Is it true that men don't like dating women who are still virgins in their 20's?
If you're a guy: Would you break up with someone you have been going out with if you found out she is a virgin?

No. Just a line to make you feel pressured into something before you are ready.

Is it true that men don't like dating women who are still virgins in their 20's?
Probably not because most guyz like it when a girl is experienced

probably not because most guyz like it when a girl is experienced
You said probably not, but then you said they like experienced women?

A guy loves it when he finds a girl that is not 'experienced but most guys figure that is NOT going to happen because society has it ingrained in everybody's head that everybody is doing it. So when a guy does find a girl that hasn't it can be like finding a pearl in a haystack.

I'd still date the 27 year old if I was 28-32 year old range =]

lf156, Is it true that men don't like dating women who are still virgins in their 20's?
The only guys that do are the ones who don't want a caring relationship, but plenty of sex, and those kind of guys are a waste of time.


If you're a guy: Would you break up with someone you have been going out with if you found out she is a virgin?
No!! Unless she was obviously incompatible, or was no fun at all.

When I met the woman I love, the fact of her being a virgin or not, was not even on my radar screen.

Unless the guy is extremely religious, and finding a virgin is HIGH on his priority list, I don't think most men really worry about it much.

When I met the woman I love, the fact of her being a virgin or not, was not even on my radar screen.

Unless the guy is extremely religious, and finding a virgin is HIGH on his priority list, I don't think most men really worry about it much.
No, the question is if you would leave a woman you're dating because she's still a virgin in her 20s... because a lot of guys think it's weird.

No, the question is if you would leave a woman you're dating because she's still a virgin in her 20s...because a lot of guys think it's weird.
I thought that the fact that I didn't care one way or the other answered the question, but, since you seem to think it didn't.

NO!

OK
Thing is, the guys I date get completely turned off when I tell them and they break up with me because of it

Then that means the guys are shallow about it...

I actually do care if my future partner is a virgin or not cause if she's had more than 2 guys.... not good at all

Just like a car... the first owner is decent with it.. sells it out..

the second owner is decent with it... sells it out..

third owner IS NOT decent with it... something is wrong

ok
thing is, the guys I date get completely turned off when i tell them and they break up with me because of it
All that says is you haven't been very good at picking the guys.

If this happens, they were not dating you with any honorable intentions in mind.

They had their eye on the prize.

When they found out that the prize has a lock on it, they move on to find an easier prize.

You need to find guys that have some values and not the type that are into 'Girls gone wild'!

All that says is you haven't been very good at picking the guys.

If this happens, they were not dating you with any honorable intentions in mind.

They had their eye on the prize.

When they found out that the prize has a lock on it, they move on to find an easier prize.

The best example: male tourists who go to Las Vegas just for prostitutes

For me, my ex was willingly to give her virginity to me... so that's a different story

@ OP:

it's alright... some couples (very rare) stay virgin until they find the right person and have sex until after marriage

I'm not waiting till marriage. I've just never had a very serious relationship, and I don't want to have sex outside one.

You have more values many lack follow them and don't give in to pressure.

I'm not waiting till marriage. I've just never had a very serious relationship, and I don't want to have sex outside one.

Then you are one of the few female species who ARE ABLE TO CONTROL THEMSELVES unlike the new generation of stupid teens who have nothing else to do except spend money on fashion, screw around during educational time, and bone each other like the relationship will last forever.

You have more values many lack follow them and don't give in to pressure.
I'm not really under pressure as such, though I do get some stick from friends.
But in general, guys seem to run away from me because I'm a virgin.

Then they just are not worth it be glad because you have a very simple way of weeding out who isn't worth your time.
Other girls have to learn the hard way that the guy isn't worth it!

I am a virgin in my early twenties and I am not afraid to admit!
Everyone values it differently, you must know that it's your choice and whoever looks down upon that are probably immature and doesn't value virtues/morals.

I am a virgin in my early twenties and I am not afraid to admit!
Everyone values it differently, you must know that it's your choice and whoever looks down upon that are probably immature and doesn't value virtues/morals.
Are you waiting for religious reasons?

No exactly, in my personal belief, it is basic ethics to stay a virgin until you get married. You only lose it once to your dearest! I want to save it for Mr. Right!


