CLAIRE82
Jul 22, 2008, 07:09 AM
I've been living with my boyfriend for a year and a half and we are soulmates ( I know for a fact he feels this too). We were madly in love. We have spent everyday together and have never once argued or even been vaguely irritated by each other. Everybody who knows us thinks we were made for each other. But last week out the blue my boyfriend told me that the last couple of months he has felt more like my best friend than anything else and says he just loves me as a friend. I have moved back in with my parents but am lost without him. A few months ago we were talking about what sort of wedding we'd have and kids. I just can't believe he'd just give up what we have so easily. I had noticed that we were getting a bit lazy in the relationship, always hanging out with our mates in a big group instead of going out just the two of us and we hadn't slept together in a couple of months but I didn't think it was that bad. We love spending time together and never tire of each others company and he says he still feels like that but just as a friend.
I don't get why when we are so well matched and committed he isn't willing to fight for us. I know it is impossible to find someone I will get on with better or be closer to. I asked him if he thought he could find better and he said no that it wasn't possible. So don't get why he is ending it?
He wants us to still be best mates and go out all the time as friends. He says I will still and always will be a huge part of his life and anytime I need him day or night he is there for me. Yet he just wants to be friends.
I think he is making a mistake, but I don't know how to make him see that. I can't stand the thought of not being with him. What should I do? Should I just be his friend and hope he starts to want more again? Do you think it is over for good? I haven't heard from him in a week and I've been good and haven't txted him either but everyday is killing me. I know he will text me sometime because he really wants to stay friends but am trying to make him miss me.
I don't get why when we are so well matched and committed he isn't willing to fight for us. I know it is impossible to find someone I will get on with better or be closer to. I asked him if he thought he could find better and he said no that it wasn't possible. So don't get why he is ending it?
He wants us to still be best mates and go out all the time as friends. He says I will still and always will be a huge part of his life and anytime I need him day or night he is there for me. Yet he just wants to be friends.
I think he is making a mistake, but I don't know how to make him see that. I can't stand the thought of not being with him. What should I do? Should I just be his friend and hope he starts to want more again? Do you think it is over for good? I haven't heard from him in a week and I've been good and haven't txted him either but everyday is killing me. I know he will text me sometime because he really wants to stay friends but am trying to make him miss me.