View Full Version : Who do I choose?
babydoll365
Aug 4, 2008, 02:06 PM
I am caught up between 2 different guys, one named Timmy and the other named Sean. Sean is older and a great guy. He loves toys and he acts like such a little boy and truthfully that isn't my type but the fact that he is a good guy, I love him from that. Timmy is younger but acts a bit more mature. He knows me more than Sean does and he is great to me but when it comes to being out in public it's embarresing. He makes big scenes. He also smokes pot and drinks constantly and I don't really like it. There are both things in Sean and Timmy that I don't care for but then again I love them both.
To tell you guys a little about myself, I am somewhat of a player. I love boys and I like to have fun. I love having boyfriends but when I do it brings me down. I like to go out and be able to flirt with whoever I want.
So, there you have my dillema and information about me, what do you think is the best thing for me to do? I really need some help, FAST!! This is killing me. I'm going out of my mind. Any advice or anything would be appreciated. Thank you.
brownes88
Aug 4, 2008, 07:13 PM
I think you need time to chill out a bit, take some time away from them and have a good think about what you really want, at the end of the day it's your choice and you're the only one that knows your heart. Just ask yourself the simple questions, who do you feel most comfortable with, who can you see having a future with? But you said that when you have a boyfriend this brings you down... if that's the case well then you have to ask yourself, do you really want either of them or is it just the company and the "thought" of being with someone? If this is the case you need to let both of them go cause it's not fair on them and at the end of the day it will be you that ends up getting hurt. Anyway good luck, hope I helped a little!
ChihuahuaMomma
Aug 4, 2008, 07:17 PM
If, without being in a relationship with either you cannot choose. Don't. Just stay single, and be friends with the two of them. They both sound like great friends. But from what you are saying, neither sounds like they will be a succuessful relationship.
Why not just date. No boyfriend or girlfriend titles. Just date them both. If your still not sure now why make a decision?
Just like if I couldn't make up my mind on which house to buy yet I just won't make a call on it. I would keep shopping around. Its actually pretty fun shopping around for houses. You get too see all the different versions out there.
My advice, just keep dating and see how it pans out. You may even find a third and fourth guy out there, playa!
ylaira
Aug 4, 2008, 07:48 PM
Don't date both of them and keep on flirtin. Win-win-win
You can date both. The only thing I would say is that you are not exclusive. There is nothing wrong with dating multiple guys. If you feel its comfortable you could let them know who each other are as well. If they truly care about you, they will stay to win your love.
hjpan
Aug 4, 2008, 09:40 PM
You are NOT ready for any relationships at all.
You just admit you're a player... and I dislike players because many of them take actions as in having sex and running away from problems.
Guy finds out he's a dad, he runs off.
Girl finds out she's a mom, she gets abortion.
Why can't people start taking responsibility???
N0help4u
Aug 5, 2008, 06:41 AM
You like qualities about each of them but you do not love or find that either one is right for you so don't date until you find somebody you are really into. There is nothing saying you HAVE to have a boyfriend so don't