Husband in debt due to sending money abroad to someone,
And seems to be addicted to loans.
Which I say no.
But would like advice how to get out of it.
With or without him.
We do have kids.
20, 18 and 15 all boys.
Thought they always got on with him more then me.
Which is why I put up with it.
As now been told he will never get out of it.
He goes on internet and phone and sends money to Nigeria.
And even went to Amerterdam. He told me was work ( he works for the royal mail),
And asked my eldest to pay for him to come back, he gave a for what kids said £5,000
And got a euro cheque back which surprise was rejected by bank.
And kids added together £13,000 he sent in western union transfers.
I would like to know ways to stop this?
I was hoping to leave it until kids got older then left him.
But getting bad.
We had to attend court because he did not pay mortgage.
We had a remorgage too which was going the same way.
Also he told everyone not to answer the phone.
All seems to work around the PC (a Sarah and phone)
Wish , Wish someone can give advice.
Know seems bizarre but all is true

Doesn't he realize that if it was legitimate he would be making money not going in debt.
He is creating his own problems he needs to take full responsibility for them NOT you or your kids. As long as they give him money he is not going to see the need to stop and will just go further in debt so none of you should be enabling him.
I'd get away from him and break all ties especially getting your name off any joint bank accts and whatever you can. He is heading you to homeless.