I wasn't brought up as a Chriatian but I consider me spiritual/ have a strong self control and traditional.

Thanks, :)

No exactly, in my personal belief, it is basic ethics to stay a virgin til you get married. You only lose it once to your dearest! I want to save it for Mr. Right!


I wasn't brought up as a Chriatian but I consider me spiritual/ have a strong self control and traditional.

Thanks, :)
Oh okay.:)
My situation is a little different though, as I'm not waiting for marriage.
A lot of people, including a few of my closest friends, cannot understand why I waited for so long, because they know that I'm not waiting till marriage, but because haven't had a proper relationship till now. A lot of people seem to believe that it reeks of immaturity to not have a had a serious relationship till now.

Oh okay.:)
My situation is a little different though, as I'm not waiting for marriage.
A lot of people, including a few of my closest friends, cannot understand why I waited for so long, because they know that I'm not waiting till marriage, but because haven't had a proper relationship till now. A lot of people seem to believe that it reeks of immaturity to not have a had a serious relationship till now.

Your friends are like the new generation of teenagers. Having sex is bullsh*t.... many lose their virginity and regret it in the future

Your friends are like the new generation of teenagers. Having sex is bullsh*t.... many lose their virginity and regret it in the future
Like I said, guys get turned off when they find out; so in the end it has turned out to be something negative.

No it hasn't it stops you from dealing with the shallow guys who expect you to have sex if they are nice enough to you!! If you want that then simply don't tell them your a virgin and let them pursue you for whatever reason.

Its nobodies business, so why do you feel they should know right off the bat??

I promise you OP, there are plenty of guys find being a virgin is a good thing!

The ones that you hang out with are immature and self-centered young kids. You cna't blame on them but you can avoid them!

And you can always date virgins too!

like i said, guys get turned off when they find out; so in the end it has turned out to be something negative.

Be happy that you're not like the generation of teens who have nothing else to do except bone each other in the butt.

Is it true that men don't like dating women who are still virgins in their 20's?
If you're a guy: Would you break up with someone you have been going out with if you found out she is a virgin?
Id rather a girlfriend who's a virgin, than had sex with every man in the town!

and you can always date virgins too!
I've never met any virgin men around my age~:p

OP,

Where do you live, I know a few guys that are. They were my classmates and friends. We are all computer geeks, LOL. Hey, they both work hard and pretty smart.

In the UK
I met a guy recently and have been dating for a while, but am too scared to get closer because I'm worried the same thing will happen again.

I applaud you for being a virgin. Are you saving yourself for marriage, or just for the right person? Is it for religious reasons or just personal reasons? Again, I appluad you!!

Like somebody said don't even mention it until it comes up or you have his heart so much so that he doesn't want to walk away.

I applaud you for being a virgin. Are you saving yourself for marriage, or just for the right person? Is it for religious reasons or just personal reasons? Again, I appluad you!!!!
Thanks.
Just waiting for the right person. And its because of my personal beliefs, although my family is religious.

I applaud you for being a virgin. Are you saving yourself for marriage, or just for the right person? Is it for religious reasons or just personal reasons? Again, I appluad you!!!!
Are you one, too?

are you one, too?
No, I'm not.

No, I'm not.
Oh, OK. I was just wondering why you thought it was good that I am one.

Why is it good to save yourself for true love? Although I find this a self-explanatory question, I will answer. It's respectable, you won't transfer std's (unless born with them) to your first partner, no unplanned pregnancies, no worries about birth control, and the person that finally is "the one" will know he's the one when the two of you make love for the first time.

Why is it good to save yourself for true love? Although I find this a self-explanatory question, I will answer. It's respectable, you won't transfer std's (unless born with them) to your first partner, no unplanned pregnancies, no worries about birth control, and the person that finally is "the one" will know he's the one when the two of you make love for the first time.
Oh no, I meant that I asked the other question because I thought you could relate in some way.

Prove your love, pressured, drugged, convinced, some "in exchange for something", everybody is doing it...

Just don't engage into sex for wrong reasons. At this age you may now know who's worth the wait. Shallow maniacs out!

