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Lollypops
Aug 4, 2008, 10:17 AM
How long after you meet up with an old friend = the next day you thank him that you had a good time, and maybe we could do it again sometime responds with
Yes. I enjoyed it too. Sometime again would be great. When would you think you should hear from that person again?

Just curious?

Thanks in advance...

plonak
Aug 4, 2008, 10:21 AM
Depends.. every situation is different.. I suggest you give it several days and if he doesn't send you a text or anything, suggest hanging out, but be specific like "hey would you like to meet for coffee when you're available?" if he doesn't respond to that, then I think he isn't interested.

Lollypops
Aug 5, 2008, 08:06 AM
It's been since Thursday that he wrote to me. How long should I give it?

plonak
Aug 5, 2008, 09:47 AM
Do it today. It's been 5 days.. but after this, if you don't get any response just leave it

Lollypops
Aug 6, 2008, 07:00 AM
HI - I was going to email him, but I figure that the ball is in his court. He knows how to get in touch with me. So, my rule of thumb is if they like you, they'll call you... If not, the heck with him. It will be his loss.

brownes88
Aug 7, 2008, 01:26 AM
Maybe... but he could be thinking the same as you, I was thinking that too. So after 4 days and hadn't heard anything I texted him and got a reply so were going out this Saturday so never wait for the other person in my opinion - if you want something don't be scared to go after it and what the hell you only live once, if he doesn't reply well then the hell with him! Good luck! :-)

Lollypops
Aug 7, 2008, 04:20 AM
I understand what your saying, but in my case this is not someone I've just met. He has been a friend for a while, hung out as friends, I got him through a difficult time, we parted on unfriendly terms because I was seeing someone else and he wanted me then. The only reason that we went our separate ways was because his now ex-girlfriend didn't want him to have any communication with any of his "girl" friends, especially ones that he had deep feeling for. The only reason that we are talking now a days, because after my breakup I contacted him. He was still with the girl so we only kept it brief conversation. I saw him about 1 1/2 ago, but again he is with her. Now, in May he contacted me (he is not with her any longer), asking me how things were going, at that time, my father was very ill and my focus was on that. He checked in periodically, but that was it. Anyway, it was me that said that we worked so close by that we should go to lunch. He said that with his work schedule - dinner would be better. We went out last Wednesday. It was so good to see him, we had fun and felt like we picked up were we left off. The next day, I emailed him telling him I had a good time and we so do it again. He resonded with "Thanks for coming out. It was good to see you and your parents. Yes. I enjoyed it too. Sometime again would be great." Well, I have not heard from him and feel that since he is the one coming off a relationship, its his move. Does this make sense and do you understand a little bit better as to why I want him to pursue me?