Hey everyone,
I'm 16 and pretty, I'm not overweight but I think there may be something with my personality because guys always like someone else! I'm a nice person but maybe something might turn them off because the guys I like never really like me? Guys like me but never the ones I like. Its becoming a problem because I've been single for ages and really want a boyfriend. A guy I like is dating one of my best friends and I think they're nearly broken up and I like him but I can't do that to her!

Guys always only like me for a fling or something or hook up but I don't think they are ever looking for a relationship. Is it just me? Or guys in general?

I really need some help and advice.
Thanks

Looks are the first thing people see, but who wants to actually date someone for their looks. Don't be desperate either, which means don't get a boyfriend just for the sake of a boyfriend. Don't do that to your friend. I hate girls like that.

Maybe you come on too strong, just be who you are and relax. Maybe, you are looking into the wrong crowd. Go on dates, have fun get to know these guys. Who knows they could turn into something worth while.

I know guys don't just like people for looks but I just thought I'd say it to show that it can't be my looks turning them off!

hey everyone,
im 17 and really really pretty. i know it sounds vain but it is to help with my question. anyway, im stunning, not overweight but i think there may be something with my personality because guys always like someone else!! i'm a nice person but maybe my humour or something might turn them off because the guys i like never really like me? guys like me but never the ones i like. its becoming a problem because ive been single for ages and realy want a boyfriend. a guy i like is dating one of my best friends and i think they're nearly broken up and i like him but i can't do that to her!

i realy need some help and advice.
thanks
I must say that not all the boys in your age group are ready to have a 17 year old girlfriend. I am not saying what age of guy you should be dating but you may want to take that into consideration.

Also glad you said that you really "want" a boyfriend. If you had said that you really "need" a boyfriend, then I would be really concerned.

Also, another poster mentioned about looking in different places (this is a good strategy).

I wish you the best.

hey everyone,
im 17 and really really pretty. i know it sounds vain but it is to help with my question. anyway, im stunning, not overweight but i think there may be something with my personality because guys always like someone else!! i'm a nice person but maybe my humour or something might turn them off because the guys i like never really like me? guys like me but never the ones i like. its becoming a problem because ive been single for ages and realy want a boyfriend. a guy i like is dating one of my best friends and i think they're nearly broken up and i like him but i can't do that to her!

i realy need some help and advice.
thanks

Aight Hawt girls are HaWt.

Personalites? Hmm..

I can't tell you how many "HaWt girls" I've turned down because their 'mirror was in check' but not their 'personality.'

Don't be mean, be nice/respectful/be fun etc..

Okay, I'm going to give you some advice, but don't be too upset. I have a 21 year old cousin, very pretty, and that's the first thing you notice about her, not because she's prettier than everyone else, but because she constantly lets you know that she's pretty. She'll put down other people, right to their face, saying things like "Oh, I'm allot prettier than you, I like my clothes better, and I definitely have nicer hair, don't you think so? " She doesn't realize that what she's saying is hurtful. Could it be you're doing that?

Talk to your friends, to boys that you know and ask them what they think, tell them to be honest and then accept that honesty.

Good luck.

Oh no! I never go around saying things like that, I know what its like when other people say that and its very annoying and uncomfortable situation when people do that.

Hello, I see that there is many things you need to learn and understand about life, I like to tell you that the first thing that will help you is to learn more about yourself then read as may as you can literature about self-development then start by look in others the best side of life, you are very young now and at 17th. Birthday many things wondering why this and that, read meanningful books on how personality is create and how we can ajust to it and mold the circunstance to be asertive with your pourpose for life.

I'm 16 and my mother thinks we are really close but I find it hard to talk about personal issues including dating. I've dated before but not that she's known about.
My brothers also try to be really protective so that makes it hard. But its really difficult foe me to date and go out with guys and stuff when I'm not allowed to date.
Any advice please?

Advice I can gi ve... talk to your mom about dating and over protective brothers. Do you really feel comfortable dating behind your mom's back? What if something happened and she didn't know ?