OK here is my experience... if you are spiritual and live by a belief like I did that it is the right thing to do then you will look for a man with the same belief system as yourself. If there is another reason then to answer your question I would need to know why. Who cares what anyone thinks and if they don't want to date you they are doing you a favor. Find a compatible respectable guy who loves that about you.

Prove your love, pressured, drugged, convinced, some "in exchange for something", everybody is doing it......

Just dont engage into sex for wrong reasons. At this age you may now know who's worth the wait. Shallow maniacs out!
Well, yeah, that's why I still haven't had sex.

Oh, ok. I was just wondering why you thought it was good that I am one.


Nice 2 hear there are people like me still virgin!! Wow I'm not alone.. lol :)

Is it true that men don't like dating women who are still virgins in their 20's?
If you're a guy: Would you break up with someone you have been going out with if you found out she is a virgin?
Besides, I would LOVE to date a woman who is a virgin !

besides, i would LOVE to date a woman who is a virgin !

There are some out there...

Not many people have said that here, but the general impression guys get and even some of friends in fact is that there must be something wrong with me or abnormal about me to be a virgin at this 'old' age.

Not many people have said that here, but the general impression guys get and even some of friends infact is that there must be something wrong with me or abnormal about me to be a virgin at this 'old' age.

Don't think of being a virgin as bad... it may be good too

Those guys you have been with are shallow... stupid idiots~

Yeah well,
I was talking to a couple of my friends yesterday; they told me that I can only blame myself for still being inexperienced, etc. They said that it is understandable that guys don 't want to be with me because virginity at my age sends the wrong message across, and it is only natural that they wouldn't want to be with me any longer.

Certain men. A respectable man will respect your decision even if he hasn't made the same decision. Don't compromise your beliefs just to find a relationship. The one that captures your heart will be the one that will wait.

You know, there are certain dating sites for virgins. I'm sorry if that sounds harsh. But if you want to meet people with similar beliefs, I would Google it.

GOOGLE IS MY SAVIOR!

Lf156, yeah well,
I was talking to a couple of my friends yesterday; they told me that I can only blame myself for still being inexperienced, etc.

They are only partly right, as there can never be any blame for following your own path, and not giving in to the ways that others would have you believe is correct.

They said that it is understandable that guys don 't want to be with me because virginity at my age sends the wrong message across,
Again they are only partly right, some guys don't care about the female enough to be bothered with anything that they have to work at. Maybe that's all that you have known, or maybe there is something else you need to know, besides your being a virgin, that turns men away.

and it is only natural that they wouldn't want to be with me any longer
Again maybe you can look at yourself honestly and find another factor involved that can prevent men from knowing you, or prevent them from getting to know you.

If you can honestly say you don't use your virginity as a weapon that prevents a guy from thinking that's it's a relationship or nothing, then you must not be into dating for fun, and making friends.

For the life of me, I can't fathom the reason a casual acquaintance or a potential date would even know your personal business, unless you tell them very early, or carry yourself as unapproachable for dating and fun that young people like yourself do. That's how you get to know if its worth pursuing as you get to know, and understand each other.

I can understand if you have dated, and not found someone who meets your standard for a relationship. What I do not understand, is your blaming it on your virginity.

Maybe your choice of dates, would be a better place to put the blame. Help me understand as this is not logical to me.

A few times it didn't work for other reasons(long distance, work, etc.), but some of the guys who I had been with for quite a while and was fairly close with felt that they didn't want to be with a virgin. I am not blaming it on my virginity, it was the reason they gave me. And from what I've gathered from friends and other websites is that it's apparently how most guys would respond.
Also, it is not an issue that I brought up myself, they started to talk about sex and ask me stuff about my sex life, and no, not as soon as we start dating, after being together for a while.

Ever dated a guy beyond 6 months?

Ages ago

Certain men. A respectable man will respect your decision even if he hasn't made the same decision. Don't compromise your beliefs just to find a relationship. The one that captures your heart will be the one that will wait.

You know, there are certain dating sites for virgins. I'm sorry if that sounds harsh. But if you want to meet people with similar beliefs, I would google it.

