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jocshi23
Jul 29, 2008, 09:06 PM
Hi everyone its me again! :) All right this question is about Inerracial Dating, is for everyone, I just want to know how people in this world really feel about interracial dating? I'm in one and I don't see why so many people disapprove of it when more and more of the younger generation is mixed with something.Also who do you think disapproves of it more male or female or do you think its about the same? I would really like to hear what people think. Thanks!!

flash84x
Jul 29, 2008, 09:17 PM
I don't see anything wrong with it, the only question that has crossed my mind with interracial dating is her family, I mean its an entirely different culture usually so it might be hard to fit into family gatherings

KissMe10der
Jul 29, 2008, 09:21 PM
Ok, Im not racist. And I have no problem with others doing it.

But, personally. Im just not attracted to different races. It has a lot to do with how I grew up too... A town, that doesn't have a variety of races.

Even some of my nonwhite friends say they have a hard time dating anyone who isn't white. Its weird.

Always_helping
Jul 29, 2008, 09:27 PM
hi everyone its me agian!!:) Alright this question is about Inerracial Dating, is for everyone, i just want to know how people in this world really feel about interracial dating? I'm in one and i don't see why so many people disapprove of it when more and more of the younger generation is mixed with something.Also who do you think disapproves of it more male or female or do you think its about the same? I would really like to hear what people think. thanks!!!
Question being essentially: How do *I* feel about interracial dating? I don't see a problem with it... I think this is mainly because I grew up seeing many different races dating each other (I grew up in So. California). I never saw it as "interracial" until I got older and was made aware of what some people referred to it as.

Peace.

jocshi23
Jul 29, 2008, 09:29 PM
i dont see anything wrong with it, the only question that has crossed my mind with interracial dating is her family, i mean its an entirely different culture usually so it might be hard to fit into family gatherings

It is hard take but its very interesting to find how much fun you can have with someone as a friend or lover of a different race. You also can learn a lot about someone from a different culture then you would otherwise.

jocshi23
Jul 29, 2008, 09:33 PM
Question being essentially: How do *I* feel about interracial dating? I don't see a problem with it...I think this is mainly because I grew up seeing many different races dating each other (I grew up in So. California). I never saw it as "interracial" until I got older and was made aware of what some people referred to it as.

Peace.

When I was young I didn't know anything about another race until I moved from the contry.
I'm glad I moved!! lol

Rabbit91
Jul 29, 2008, 09:49 PM
hi everyone its me agian!!:) Alright this question is about Inerracial Dating, is for everyone, i just want to know how people in this world really feel about interracial dating? I'm in one and i don't see why so many people disapprove of it when more and more of the younger generation is mixed with something.Also who do you think disapproves of it more male or female or do you think its about the same? I would really like to hear what people think. thanks!!!

I think its great :)

It shows that other races can get along. There should be more people dating other races. I have dated black's and asians before (me being white).

KissMe10der
Jul 29, 2008, 09:56 PM
I have tried dating a black man. But he went and spoiled it for me! He wouldn't take no for an answer.. forcing me to kiss him. He was kind of stalkerish.

NOT SAYING all Black men are the same! Just he went and spoiled me chance to branch out there.

ISneezeFunny
Jul 29, 2008, 09:57 PM
I'm an equal opportunity dater.

I'm asian... I've dated black, white, asians, indians, italians, persians, samoans, etc.

Personally, I think it matters very little.

N0help4u
Jul 29, 2008, 10:57 PM
I say if he don't beat on you and he don't cheat on you it doesn't matter what color he is.
It is hard to find somebody decent nowadays so if you have to find someone outside of your race to be happy with then it is better than someone that is not going to treat you right but is your same race.

Clough
Jul 29, 2008, 11:03 PM
I have no problem with it and also think that it's great! People are just people and not to be judged by the color of their skin. How they act though, is another matter entirely...

LadyLongitude
Jul 31, 2008, 01:15 PM
I think the only thing wrong with interracial dating is that there isn't enough of it! Im white and come from a home town of all white people with no diversity. When I went away to school that all changed. I have grown up and learned so much from different races. I am physically drawn to people who look completely opposite me, preferably black and Spanish. I told my parents and family to not be shocked when I come home one day with someone who looks nothing like me. I know that when it comes down to it as long as a person loves you and respects you it doesn't matter what color their skin is or how much different they look from you, what matters is that they treat you right!

