Hebe Ting
Aug 3, 2008, 12:15 PM
I've been dating a western guy for nearly 2 years.
I wasn't born in a western country so I knew from the very beginning that some cultural gap would influence our relationship.
Till now, other things are fine except the financial problems.
In my culture, guys are supposed to pay much more than women. Especially in a relationship, guys are supposed to pay the bigger part.
I know I should not judge him totally according to my standards. But some of his behaviour is becoming unacceptable for me. So I hope some western girls can help me with the question to give him a fair judge.
I am still doing my master degree and he's been working for 3 years.
But when it comes to our Bdays, what he gave me is always a disappointment.Things like towels, cheap earings or necklace that turn black when you wear it more than one month. What I give him were some designer clothes or accessories even it cost me a large fortune.
And his reason was I paid AIR TICKETS or TRAIN TICKETS to see you!
He RARELY propose me to a dinner. It is always ME propose to have a dinner or drinks and he is always slow in payment. So many times it was me paying the bill.
When we start living together, what he likes to do is STAYING AT HOME, when we do some groceries at the supermarket, he does not want ANYTHING even he knows that there is nothing in the fridge!
Recently, we took a travel to another country and at the station he told me that his credit card was denied by the machine. So I said okay I still have mine.And the rest of the days he just let me pay for EVERYTHING!
He still can get some cash from the machine using his debit card but he didn't and finally he felt guilty maybe seeing me spend too much money, he FINALLY went to the cash machine and took out some money and it was only 20 POUNDS! The 20 pounds were not enough for our dinner and I had to take out another 15 pounds to pay the bill.
I was really disappointed after that travel.
Lots of my friends coming from my country told me to leave him. But I still want to hear something from his culture.
Thanks.
I wasn't born in a western country so I knew from the very beginning that some cultural gap would influence our relationship.
Till now, other things are fine except the financial problems.
In my culture, guys are supposed to pay much more than women. Especially in a relationship, guys are supposed to pay the bigger part.
I know I should not judge him totally according to my standards. But some of his behaviour is becoming unacceptable for me. So I hope some western girls can help me with the question to give him a fair judge.
I am still doing my master degree and he's been working for 3 years.
But when it comes to our Bdays, what he gave me is always a disappointment.Things like towels, cheap earings or necklace that turn black when you wear it more than one month. What I give him were some designer clothes or accessories even it cost me a large fortune.
And his reason was I paid AIR TICKETS or TRAIN TICKETS to see you!
He RARELY propose me to a dinner. It is always ME propose to have a dinner or drinks and he is always slow in payment. So many times it was me paying the bill.
When we start living together, what he likes to do is STAYING AT HOME, when we do some groceries at the supermarket, he does not want ANYTHING even he knows that there is nothing in the fridge!
Recently, we took a travel to another country and at the station he told me that his credit card was denied by the machine. So I said okay I still have mine.And the rest of the days he just let me pay for EVERYTHING!
He still can get some cash from the machine using his debit card but he didn't and finally he felt guilty maybe seeing me spend too much money, he FINALLY went to the cash machine and took out some money and it was only 20 POUNDS! The 20 pounds were not enough for our dinner and I had to take out another 15 pounds to pay the bill.
I was really disappointed after that travel.
Lots of my friends coming from my country told me to leave him. But I still want to hear something from his culture.
Thanks.