GOOGLE IS MY SAVIOR!
Hehe, don't think I'm going to do that yet, but maybe in the future :P

Ever think of broadening your circle of people and activities?? I think your attractting the same type of guy, what do you think??

Ever think of broadening your circle of people and activities???? I think your attractting the same type of guy, what do you think????
I don't think I'm attracting the same type of guy, unless you mean their attitude towards my inexperience?

I don't think I'm attracting the same type of guy, unless you mean their attitude towards my inexperience?

I guess you can say that.

Being a virgin is all right... nonvirgin is all right

In my eyes, I'd rather date virgins cause I'm not very experienced... I've only had sex with one girl... that was it~

I'm 19

Do you tend to date guys older, younger, or the same age as you?

All 3.

all 3.

That... answers the general age question.. lol

That... answers the general age question.. lol
Um what?lol
I just said that I date guys who are younger than me as well as older than me, and also the same age.(Although I would not date someone who was like 20 or 40, I mean I wouldn't want too much of an age gap)

I guess you can say that.

Being a virgin is alright... nonvirgin is alright

In my eyes, I'd rather date virgins cause I'm not very experienced... I've only had sex with one girl... that was it~

I'm 19
Yeah, OK. Just that at my age most guys wouldn't be inexperienced I guess.

yeah, ok. just that at my age most guys wouldn't be inexperienced I guess.

I'm very inexperienced... people, mainly guys, tell me that I am lagging behind or out-of-date

I'm very inexperienced... people, mainly guys, tell me that I am lagging behind or out-of-date
My friends were & are very pushy too(not all of them now)

Is it true that men don't like dating women who are still virgins in their 20's?
If you're a guy: Would you break up with someone you have been going out with if you found out she is a virgin?
Trust me - its great to hear your opinion.. I'm 27 virgin and I too think I should wait for the right person.. but for me, a virgin girl would be a blessing ! So we could try everything together and then stick to each other only... maybe marriage..

Don't think guys would reject you ( I would die to get a virgin ! )

Ok, so I'm definitely a lot younger than you and well this probably doesn't answer your question but to tell the truth I have the goal to be a virgian until I get married, which may not be until I'm thirty. I'm not super religious or anything I just think it's the best way to go, and well if a guy wants to break up with me for it... then to tell the truth I'm going to think he's the weird one for having that so high up on his list when choosing a girl to date. Not to mention he'd probably get to know you and if he likes you then being a virgin shouldn't matter. I mean if the first thing a guy asks is are you a virgin? - then you need to drop him right then and there. I hoped this helped a least a little.

ThinkingOutloud

my friends were & are very pushy too(not all of them now)

Then they aren't good friends.

I would not break up just because of that. I understand what u say some guyz do mind... Frankly speaking for some of us it's actually a plus.. I personaly don't care whether one is a virgin or not... If a guy truly loves you then they shouldn't.

Then they aren't good friends.
Well, I suppose they are entitled to their opinions, but yeah, I do get annoyed very frequently over this.

I'm not too keen on "virgin or not"... if she is a virgin, fine... if not, that's fine too.. . plus, the idea of being a virgin is... her matter, not mine.

"her matter not mine"? Er what do you mean?

Nope just amazing I can't imagine reaching 27 years old and still a virgin

Lol, I didn't think I would be a virgin at my 'old' age either when I was younger lol

By "her matter" I meant that it was her business and nothing to do with mine... so

1) I wouldn't ask if she were a virgin or not
2) Even if she were, it's her choice that has nothing to do with me, so it shouldn't matter.

Hope that helps?

Is it true that men don't like dating women who are still virgins in their 20's?
If you're a guy: Would you break up with someone you have been going out with if you found out she is a virgin?
Look, its so subjective. Few men likes to kiss/few don't, few likes lips/few likes eyes/few likes different appealing body parts. Similarly, you would find few men who likes dating virgin and who don't. Its even possible that 70% men wouldn't date virgin and 30% would not. But this statitics is not going to help you (or whoever that person is) to make her decision to stay virgin. If you want to stay virgin you should/must, it doesn't make you less of a person. And if the man is not able to respect that, then you don't deserve that man anyway.

by "her matter" I meant that it was her business and nothing to do with mine...so

1) I wouldn't ask if she were a virgin or not
2) Even if she were, it's her choice that has nothing to do with me, so it shouldn't matter.

hope that helps?
Yep, sure does. Thanks.

