WGY373
Aug 4, 2008, 01:31 PM
We've been together for almost a year. So he took me around the country to meet his family, and extended family, they were all super nice and they all loved me as well, so that made me happy. And then another weekend we went to Texas for one of his friend's weddings and I met all of his high school friends. Oh and he told his grandma, aunts, uncles cousins mom dad brother and sister that he was going to marry me.
A few weeks later, I was frustrated with him and went home for a weekend, and he didn't call until Sunday.
And when he called he was really aggressive and mean and said I was acting like a 9 year old child, so then I was frustrated and said that maybe we shouldn't be together and he said outstanding. So then he picked me up and drove me to my apartment, and I thought we were going to work things out, but he said he didn't think he could do this because we want different things and think different ways.
It's pretty much because I've said that I want a big house to decorate with a library, and I want to go on vacations, and he wants a small house, doesn't want to go on vacation, and feels he would be miserable forever if he compromised with me.
So then I was really upset, because I love him and I want to be with him ,and all he keeps saying is "I'm sorry I'm not at your level, i'm sorry I don't feel the way you do", and my personal favorite " I know I'm supposed to be the man and fight for you, but I don't think I want to". What a sweetheart. So then I was super upset and hysterical, which was probably the wrong way to be. I called the day after and sent him two texts and he ignored me all day until he was about to go out with his friends, and then called to say he was really busy and hasn't changed his mind.
So then I sent him an email, and he promised he would call when he got home, but he didn't call for 24 hours, so I ignored his call. He left a voicemail and said he drank too much to call me (but not too much to drive home) and that he was on his way to go drinking again. And then he called me once yesterday, but no voicemail and I didn't answer.
I feel like if he had something good to say to me he wouldn't call once and forget about it, he doesn't want to try, he doesn't want to compromise, and I think that's what hurts the most. He was going to propose before the year was up, and I just don't understand how you could change your mind like that. And he's so final about everything. We would spend a lot of time together, almost every day and almost every night, so maybe he felt claustrophobic, but I wish he would have just said I need some space versus this will never work because I can't give you what you want.
So we haven't spoken in about a week, and I'm about to go donate all the things he left at my house, but I keep hoping he'll call or come over and apologize and we'll work things out... does anyone think he'll come back? Should I wait?
A few weeks later, I was frustrated with him and went home for a weekend, and he didn't call until Sunday.
And when he called he was really aggressive and mean and said I was acting like a 9 year old child, so then I was frustrated and said that maybe we shouldn't be together and he said outstanding. So then he picked me up and drove me to my apartment, and I thought we were going to work things out, but he said he didn't think he could do this because we want different things and think different ways.
It's pretty much because I've said that I want a big house to decorate with a library, and I want to go on vacations, and he wants a small house, doesn't want to go on vacation, and feels he would be miserable forever if he compromised with me.
So then I was really upset, because I love him and I want to be with him ,and all he keeps saying is "I'm sorry I'm not at your level, i'm sorry I don't feel the way you do", and my personal favorite " I know I'm supposed to be the man and fight for you, but I don't think I want to". What a sweetheart. So then I was super upset and hysterical, which was probably the wrong way to be. I called the day after and sent him two texts and he ignored me all day until he was about to go out with his friends, and then called to say he was really busy and hasn't changed his mind.
So then I sent him an email, and he promised he would call when he got home, but he didn't call for 24 hours, so I ignored his call. He left a voicemail and said he drank too much to call me (but not too much to drive home) and that he was on his way to go drinking again. And then he called me once yesterday, but no voicemail and I didn't answer.
I feel like if he had something good to say to me he wouldn't call once and forget about it, he doesn't want to try, he doesn't want to compromise, and I think that's what hurts the most. He was going to propose before the year was up, and I just don't understand how you could change your mind like that. And he's so final about everything. We would spend a lot of time together, almost every day and almost every night, so maybe he felt claustrophobic, but I wish he would have just said I need some space versus this will never work because I can't give you what you want.
So we haven't spoken in about a week, and I'm about to go donate all the things he left at my house, but I keep hoping he'll call or come over and apologize and we'll work things out... does anyone think he'll come back? Should I wait?