Present yourself to your mom as a mature teen. At 16 its not unreasonable to be dating. Let mom set some ground rules like meeting the boys first and where you can go, Gradually, these restrictions can be removed as you prove yourself.

At your age many kids are into the looks, the material and physical things and bypass anything that doesn't live up to their material standards... that is their lose. Like L Invencible said work on you being the best you and one day people will see your true inner beauty.

Talk to your mom she wants to be there for you. She can also probably give you a lot of good advice about girls and women. It doesn't sound like she wants to be so protective of you, she just wants to be cool with you and let you know you can talk to her about anything. Maybe the next time you and your mom hang or go to dinner etc, say something like "ohh that gir;'s cute for me what do u think mom?" break the ice that way, so it's not akward.

If you want your relationship with your Mom and your brothers to be more mature, that takes intentional, uncomfortable work. Left to its own development, your relationships with them will stay the same, Mom will always be a little distant and the brothers will be a little too over-protective.

The only way to change that is on purpose. You'll have to suck it up and push through the awkward to start talking to them about adult topics. Talking to them about things that make them uncomfortable will go badly at first. You'll have to bring it up, let them respond badly, then point out that you NEED them to be more mature and talk about these things with you. You think family is a safe environment and want to be able to discuss adult issues with them, so you need them to do better next time.

It's a little guilt here and there that adjust our behaviors. You standing there telling them you NEED to be able to talk to them about boys and sex and relationships is a NEED you have should get them slowly moving in the right direction.

Give it time, but start the process, and push through the awkward.

Your 16 now, your mother most likely knows that you will soon be or already have dated. Mothers know more than you give them credit for. Approach your mother, and let her know that you value your relationship, and that to be closer you want to be able to tell her personal Things. Perhaps you should start by asking her how she would feel if you did date/have a boyfriend. I hope this helps :)

Your 16.. prime years of dating man! Those are your "puppy love" years.

I would do the same as you are.

First get your mom's permission and talk to her, part of being mature and old enough to date is being able to express and talk and make some harder choices. Sneaking around behind her back is not the way to gain her trust

Your 16.. prime years of dating man! Those are your "puppy love" years.

I would do the same as you are.
Actually I agree with what rabbit saying your just trying to relate to her.

im 16 and my mother thinks we are really close but i find it hard to talk about personal issues including dating. i've dated before but not that she's known about.
my brothers also try to be really protective so that makes it hard. but its really difficult foe me to date and go out with guys and stuff when im not allowed to date.
any advice please?
Well don't tell her anything,find someone that your comfortable talking with.most teennagers find it helpful talking to another adult besides family meember.. do you know anyone?

I was just wondering if guys like girls wearing make-up?
Or how much they like girls to wear?
I'm 16 and a half and curious if if I should stop wearing it as it may be a turn off?
Please help

It's like asking if certain guys like tomatoes.

... really depends on the guy.

Me personally, I like girls with NO makeup. Don't get me wrong, they're beautiful when they do put on makeup... but on a daily basis, I LOVE the natural look.

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I agree with jeremy on this.

Why would you want to do that.. I feel that relationships would work out really well if both sides just laid out their feelings for one another... granted, don't get overly clingy and don't make that person your entire life, but what's wrong with openly sharing emotions?

Take it from a guy... it's REALLY confusing when a guy shows that he's interested in a girl, and she sends mixed signals. Especially since you're 16... guys in high school... they don't understand that girls play games. Sends the guy on an emotional roller coaster... eventually ends up here asking, "I like this girl, but she's playing with my emotions"... then gets advice such as, "Leave her alone. she's not worth it."

Hope that makes sense. If you tell a guy how you feel... it may work out.

Are you ready to take care of managing all the responsibilities and monetary costs of getting pregnant and subsequently having a baby, as well as facing the possible legal consequences, depending on the age of your boyfriend? If not, then I don't think that it would be a good idea for you to be having sex.