DrJ
Jul 31, 2008, 01:25 PM
Why would there be something wrong with it?

Ignorance breeds ignorance.

You shouldn't make decisions in your life based on what others may think about them.

aliciag940
Jul 31, 2008, 02:24 PM
Personally, I find nothing wrong with it. It doesn't matter what color a person is, it matters how they treat you. Nobody is better or worse than anyone else just because of the color of their skin.

Like another poster said above, if nothing else, you learn so much about other cultures and things!

N0help4u
Jul 31, 2008, 02:54 PM
The problem isn't with inner racial dating the problem is with the sick people that give you evil looks or even come right out with their evil mouth when they see an inner racial couple
If they are happy with each other then more power to them they may have found a truer love than the one that is judging them by appearance.

Fr_Chuck
Jul 31, 2008, 03:24 PM
You did not say what races are involved, but you will find that you will have issues, poor service in some business, you will have older people stare at you at times, In a fast food line the other will be ask, can we help you also. If one of the members are black, you can expect certain black groups to consider them a traitor to their race, and the same with some white groups.

And if you have a chlld, they may have all of those problems of not fully being accepted in either group at times.

ISneezeFunny
Jul 31, 2008, 03:37 PM
I agree with n0help and fr_chuck...

I dated a Indian girl for some time... and whenever we went to an asian restaurant, I could tell people were talking about us...

And whenever we went to some indian festival or wedding, no one would really talk to us.

simoneaugie
Jul 31, 2008, 04:11 PM
At one of the places I worked there were a few people who would not accept food served by a black person. These few, bigots, they were called will not answer this post. It encompasses not accepting food, to making disparaging remarks, to staring at mixed couples, disdaining "mixed" children to ostracizing mixed race couples.

We are all human. To say that only certain people should breed is saying that there are superior and inferior races. Donkeys are not superior to horses or vice versa. Mules, (half donkey half horse) are born sterile. Are they less than living beings?

Fr_Chuck
Jul 31, 2008, 04:16 PM
I am not saying there is anything wrong with it, but I will stand that it is not easy, and couples have enough problems already but they need to know what can and will happen. When a aunt will not come to the wedding and calls your new wife a racial name. Or you end up having to move because of problems with neighbors.

ylaira
Jul 31, 2008, 04:47 PM
It matters when cultural differences comes in and nobody wants give in.

LadyLongitude
Aug 1, 2008, 07:27 AM
For all the posts saying its going to be hard to be in a interracial relationship because of this, this and this, there are many things in life that are hard and are not accepted. But just because they are not accepted right now does not mean it will always be that way. And just because people may react so negatively to this type of relationship does not mean that it should never go on. I give a lot of credit to people who are in interracial relationships, it shows two people who are strong and who are willing to focus on their love, not the hate and ignorance of others around them.

N0help4u
Aug 1, 2008, 07:30 AM
For all the posts saying its going to be hard to be in a interracial relationship because of this, this and this, there are many things in life that are hard and are not accepted. But just because they are not accepted right now does not mean it will always be that way. And just because people may react so negatively to this type of relationship does not mean that it should never go on. I give alot of credit to people who are in interracial relationships, it shows two people who are strong and who are willing to focus on their love, not the hate and ignorance of others around them.

I agree and the ones saying it is hard IS from personal experience.
I always saw racism as primarily a white guy thing but being with my boyfriend
He takes me to hear bands and the black girls say to him ''why you with a pink toed girl?''

jocshi23
Aug 1, 2008, 10:33 AM
Well as you know I'm the one that post this Question and the reason that I did is because not a lot people would consider this as a BIG problem that we have in the world today. Most people would say "who cares it don't effect me" or " why are talking about this it don't matter to me", but the truth of the matter is it does matter but everyone that has left a post is the kind of stuff I wanted to hear. Now a days with the younger generation a lot of kids are mixed. I'm seeing more and more mixed kids (of any color). That the reason we need to talk about it cause the kids are our future and we need to let them know that its okay to date out your race or even have friends that are of different color. Now I have 3 kids 1 is mexican and white (I'm white and mexican) and the other two are black and white. My oldest daughter (mexican) dad told her not to like black people and she goes to school where half of her kids in the class are black as well as her sisters. She was playing with a black babydoll and she told me that her dad would be mad at her if he caught he playing with it. I called him and told him don't be feeding my daughter that stuff because she will not grow to learn to hate her sisters or any other race. I't one thing that the grown folks are racist but that's where we ked up. We don't have to make that mistake with the next generation. We now can change the world we just have to start with our Future the KIDS.

