Superman1992
Aug 4, 2008, 08:19 AM
Me and my girlfriend are both christian, and we meet though teaching Sunday school together.
At the beginning, I have never think she would ever be my girlfriend, and that goes same for her too.
However, as time past, we both getting strong feeling together, and eventually we been together.
At the beginning of our relationship it is very happy, that we care, share, help and support one another, in our daily living, as well bible study and pray.
She have already meet my parent and family, they get along very well together. However, when her parent first know about our relationship, her parent wanted my date of birth, and then they use it to work out, are me match with their daughter (Due to her family are non-christian). Because my date of birth isn't the match one for their daughter, they went mad and angry about us being together. During that time, my girl friend have fight back and try get them to talk to me, meet me, before blindly judge me without even know me, talk to me or meet me.
However, her mum have a serious illness and require to do operation, but because she dislike our relationship, she use death to force her daughty to leave me. However, my girlfriend have not give up, because she really love me. But instead of telling her, my girlfriend lie to her parent saying we have not been together.
After 2 years of the relationships, we been very well together, we been though lots of problems, and I help her a lot for almost anything you can think of, such as emotional, physical problems. I help her and support her for her study, help her to get good result, as well as when she is lonely and unable to settle in new university, I help her go though the hard time, help her making friends and settle, as well as being there for her everyday to support her and let her not feel lonely.
However, because of this, I also lost my friends, because I spend most of my time to be with her, to let her feel not alone. (she also don't like to hang around with my friends, so I have to choose)
This is when the problem first start when she begin of her new course in study. In her new course, she meet a spanish class mate. This boy know she have a boy friend, however he does a lot of things to get her to have a date, flirt with her. Because of this, my girlfriend's heart cannot resist temptation (because everything me and her do is church, pray, normal settle life, not anything like clubbing, drinking, partying madly etc).
Because I am a very normal person, who go to church every week, pray, going to fellowship, shopping, watch movie, doing sports, but never do anything like street racing, sex, clubbing.
Due to lack of what she called excitement, her heart lost faith on our relationship and god. Because I always told her, our relationship together isn't build upon on us, is build upon on god.
Therefore one day, she decide to go holiday alone with this spanish boy for a week, while she lie to me saying she want to be holiday alone and be independent.
After I find out, what happen, I was very upsad, because my girlfriend have been cheated on me, and still cannot make her decision that she want to be with me or the spanish boy.
After I give her time to think, at the day of the christmas eve party, while I help her cooking, we been talking, suddently we been start talk about our problems, our happy moment , etc.
That's when the magic appear, she suddently feel very upsad, and say sorry to me for the first time of what she have done to me, that she don't want to hurt me.
From then, we been togther up to now. Everything seem to be well and good, but... thats isn't right, that's where the problem start. Even we been together, her behaviour or reaction towards me is always seem try to avoid me, she get easy angry with me and simply command me to do that and that, buy me that and that. Because of this, we been sit down and discuss what happen.
After a long periods of try to get her speak, she told me she have a issues. I ask her what is the matter? Everything is already settle and solve, it shall be the start of our happies time, with no worry , etc.
She told me, there is 2 issues, one her family did not accept me and she lost faith towards god. That's why she start skipping church and fellowship recently with exceries of being tried from work. The second issues she told me is that, due to her have been cheated on me in the past, her heart have changed and cannot back to what we use to be.
I asked her, do you still love me, care me? She answer yes very fast. Then I told her, we can spend some time work things out. As for her parent, I know its not going to be easy, but if you have faith on god, things can be turn out good, just matter of time.
But then, she say you are a very good person, being done more than a boyfriend can be do and you are the most trust person in my life. However, I need time solve out the problems. During that times, I want to be single, doing things that you never image I can do, meeting other boy, doing crazy things. But I want you to wait for me, after she been though and find out if she still want me, then we shall marry. In the mean time, she say she want to be friend with me, but while want me to do what I use to do to care her love her like I still the boyfriend.
But I told her, if you plan to do this, things cannot be like that, I cannot still like a boyfriend who do things that boyfriend do, as well I don't like to be a backup lover, not something that if you need me, use me, then left at one side.
Then she told me, in that case we stay together then. However, even we stay together, she still seem distance from me and keep remind me that what she say about being single is real.
I am very upsad on this, been though the crying, sorrow path, but... I just confuse. I can't really make up decision. Been talk to my friends, my friends all told me to dump her, she just use me and its not worth it.
I hope someone could give me advices on what shall I do, what's the correct judgenment on it, as my will and wisedom are very confuse, and cannot make up any judgenment on what is right things to do now.
Because, sometime she been very nice to me, when she know I was unhappy, but in the other side, she say things or do things that keep distance from me, while say good words to me, like love u, want to be together.