Best to be thinking ahead about possible consequences...

I'm sure that others will also be along to address your post. I do wish you well and also the best!

Well, I'm going to save you the trouble and tell you that most of the people on this thread will tell you... to not have sex until you're "physically, emotionally, and financially ready to have a child."

... there, I did it.

With that said, I know most kids aren't going to listen to that... so.. here goes.

You just asked a question on how you can seem mysterious and lead guys on...

... so...

To answer your question... find a neutral ground. I know it's hard being in high school.. sneaking around... etc. but perhaps you two can somehow work out your schedules... so you can perhaps go to a drive in... or rent a motel room... perhaps a friend's house?

Please, please, please... use protection. Be safe. Don't end up being that girl who asks, "can I be pregnant?"

Excellent answer above! Just one more addition by me, and that would be that, you might want to consider whether this guy is the one with whom you would want to spend the rest of your life. If he's not, then why save yourself for the person who will be the one that you just might want to be with the rest of your life and/or be the father of your baby.

I couldn't spread the rep for you so soon, ISneezeFunny. But, did notice that she asked on another thread about how to lead guys on. So, that makes me think that this one guy probably isn't the one who she would consider to be her "one and only."

The first wedding that I ever played for, I was 14, he was 15 and she was 16. Their marriage lasted only a couple of years.

Yeah... I know I'm a bit older... at 22, but the past year or so, I've been to six weddings... all of them of my high school friends. Some of them chose to get married... some of them were shotgun weddings.

Fortunately, they're all still married... but it's a bit sad... seeing them not REALLY living their lives... having to take full time jobs while going to school.. some of them taking night classes at community colleges... some of them that didn't go to college...

Don't have sex until you can afford your own apartment or house, afford to be pregnant (as that's a possibility).

I agree. It is a matter of opinion and preference. I think that girls can make themselves look prettier with a little bit of makeup. However, too much can really be too much. I remember when my daughter was about your age. She "dolled" herself up with a little bit of makeup and looked great! My mother also had a saying when I was a kid and would ask her about her applying makeup to herself. It was, "A little bit of powder and a little bit of paint, makes a ladies freckles look as if they ain't!"

Like it was said before it depends on the guy. But a better question is: Do you like wearing makeup? If so, then do it. Don't change or alter your appearance or who you are for a guy. It WILL backfire.

But to you I say, you are 16, and if you can go natural then DO IT! I have so many freckles, scars, and roscea that natural isn't an option. Love your young skin while you have it!!

I have slightly dark circles under my eyes and freckles as well as the occasional pimple so I wear it and I feel a lot more comfortable wearing it but I'm just worried that people will think I look bad if I was too stop wearing it, but if I wear too much, some people comment on the amount.
I enjoy wearing it, but I am just confused as to what I should do

Do what makes you happy.

I would suggest applying makeup in small amounts. Applying makeup is an art that takes some practice to get really good at it. Since you are young, chances are that you don't need much makeup at all. Getting together with friends and seeing what each other thinks of the makeup job that one of you has done might be something that you could consider doing.

There are a number of sites devoted to the application of make-up. You might want to check some of them out. There are available via the following search.

How to Apply Makeup - Google Search (http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&safe=off&q=How+to+Apply+Makeup&btnG=Search)

I would suggest applying makeup in small amounts.



From a stand point of a 16yr guy I don't mind makeup but never wear too much it just look plain stupid. Don't plasterit around your eye or make your sheck pink, or make your lips glow in the dark, a lot of guys don't like that, a little to just even out the skin or what ever is alwas nice

Check out Welcome to Pursebuzz.com (http://www.pursebuzz.com) I LOVE her makeup! And hair ideas!

What do you think about bare minerals? Just got a set for me ma...

I want to try it, I've tried generic mineral makeup and hated it.

