a reltionship with her, but she was hesitant. Because of this we began to clash. Whenever I pushed she became more and more distant. From there we patched things up and I "calmed down", so to speak. By the end of the school year we decided to try a relationship. The relationship was distant, we live about 2hrs away from each other. And things seemed to be going pretty well. I went and visited her once and we spent the day together. But I could feel that she wasn't all in the relationship. She felt that the time wasn't right, that she couldn't devote herself to me and her personal ambitions as well. That it would have been too much on her plate. I agreed, knowing that we both had to work on ourselves to eventually better our relationship. So we split up. At first I had the impression that we would stay true to one another but just keep our distance, allowing the pressures to be lifted. Then a few weeks later when I tell her how I feel, that I want to be with her and no one else she tells me, "I don't want to lead you on, your a great guy and I really care about you but I don't want to tell you to wait for me, whatever happens, happens." That right there just made me want to throw in the towel. Here I am working to keep things together, for over a year now, and she tell me, "Whatever happens, happens?" I don't know if I should even bother anymore, but I love. Even though it hurts, I can't seem to stop trying.

I want to give it one more shot. Tell her we can do this and not distract each other from our personal goals.

So I guess what Im asking is what should I do and am I wasting my time, love and effort?

I don't think there's much you can do with distance for one, then her hesitance towards it. Give up when love just isn't enough. And that's all I can say. Hope I helped.

My guess is that girl is not really want u, if she want u, she won't say that to u, move on, u will find the right person finally.

Read the stickies on the top of the forum, stop contacting her and start to move on as she already has

Who would want a LDR when they could save themselves the grief?? She was very clear about how she feels, and was really nice about it so... leave her alone!!