My wife and I are potty training our two year old daughter. She does really well and asks to go pee when she needs to. No accidents there. However she refuses to tell us when she needs to poop. She only says something after she went. Any advise?

Perfectly normal my son did this too. It is a control issue

Are you using the pull up diapers? I think they are great at making it easier.

The problem is they make it to easy. Your child would end pooping in her pants if she poops in her undies. The poop will be closer to her skin, smelly and embarrassing. Shell stop real quick. She must have a secret pooping spot . See if you can catch her in the act and take her into the potty. What really helped me was bribery

Actually NoHelp, I have to disagree about the pull ups, at least for me they were a big problem. My kids didn't actually potty train until I took of the pull ups and put on some underwear. Pullups are very much like diapers, they don't really feel the wet like they would in underwear, although I have to say the pullups do save the parents allot of trouble. :)

OP, I had the same problem with my son, he would not poo on the potty, and he was already 4 years old, still pooing in his pants. I ended up doing something that was recommended to me by my sons play school teacher. He pooped, and I left it in his underwear for 1 hour. After that hour he was so uncomfortable he asked for me to take it out, I told him I would this one time, but that he had to use the potty the next time or the poo would stay in his underwear for 2 hours, and so on. It took 3 days and he was trained.

Your child is only 2, so I don't know how well this would work with her. Allot of children have problems with their bowel movements. Does she go at a specific time each day, if so it will be easier for you to catch her before she goes in her pants.

Good luck. :)

Yeah I guess the underwear is better than the pull ups I was thinking as opposed to regular diapers. Many parents I know expect kids to wear regular diapers and tell them when they need to go and the kid can't be bothered most the time.

True, and that doesn't work at all. My daughter was particularly stubborn when it came to potty training. I started with pull ups (even though they didn't work for my son) and 1 year, yes 1 year later I gave up, put her in underwear, and voilà, she was trained in 1 day. :)

She is in panties. She doesn't have a regualar time that she goes poop so that doesn't really help either. Im not sure what to do. She will be 3 in November, why won't she go poop in the potty?

For allot of kids it's a security issue. They want to grow up, be a big kid, yet they still want to be a baby.

Just encourage her, don't get mad when she poops in her pants, but when she goes in the potty go ballistic, jump in the air, Yeah you did it! When it's in her pants just say, "ooh, that's not nice" and then dispose of it and say nothing more. If you stop paying attention to the bad behavior and praise the good, it will work, eventually. :)

Good luck.

Yeah they say the more you make an issue of it or try to push before they are ready actually makes them take longer to learn.

This is perfectly normal. For some reason it takes kids longer to learn the feeling of a bowel movement than it does to urinate.

Just give her time, continue to praise her when she does go, and work on a time schedule, as well as watching for cues... face turning red, etc.

My wife and I are potty training our two year old daughter. She does really well and asks to go pee when she needs to. No accidents there. However she refuses to tell us when she needs to poop. She only says something after she went. Any advise?
Hi I can relate to what your daughter does cause I have three young girls and my three year old did that too (when she was one) she would go pee on the toilet like it was nothing but when she had to go poop she would ethier poop in her pants be bare and do it on the floor.well at first I would get mad but hen I realized every time she did that she was in the same room as me so I bought her a potty chair and took it in any room she was in. I told her that's where she needed to go poopie I know I know that sounds gross but it worked then once her poop started to get a real nasty smell I started to put it in the bathroom and every time she had to go number two she would look for her potty chair and go in it. So after awhile she just started to go in the toilet. Good luck and I do hope it works out for you!!

Yeah. We got her a potty chair of her own but she wasn't liking that idea too much. She would rather be like momma and go in the big potty.

My daughter used to do the same thing in her pull-ups and in her panties. She would pee in the toilet, but poop in her panties. Then one day I picked her up from daycare and she said "mommy, I didn't pee pee in my panties" and I asked her if she went poop in her panties and she said "mommy you told me not to go pee pee in my panties not poo poo." So when I would drop her off at daycare I would tell her "Don't pee or poop in your panties" and she hasn't since. So, maybe try talking to her about it. My daughter never used a potty chair. She used the toilet too. She wanted to be a big girl. LOL

Please do not worry too much. Potty training can take a long time. I think your daughter is doing great. Just kee telling her that she has to tell you when she has poo poo and be patient. Some kids are scared of their poops in the potty. My daughter on the other hand poos in the potty and pees there if we take her but still does not tell us when she has to go! She will be three next week and I am not still worried because kids are different and she will do it soon. I think you just have to be patient.

My son does this too the doctor told me he might not be able to control it and also she might not feel the urge until its too late my son is also afraid of his poop so you might want to ask her doctor the next time you go in there could be lots of different reasons there is one solution try to time when she goes and about 2 to 3 min before its time put her on the toilet until she goes good luck

I started to potty train my son when he was 26 months old because I found out I was pregnant again. He had A lot of accidents at first & about 2 weeks later he was completely trained. He never really pooped in his underwear, I think he must have known it would feel weird or he was scared I don't know really. But I agree with the others that you should definitely not use pull ups. I never used them with my son & I think that's why he picked up on it so quickly. As much work as it would take try watching her CONSTANTLY & try to catch her when she starts to poop. If you take her to the potty as she's pooping & explain this is where you go poop she may pick up on it.
Hope this works.