I have been dating this guy for four months, he works forensics in L.A. We started immediately hot and heavywith him at my house every morning. He would take me out to dinners and make nail appointments for me and massages for me all the good stuff. I would always ask him why I never been to his house or never met anyone in his family (still haven't). I asked him over and over if he was married/engaged/dating/seeing/talking to anyone else covering all bases and his answer to me was always "no". I never checked his phone or e-mails, even though I have been cheated on in the past.

We talked about marriage and moving to Florida, but when the time came July 3, 2008 he calls and says that we are not moving. We have broken up on and off during this time all his idea and ended up getting back together. Now my mother is living with me and she hates this guy. She only met him once and said hello to him and when he comes over she locks herself in her room.

I am now confused because he asked me Yesterday to meet him at church and we will go to lunch. I drove over to the church at 1:30 like he said and waited then I noticed the service had already let out (the gurad said 45 minutes before I got there) I got upset and called him with no answer. I sent him a mean text message, I got home and I decided to go to a movie. He says to me "why are you telling me?" I have had arguments before with him but this was different. I asked "are we fighting or broken up?" "You are as single as I am." We texted back and forth saying really mean things to each other. I threw out the stuff he left at my house this morning.

I guess I said all this to say Did I do something wrong?

Confused

No. It's not you. I don't know about this guy in particular but a friend of mine was seeing a guy for 5 yrs. He never came to her house. She was only allowed at his house on Sundays and Tuesdays. The rest of the time there was always an excuse. I knew there was something wrong w/ this. She however did not. 5 yrs. Later he tells her it's over because he's getting married. He was w/ someone else the whole time. They lived an hour apart so it was easy for him to get away w/ it. It sounds like at first everything was fine. Guys have a funny way of making it seem like you did something wrong, when in fact, they just want to be left alone and you've done nothing wrong at all. Just let it be. He's not irreplaceable. :)

No, you didn't do anything wrong, it was all him. He wasn't being faithful to you, and he thought he could get away with it until YOU started questioning HIM. And then he said to himself "Oh snap, this girl is smart" and wanted out so he could find a dumb girl so he could continue to lead his double life.

If he won't take you to his house then he is hiding something. Cut your losses and move on to someone who treats you right.