If you get comments on over applying makup but still like wearing it, cut back. Instead of foundation and powder and blush and bronzer, try to skip the full face foundation and only use it to cover individual pimples, etc, and make sure you have the right shade and that it won't clog your already clogged pores. Just apply powder and a little bit of blush (make sure it's not too dark)... (if blush is the first thing you see in the mirror, it's too much. It should be suttle). Do a lip gloss instead of lipstick and lip liner, or even better, just use lip balm (they even have tinted lip balm)... it's usually got spf and moisturizer in it. For eyes, you can skip the eye shadow and just put on mascara. Brown mascara instead of black will make your lashes full without making them dramatic and "over done." Don't use eye liner, or if you do, only put it on your lower lid and taper it to where it ends in the middle of your eye lid rather than going from one side all the way to the other. Brown is more suttle here too. Hope you can decipher all this :-D. Good luck.

If it makes you happy to wear it than you go ahead a wear it... I love the way I feel in make up but my husband tells me I'm beautiful without it... so its your call wear it when YOU want to and don't when YOU don't want to

I'm sixteen as well. All I wear on a daily basis is:
Foundation and/or powder to even out my skin tone.
Black mascara(and of course a lash curler) to make my eyes stand out.

That's how I like my makeup done, and my guy likes it too.

Deferant guys, different prefarances.
Like you've got your Frank Iero from My chem and loves his make up, then you've got someone like Brad Pit how would probably only wear make up when he has too.

Again some guys think less is more on a girl and you see girls with piles of make up and they manage to get a date so.. its really up to you in the end. Be and wear what you want to.

I just want to add:

Be yourself and you'll find someone who loves you for who you are!

I'm 16 and in yr 10. I moved to my current school 3 years ago and loved it. However one of my best friends left last year and school hasn't been enjoyable. The work load is getting harder, I don't like the teachers, and feel less comfortable and less enjoyment from the people and environment. I would normally just tell my mum that I'd want to ove, but I'm on a scholarship and its much cheaper than the regular price. I'm too scared to tell my mum I want to move, becoz it's a dancing school and she has put in so much money and she'll get mad and say I've wasted it all . But I am just not happy and feel as if I need a fresh start. What should I do? I also am scared she might take it more seriously and think I am getting bullied or something because I told her I didn't like a class and she rang up the teacher an I had to have a meeting with her to see what was wrong.
I'm not too open about my emotions with my mum so explaining to her that I'm upset and not happy at the school will be even harder for me!
Please help :(

I'm finding it difficult to like guys and such because in my mind I have this perfect person that I feel as if I could only ever truly love yet no-one fits it. I'm worried that I'll never be happy because my mind and heart are set on this perfect man. Is this normal for someone to feel so determined to be with someone they don't even know is real or really out there?

Its perfectly normal. You feel scared of dating other people in case your perfect man comes along. Well, if you don't date people, yoo may never know who your perfect man is.

I agree with rockerchick. It is good to have an ideal, but don't close yourself off to potential relationships simply because they don't seem to measure up.

I'm not saying go wild and date anyone who asks, but as the old saying goes, "Don't judge a book by its cover" too much and not go out with someone simply because they don't seem like they meet all your qualifications. You never know, they just might!

Don't settle for less then the best, but you may find that over time, your ideal man will change. My ideal man when I was in high school was different from when I was in college. When I was in college, he was different than just out of school... and guess what? It changed again!

Not "changed" persay, just has "evolved" into a different type of man based on the guys that I've known and dated throughout my life.

Having an "ideal man" in mind is fine, but I need to remind you that people are in the process of "becoming". If you will only date/consider candidates that already fit your "ideal man" list, then you may actually miss him because you meet him before he reaches his ideal, then you've moved on when he becomes "that guy"... or something better.

I'm just saying. Better for you all the way around would be to date people for fun, not forever, and honestly evaluate who they are over some time. No snap judgments and certainly not "ideal man" list that disqualifies them before they have a chance to even make their case...

"we should really get together sometime for a movie or coffee sometime"
Is this asking for a date? I'm a girl by the way and this has happened a few times, just wandering in what way a guy is asking for the 'get together'.

