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Purrcy
Jul 28, 2008, 09:51 AM
Hey,

Since I've miscarriaged at 6 weeks on May 30th, 2008.

Now, I missed my period for 5 days. I took HPT and it was BFP twice. One time was 3 days earlier since I had a lot of pregnant syoptoms so I test it and it was BFP quicklly. Then the second time was on the 1st day of missd period and it was BFP quickly too. I haven't call the dr to make an appt to make sure if everythings OK with this pregnant process since I already miscarriage almost 2 months ago.

Once I found out I'm pregnant and I was in zone of biggest fear of getting miscarriage again. My husband said he rather to wait until I'm missed my period after a week later after this wed since that's when I miscarriaged that number of weeks of pregnant..
Should I go ahead make an appt to make sure or wait until a week later? Right now I'm 4 weeks and 5 days now.

Last Saturday night, I was an overboard emotion and cried a lot allnight for one little stupid reason. Is that normal? Is that pregnant hormones or something else? I had real sore bbs but now its less pain-is that normal? I still have a lot of headaches which it bother me so much. Constantly I have cramps on each sides with different times-still normal? Not sign as miscarriage? Today, I feel like I'm going to throw up but never did and didn't want to eat anything. Is that normal also?

DoulaLC
Jul 28, 2008, 02:49 PM
Unless they determined a reason for the previous miscarriage, waiting a week won't make a difference. For example, say it was determined that low progesterone was an issue, then they would want to know as soon as possible if a pregnancy occurred. If no reason was given, and usually they don't even start checking until someone has had two or three simply because miscarriage is quite common, odds are it was due to something totally out of your control. The cramping (often similar to period cramps for many women) can be normal and usually not a concern if you aren't also bleeding.
If you would find reassurance going in, then by all means, make an appointment. The different symptoms you have been experiencing are normal... and certainly you should be taking care of yourself... eat well (as much as possible), take a prenatal vitamin if your diet is not the best or if you find it difficult to eat much right now, that is all you can do at this stage to increase the odds that things will go just fine for you.

KissMe10der
Jul 28, 2008, 07:17 PM
CALM DOWN HUN!!

Stress could cause you to miscarry. For now, check with a doctor and assume everything is fine. Why stress when there's nothing set in stone!

I hope you have a HAPPY and HEALTHY pregnancy!

Purrcy
Jul 28, 2008, 07:25 PM
Oh OK thanks. I think ill make an appt after a week later from this wed or sooner... or unless something else happen.

But the problem is all the symptoms I had last week was a lot of them but now this week its seems decrease. Not much of sore bbs anymore. Is something wrong? Then increase cramps this time and still no period like you said its normal but I'm not sure about that...
I do still feel tired but most of the time I wouldn't go to sleep or taking a nap. My mind too much racing and a lot things to do around me. So I was like I'm not sure what's going on with my pregnant? Or it didn't hit me yet with this 4 weeks and 5 days? Or wait until after 6 weeks then ill realized that I'm too tired to think anything?

Ive been taking prenatal vitamins everyday now since before I got miscarriaged.

Purrcy
Jul 28, 2008, 07:28 PM
I know I need to calm down but sometime I can't help it since I already experience the miscarriage then everythings change the thought you know. Ill try my best to relax and let it go... still, its hard :/

KissMe10der
Jul 28, 2008, 07:33 PM
I know sweety, its hard to let go of that fear!

But think of this baby.. and keep busy, where you don't have to think of the pain of another miscarriage. It hasent happened yet, and there's no telling if it will.

Keep your head up!

Purrcy
Jul 28, 2008, 07:37 PM
Yeah will think of positive and think of this baby too... thanks for your support. :)

Alty
Jul 28, 2008, 07:37 PM
I know it's hard to relax, but remember, no matter how much you worry that won't change the outcome. Worrying about something that might happen will just make you miserable for the next 9 months, you don't need that, and either does baby.

So, deep breath, go to your doctor for a checkup, tell him/her your concerns and then carry on. Take your vitamins, eat healthy, all the things a pregnant women should do. Drink plenty of water, and then relax. Whatever is going to happen is going to happen, so just hope for the best and enjoy your pregnancy, it's an amazing experience. :)

Good luck.

KissMe10der
Jul 28, 2008, 07:37 PM
No problem! :)

Good luck!

Purrcy
Jul 28, 2008, 07:40 PM
True. I will call the dr to make an appt soon maybe this wed or so. Ive doing everything what I should to do like eat healthy, drink lot of water, and taking prenatal vitamins. But the plm is relaxing that is one I need to working on it where I get my mind at ease. Thanks.