Look, its so subjective. Few men likes to kiss/few dont, few likes lips/few likes eyes/few likes different appealing body parts. Similarly, you would find few men who likes dating virgin and who dont. Its even possible that 70% men wouldnt date virgin and 30% would not. But this statitics is not gonna help you (or whoever that person is) to make her decision to stay virgin. If you wanna stay virgin you should/must, it doesnt make you less of a person. And if the man is not able to respect that, then you dont deserve that man anyways.
What you said is true but it's difficult to think like that when this stuff happens.

Really depends on the guy

First, you've got to understand where this 'rule' comes from (that some men won't date virgins). Young men (18-25) are after women who are attractive and putting out. It's that phase they go through once they finally reach independence from home. No more rules. No one telling him that he can't have company past a certain hour. He's free. Free to date anyone and have sex with anyone. And, of course, sex feels good. And men are going to do what feels good at this point. And women out of High School are just the ones to help them feel good. Throughout High School, most guys have dealt with girls who want to wait until they are ready to have sex. So, once the guys are out of the house, they don't want to have to deal with girls telling them that they aren't ready or want to wait a few months first. They want sex now. They want everything that has been denied to them. Sometimes it's more than sex. It's alcohol. Cigarettes. Porn. Drugs. Why do you think that so many college students drink? Beer does not taste good the first time you drink it. But college students force themselves to get use to the taste an eventually love it simply because they feel like they are missing out on something. Now that doesn't apply to everyone because not every guy wants drugs and porn. But I can confidently tell you that ever guy between the ages of 18 and 25 wants sex. Now there is always an exception to the rule. But what I stay still stands. Why would a young man who has finally reached his independence tie himself down to a girl who isn't giving it up when there are millions of girls out there who ARE giving it up? TV, movies, magazines, and other forms o media makes sex out to be something glamourous (just like beer). And it feels good to a lot of people. So they want to see what all of the hubbub is about.

Young men at this stage aren't really looking for love. Now if love just so happens to come across them, then that's great. But no guy ever says "Now that I've moved out of my parents' house, it's time for me to find a wife/long term girlfriend." No. They don't say that. They say, it's time to have some real fun. And convincing a virgin to have sex with him would obviously prove to be more work than it's worth.

Now, after a while of sleeping around with girl after girl, he'll begin to get bored. Every girl seems exactly the same. She's a drunk or a party girl and she's ready to go home with somebody. He compliments her outfit and tells her how pretty she looks. She giggles and, long story short, they have sex. That's not very exciting when you've been doing it for sooooo many years. So, at this point (26+), he starts to look for women with substance. Women who offer a challenge and have more to offer than just good (or bad) sex. This is good news for you because you're at that age where your fellow man starts to 'grow up'. Men will start to value you for your personality and who you are. And sex is secondary.

Now do NOT think that, just because the men are above 27, that they aren't prepared to go back down memory lane. If you come off as a sexual being (i.e super tight, revealing outfits that were meant to grab the eye) and if you are throwing yourself at the men (flirting all the time and winking and licking your lips) then he's going to treat you like he treated those girls back in his college days. He's going to pursue you, expecting sex. You have to come off as more than just a girl who can wet his . You have to come off as a person. Someone who he feels could benefit his life in more ways than just sexual. If you make yourself appear like you are worth it then he will treat you as such. He'll try a little longer and have a stronger desire for you. If sex comes with you then that's great. If it doesn't, then it's not a deal breaker for him because he sees you as more than just a floozy from his early adulthood. He sees someone he can potentially take seriously. And what man doesn't want that? :)

Thanks for taking the trouble to post that. It really helped.m :)

Just be yourself and if the guy says "lets do it.."

tell him to back off :)

What?

what?

I mean having sex...

I mean having sex...
Yeah I figured, but they run away anyway when they find out that I'm a virgin lol

yeah I figured, but they run away anyway when they find out that I'm a virgin lol

So? That means the guy is shallow =/

You'll find your partner.. eventually!