I really don't know what to do, we been together for 4 years now, forgetting her and move one isn't going to be easy.
At the beginning, I have never think she would ever be my girlfriend, and that goes same for her too.
However, as time past, we both getting strong feeling together, and eventually we been together.
At the beginning of our relationship it is very happy, that we care, share, help and support one another, in our daily living, as well bible study and pray.
She have already meet my parent and family, they get along very well together. However, when her parent first know about our relationship, her parent wanted my date of birth, and then they use it to work out, are me match with their daughter (Due to her family are non-christian). Because my date of birth isn't the match one for their daughter, they went mad and angry about us being together. During that time, my girl friend have fight back and try get them to talk to me, meet me, before blindly judge me without even know me, talk to me or meet me.
However, her mum have a serious illness and require to do operation, but because she dislike our relationship, she use death to force her daughty to leave me. However, my girlfriend have not give up, because she really love me. But instead of telling her, my girlfriend lie to her parent saying we have not been together.
After 2 years of the relationships, we been very well together, we been though lots of problems, and I help her a lot for almost anything you can think of, such as emotional, physical problems. I help her and support her for her study, help her to get good result, as well as when she is lonely and unable to settle in new university, I help her go though the hard time, help her making friends and settle, as well as being there for her everyday to support her and let her not feel lonely.
However, because of this, I also lost my friends, because I spend most of my time to be with her, to let her feel not alone. (she also don't like to hang around with my friends, so I have to choose)
This is when the problem first start when she begin of her new course in study. In her new course, she meet a spanish class mate. This boy know she have a boy friend, however he does a lot of things to get her to have a date, flirt with her. Because of this, my girlfriend's heart cannot resist temptation (because everything me and her do is church, pray, normal settle life, not anything like clubbing, drinking, partying madly etc).
Because I am a very normal person, who go to church every week, pray, going to fellowship, shopping, watch movie, doing sports, but never do anything like street racing, sex, clubbing.
Due to lack of what she called excitement, her heart lost faith on our relationship and god. Because I always told her, our relationship together isn't build upon on us, is build upon on god.
Therefore one day, she decide to go holiday alone with this spanish boy for a week, while she lie to me saying she want to be holiday alone and be independent.
After I find out, what happen, I was very upsad, because my girlfriend have been cheated on me, and still cannot make her decision that she want to be with me or the spanish boy.
After I give her time to think, at the day of the christmas eve party, while I help her cooking, we been talking, suddently we been start talk about our problems, our happy moment , etc.
That's when the magic appear, she suddently feel very upsad, and say sorry to me for the first time of what she have done to me, that she don't want to hurt me.
From then, we been togther up to now. Everything seem to be well and good, but... thats isn't right, that's where the problem start. Even we been together, her behaviour or reaction towards me is always seem try to avoid me, she get easy angry with me and simply command me to do that and that, buy me that and that. Because of this, we been sit down and discuss what happen.
After a long periods of try to get her speak, she told me she have a issues. I ask her what is the matter? Everything is already settle and solve, it shall be the start of our happies time, with no worry , etc.
She told me, there is 2 issues, one her family did not accept me and she lost faith towards god. That's why she start skipping church and fellowship recently with exceries of being tried from work. The second issues she told me is that, due to her have been cheated on me in the past, her heart have changed and cannot back to what we use to be.
I asked her, do you still love me, care me? She answer yes very fast. Then I told her, we can spend some time work things out. As for her parent, I know its not going to be easy, but if you have faith on god, things can be turn out good, just matter of time.
But then, she say you are a very good person, being done more than a boyfriend can be do and you are the most trust person in my life. However, I need time solve out the problems. During that times, I want to be single, doing things that you never image I can do, meeting other boy, doing crazy things. But I want you to wait for me, after she been though and find out if she still want me, then we shall marry. In the mean time, she say she want to be friend with me, but while want me to do what I use to do to care her love her like I still the boyfriend.
But I told her, if you plan to do this, things cannot be like that, I cannot still like a boyfriend who do things that boyfriend do, as well I don't like to be a backup lover, not something that if you need me, use me, then left at one side.
Then she told me, in that case we stay together then. However, even we stay together, she still seem distance from me and keep remind me that what she say about being single is real.
I am very upsad on this, been though the crying, sorrow path, but... I just confuse. I can't really make up decision. Been talk to my friends, my friends all told me to dump her, she just use me and its not worth it.
I hope someone could give me advices on what shall I do, what's the correct judgenment on it, as my will and wisedom are very confuse, and cannot make up any judgenment on what is right things to do now.
Because, sometime she been very nice to me, when she know I was unhappy, but in the other side, she say things or do things that keep distance from me, while say good words to me, like love u, want to be together.
I really don't know what to do, we been together for 4 years now, forgetting her and move one isn't going to be easy.