Well, my boyfriend is leaving to go to college on August 16th and I don't know if things are going to work out or not. I have been hurt in many past relationships and he swears that he would never do anything to "purposely" hurt me. We are going to be about 70 miles apart, but I'm not sure what to do. I don't want him to feel like he can't live the college life because he has a girlfriend back at home. We have a lot of love for one another and he promises me that everything will work out, but I want what's best for him. However, I want us to still stay together because he means a lot to me and we have been together for about 14 months now. So, I'm just wondering what can I do to ease my mind and make sure that everything is going to be all right? :confused:

A little confused,
Anne

Hello Anne,

I am afraid you are not the first, and you won't be the last to suffer this dilemma.

If you both feel for each other the way you say, there is every possibility that you will want to remain together for the rest of your lives.

If this is the case, your boyfriend is not only going to college for himself, but for you too. It will give him many more opportunities to have a successful career than not getting a proper education. If you do stay with each other permanently this will benefit you both.

70 miles may seem like an impossible distance but it is not and I am sure there will be many opportunities to see each other.

Try to accept what your boyfriend is doing, be happy for him and tell him so.

There is no longer any barriers to keeping in contact with each other. You have phones, letters, email Instant Messaging and of course computer video links. All a video link needs is a web-cam installed on your PCs. Although you may not be in close physical vicinity of each other you will be able to see and speak to each other virtually whenever you want. I am sure you will both be able to cope until he finishes college.

They say absence makes the heart grow stronger. If this is the case for you both and you really feel that strongly for each other, I have no doubt that being apart from each other will make your bond even stronger.

May I wish your boyfriend the very best at college and hope that he graduates with flying colours.

Cy
(Poseidon)

It's going to be hard, you are going to have to work at it a lot in order to keep it together. Not just you, but both of you together. LDR are incredibly tough and normally don't survive, but trust and communication will help ease the process.