N0help4u
Aug 1, 2008, 10:40 AM
In my city Pittsburgh Pa white girls have been going for black guys for over 15 years.
Often many of the teen white girls are doing it for all the wrong reasons--like they are obsessed with the bad boy 'hood rapper dude image.

As common as it is there are still people who you can tell are uncomfortable with seeing a mixed couple. On the other hand in the past 7 years I have been seeing more and more grandma's pushing the strollers of their mixed grand baby.

jocshi23
Aug 1, 2008, 11:21 AM
See that's what talking about!! :-)

Fr_Chuck
Aug 1, 2008, 11:35 AM
Not saying people should not but I talk from experience, my wife is black and I am white, what I am saying is marriage and relationships are very hard with everything else perfect in them. The added issues are at times just more stress and problems that people are not even considering..

jjwoodhull
Aug 1, 2008, 11:42 AM
It's kind of amazing that in this day it IS still an issue. When are we going to learn to see people for who they are? I am white. I have had boyfriends that are white, hispanic and black. If you can find love, good for you. Who cares what anyone else thinks.

As an added plus, when you open your heart and mind to new ideas and cultures it is always an opportunity to grow.

MsMewiththat
Aug 1, 2008, 11:52 AM
I would agree with Fr_Chuck and I believe how you feel about it has a lot to do with what generation you are coming from. There are so many reasons out there as to why people do it. Some are for the right reason, some for the wrong reason. With any relationship you have to be ready to fight the fight, if you are in it for the wrong reason it makes it harder. I have issue with brothers leaning on white womene to avoid taking responsibility for themselves. I have issue with young white women dating because they want to upset the home life or "be bad". I myself was adopted into a multi racial family when I was a baby, I am the only black, but there are many different cultures in my family and I love it. However, my true feeling is that I have issue with people faking it in this world and being in relationships for the wrong reason or any relationship that feelings aren't geniune.

tolerance
Aug 1, 2008, 12:03 PM
I am of a mixed race half Jamican and Itialn and my boyfriend is Irish. I see nothing wrong with it. It up to the person who they daye and who they want to be with. As long as that person treats you right, who cares, but some do. My boyfriend family is racist, I think because once they found out I was pregnant by him, I saw their true colors. I'm okay to date but they want us to have kids together because I believe they don't want any black people in their family. Little do they know it only made our bond tighter and we're looking to get married in December.

kat17
Dec 14, 2008, 12:03 PM
I'm all for it. I don't think race/religion should be a factor in keeping two people who care about each other apart. I'm a white female and never dated outside my race until recently. I met a wonderful guy and was instantly attracted to him. Race wasn't even a factor for me. I'm enjoying his company and our time together. To be honest, if he asked me to marry him, I'd say YES!!

AManWithNoName
Dec 14, 2008, 12:06 PM
I'm the outcome of interatiol dating, so I don't really care

kaj675
Dec 30, 2008, 03:16 PM
I've branched out and dated black men for the last 12years well in that 12 years I'm on my 3rd serious relationship. I think it's great. I don't see people for what color they are I see them for who they are as a person. My family is totally redneck racist and I have to keep my life a secret just to keep everyone safe. I don't want anyone to get hurt. I'm in a relationship right now that is so intense that one day I know I'm going have to make a choice between him and my family. I love my parents but if they can't accept it then I'll have have to move on without them and that is the only thing that really hurts me. I wish everyone could just get along. I used to be like them, I grew up in a town that had no other race other than whites. Yes it was a small ranch town in Texas. But it wasn't until I went to college and got hired as a resident advisor in a coed dorm that I actually even carried on a conversation with a black person. And it was then that I figured out that there are good and bad in every crowd. I wish there was more harmony in the world.