I didn't find mine until I was out of high school

You'll find your partner.. eventually!
Let's hope so :P


I didn't find mine until I was out of high school
There are many people in your situation; but I hardly know any in mine.

OP, change the social circle that you are in okay?

OP, change the social circle that you are in okay?
Why?

let's hope so :P


there are many people in your situation; but I hardly know any in mine.


Yeh... time will come!

OP, The guys that you hang out are simply shallow and immature. I know plenty of guys that prefer virgins to non-virgins.

OP, The guys that you hang out are simply shallow and immature. I know plenty of guys that prefer virgins to non-virgins.


I'm one of those guys who prefer virgins xD

No... it be stupid.. the only ones that will are the ones that only want sex... if the person rrlly values u and cares about u and wants to be wit u for ever will wait for the right moment.. and not pressure u to do something u don't want

OP, The guys that you hang out are simply shallow and immature. I know plenty of guys that prefer virgins to non-virgins.
Oh... I've never met any guys like that.

To OP -

Don't feel bad or weird about this. I'm still a virgin in my 20s (although slightly younger, 22), mostly for similar reasons to you that I want to wait until I'm in a really serious relationship to "go all the way." Plus, while I'm not super religious, I live in the most weird, crazy religious place there is (Utah), where people are getting married at 18 and 19 and there really is no sex in college [seriously - I know people that have gotten engaged after 3 weeks of dating].

Don't feel weird, don't let your friends make you feel weird or awkward or unusual. It seems to me, if the guy thinks this is weird and runs, he wasn't worth it to begin with. If the guy really loves you, he'll be fine with it (heck, he may even like the fact that you waited just for him).

But don't worry, you're not alone :)

OP, believe in yourself.

Don't let others get to your head.

If being a virgin turns a guy off or turns him on. Dump the guy. Love should be a lifelong commitment based on deeper things. Like respect and common beliefs and personal goals. Look for these traits in a mate and if the subject should come up it should be treated as one of many aspects of your relationship that should be treated with a discussion about how to get through it with sensitivity. If not you have to send your intended to a psychologist to deal with his fixation.

Is it true that men don't like dating women who are still virgins in their 20's?
If you're a guy: Would you break up with someone you have been going out with if you found out she is a virgin?
It is not weird at all... you just haven't found the right person. Sex is an intimate thing and you can't just do it with anybody just because you feel you are too old to be a virgin ( which some girls do ). Age is just a number do not worry about it at all. Oh and in fact a lot of guys like virgin girls ;) they like to be the first one to pop your cherry lol so you got pluses there from a lot of guys

Actually as someone who has made some mistakes in his life, I commend anyone who decides to wait until marriage regardless of the age. In my eyes, that is a real positive for you and I appreciate the fact you respect yourself.

Yes I think it's weird that in 27 years of life you have not been sexually stimulated and confident enough to lose your virginity. I'm a girl and I wouldn't date a 27 year old virgin and I wouldn't expect a man to want to date me as a 27 year old virgin.

Being that old and still being a virgin to me sounds like a flaw in you ability to express you sexuality.

I don't know what would be wrong with being a virgin.. In fact, I think that makes a woman extra special because that means she wants to wait for the right person.

And hey, I'm a 29 year old guy and I'm a virgin.. I don't know why it should be a problem.

I think sex is something everyone is ready for at different times in their lives. I'm not a virgin, but I was until 21... up until that point I just wasn't ready. When the time is right, you'll be ready to make that decision. I'm not a guy, so I don't know what they think about it. But I didn't tell the guy I was dating that I was virgin when I lost it. Overall, I was happy w/my decision to do that. No regrets... I didn't want to make a big deal out of it, and just wanted to get it over with. I don't think there is anything wrong with being a virgin, but I can understand why some people might think it is strange.

I'm not sure I can see why some people would think it is strange to be a virgin past a certain age. Some people are just waiting for the right person; other people may be a little shy; and for other people, it's just not a priority. In a way, I think having had sex or not is similar to having a nice big house with a pool out back - That's important to some people, and it's not so important to other people. Besides, there's much more to life than having sex. I don't see why there should be a stigma about being a virgin.

You should be proud. Nowadays, woman who remain a virgin over 27 is considered a precious commodity.