I am a guy and I have said something along the lines of getting dinner and a movie sometime thing. I meant it as in I would like to get to know you better. The guy is probably interested in you and wants to know if you are as well, or if there is something possible between you!

I think he is interested but too shy to really ask you out on a date. So he says "lets get together" and then he can see where it goes.

Is someone saying "you're like barbie" or calling you barbie a good thing or not?

It's not a good thing. It basically means that you are superficial and aren't very smart.

I'll admit I've done it and I kind of use it as a way to feel things out. If they don't respond or follow-up then I take it that they aren't interested. If they are interested, then I try to make it very casual and low key. But then I might try asking her to dinner if "coffee or a movie" goes well. So yes, I think he likes you and wants to spend time with you to get to know you better.

That's actually a good thing! It's good to be picky, but not OVERLY picky. Don't ever settle for less than what you deserve. But remember to open your eyes to guys that may not fit your "ideal guy" because opposites do attract, and you can learn so much from dating different types of people.

Definitely a shy cute little way of asking you out ;)

Hi well I've made out before but like two guys hae said that I'm only okay and stuff. Anyway I'm really confused on which direction to move my lips? Like in or out, or f I just move my top or bottom lip or whatever? Please. I need every detail. I know everything about, physical movement, atmosphere, hygiene etc. but just the actual technique. I know people say its just natural and stuff and just depends on the person, but obviously that's not working for me. So please! Desperate advice!

It means he is interested in you. Common sense... he may not be all into you, but he is interested in hanging out with you and getting to know you better for starters.

He may not be shy or anything, and this might be his way of asking you out to a date without beating around the bush its just how you interpret it

I'm not sure what you mean about moving your lips in. people kiss in lots of different ways. Don't worry about it! Who knows why the guys said what they did. Maybe they're insecure about kissing, too. The best thing to do is to be natural and relaxed. If you have a real connection with the person, everything will come together just fine. Personally, I'm not too interested in kisses that feel planned out or forced. If the guy you're going to be kissing is more experienced than you, just follow his lead and go with it. If he doesn't have a lot of experience, he'll probably be feeling just as nervous as you've been feeling. Relax and enjoy it. That's the best way to kiss.

I would like to hear more about this, as I could use a few tips as well...

And I completely know what you mean. "It is just natural" and that kind of stuff DOESN'T HELP!

You could try looking at a few other sites out there for actual tips, like links2love.com. Or just Google it, Google has everything.

Good luck, and I'll be paying attention to this thread myself. :)

Hello again! Think about it this way. When, in the whole history of the world, has anyone had kissing lessons or a whole kissing tutorial to work from? No one gets practice before their first time, and everyone gets nervous. The guys are at least as nervous as you are, believe me. Recommending some searches online was a good idea. I wonder if YouTube has kissing tutorials? Well, it's just a thought, but maybe you have a guy friend you really trust who wants to practice his kissing, too? :) here are some tips: don't be too aggressive, don't try to do crazy acrobatics with your tongue, don't bite, and don't slurp. ;) you'll know the intensity to go with when you're in the moment. The reason it's so hard to tell you *exactly* what to do is that there is no one right way to kiss. If you're relaxed, I swear you'll kiss better. Pay attention to the guy. If he's enjoying himself, you're successful. If you're enjoying it, you're successful. It's much more simple than it looks like, I swear.

Okay! I found some help for you! It's funny, but it's also true. Here we go:

YouTube - How To Kiss Someone Passionately (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ej0p72KvA6I)

YouTube - How To Kiss With Passion (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tCITaAyJR9Y)

I'm not very open about my emotions to many people so I find it difficult to have personal conversations or topics with my mother, but how could I let her agree to let me have a boyfriend? Should I just agree if someone I like asks me out and then tell her I have one? Or talk before I actually go out, the latter worries me as she may say no and then I'll just be put in awkward situations when I get asked out. Help!

My answer will vary depending on your age. Would you mind telling us how old you are?

OP's 16

I'm 16. And what does OP even mean?

OP = original poster.

At 16 you're ready to date. You're parents need to figure this out one way or the other. When I say "assume the basis and build on that", I am saying you need to act like having a boyfriend or going on dates is an assumed good thing. So you don't ask permission.

Instead, you simply talk to your folks about it like you would any other school subject. Calmly, conversationally, asking for input, not permission.

"Mom, I'm starting to really like this nice boy in my English class. He seems pretty sweet. How did you figure out which guys were worth going out with and which weren't?" Her answer doesn't really matter, but you may learn something so listen attentively.

"What about first dates? I think I like this guy, but you know how boys are, I want to keep things safe and fun. What do you suggest?"

"Mom, I'm going to the Sadie Hawkins dance with Johnny. Do you think we should get dinner before or after the dance?"

See, you're not asking IF you can do these things, you already assume you ARE. Instead, you are involving her in the process and in an appropriate way.

If she actually interjects a "no" when you didn't ask a yes/no question, listen to what she says, then calmly try to reassert the assumption.

HER: "I didn't give you permission to go to that dance."
YOU: "Mom, you know I need to do these things, I need your help figuring out how to do them right! (hug her) Hmm, maybe we should skip dinner and just do the dance...what do you think?"

It can be many things... it means you are pretty

It just my suggestion..
Its not good that you always like this. Maybe you should try any new activity, meet some new people and make a friends with them. Always feel down like this will not good for your health.

It's your mom a kind of person like you said? Or it just "what do you think about her"?
If it just your thought then maybe you shouldn't afraid, you still don't know what will happen if you tell her your opinions. Be brave, she is your mother.
And if she was that kind of person like you said then. I just suggest you to do any side job, hobby or activity that you really enjoy along with taking your dancing school...

Look your world with a new vision. Always positive even in the worst situation could really help, trust me!

Good luck.

Sometimes, things aren't what you thought it'd be. And your probably really missing your friend. Work loads can be hard but imagine how accomplished you'll feel when you Graduate?

Tell your mom if you really want, but in the long run of life, you'll probably look back and wonder why you didn't take the opportunity when you had it.

-Absolute

I'm not sure if this is the right category for this but oh well.
I recently went on a holiday and there were a few guys I got to talk to a little bit ( I'm a girl by the way) anyway, I grew to really like like one of them, but he lives more than a couple of hours away.
I know that he thinks I'm hot and stuff because his friend said he does, and I know his last name so I've seen his profile on social sites and such, but he doesn't know I know his last name, and I'm a bit too shy and nervous to add him, as it may come across a bit stalker-ish. He knows my last name but he found it out earlier in the trip and I'm not sure if he will remember, which means that then we have no way of contact unless I add him. But I sort of had to go to a bit of effort to search for his last name as it was tricky, so he'll probably know I'm after him a bit too much. What do I do!! Please help!

I say don't add him. When guys like girls and are into them they do whatever it takes to contact them. If he were into you he would have found out your last name one way or another. We underestimate guys, yet they are very resourceful when they want something.

I think you should add him but don't talk to him let him start the conversation off first.

Not all guys are the same.

Some guys are more than happy to approach any woman they find interesting and are willing to be rejected over and over for that one "match"...

Some guys will hang back and wait for "signs"...

Some guys will never, ever chase...

I can't tell you what's right for you.

You can sit back and see if he pursues or you can initiate contact. Honestly, while I'm no shy guy, if a girl I might like showed some interest, it usually escalated my wondering and thinking about her. But that's me.

As mentioned already, I think you can make contact but be reserved... see where he leads you.

Its OK to step out of your comfort zone now and then... even good for us... but if you find you need to initiate and push all the time, and you aren't comfortable with that, it might be a situation where you've met a good guy/bad fit.

Happens. Happened to me twice with ladies I liked, but who were just not quite in step with how I'm most at ease and how I act.