Well, here I go... well I'm a teen. Yup I said it. :eek: I'm 17 and I'm going through a dilemma.

Well you see... society today demands for guys my age to have a girlfriend or at least had one, but I haven't had a girl in a while. Honestly, I don't think them as mature enough. I don't know why.:confused: It's not that I think too much of myself but let's be real here.

The girls in my age group aren't so interesting(if you know what I mean.. ). All they seem to talk about is nothing at all. They either spend most of their time texting than ACTUALLY TALKING!:eek: Or even better, chattering away about how much they party.:rolleyes: The problem is that I don't like to party.(I know most of the teens reading this are completely shocked.)
It's just that my age group seems to drink to "be cool" or fit in. I rather spare my liver and avoid carrying my friends who are too drunk to walk themselves.::liver saying THANK YOU!:: I rather go to the movies with my friends or play some sports, workout, stay at my house and chill,
But hey that's who I am:D . Anyway... it's really hard looking for girls that actually have brian cells in their heads and talk about something interesting. Don't get me wrong there are plenty of women, not girls, who are extremely smart and interesting, but not the girls my age(well at least the majority). I'm afraid of going into "The Game" and be disappointed.

It's just that I want a relationship that lasts and not just a fling. I know that I'm asking too much for my age but, there has to be a girl my age who's actually worth it.

Girls have been telling me that they like me but I'm not sure if I want to take that course.
I'm outgoing and not afraid(well in some occasions ) to talk to girls but I am afraid to take it to the next step.I feel that I'm going to get hurt, like all the other experiences. I know that it might be different this time but I still don't find the nerve. It's just that I usually give the relationships my all and I don't think I can take the pain again.

I know I need to give it a shot but what do you guys recommend?:confused:
What guidelines do you guys think I should follow to find the "that special someone"?

I need help...

MGcali -

Dude, all I have to say is, it's going to be all right.

I'm 32, married with two kids, and looking back on my life as a teen, I realized something very valuable... screw what society demands. You're young and you feel that pressure from your peer group (especially your homeboys) to run "game" and add notches to your bedpost, etc. It's all b.s. If we forever take our cues as to how we should live our lives from society, we're all seriously doomed.

MGcali, you're still young and right now you still have a very strong sense for what is good and right... I can tell. You don't want to be like your peers who are getting drunk and "hooking up" with everybody. Bro, be confident in who you are and what you are about and don't do those things. Trust your heart that there is a better way to live your life.

I can tell you this, there is so much more joy to life in doing what is right then what is wrong. It took me a while to figure these things out and if I had half the wisdom you do at your age, I might have spared myself a lot of trouble and pain. So I want to encourage you... DON'T GO FOR IT. There are people in this world who are like you and want what you want... find them and always keep company with the upright of heart because there is strength in those kinds of friendships.


jakester

Wow... Jakester, thanks I really appreciate it..

That's what I'm trying to do... is listen to the people who have been through it and try to apply it to my own personal experiences. That way I won't go through what they did and be prepared for what happens. Thank you for your comment.. :)

Well, here I go... well I'm a teen. Yup I said it. :eek: I'm 17 and I'm going through a dilemma.

Well you see.... society today demands for guys my age to have a girlfriend or at least had one, but i haven't had a girl in a while. Honestly, i don't think them as mature enough. i don't know why.:confused: It's not that i think too much of myself but let's be real here.

The girls in my age group aren't so interesting(if you know what i mean..). All they seem to talk about is nothing at all. They either spend most of their time texting than ACTUALLY TALKING!:eek: Or even better, chattering away about how much they party.:rolleyes: The problem is that i don't like to party.(i know most of the teens reading this are completely shocked.)
It's just that my age group seems to drink to "be cool" or fit in. I rather spare my liver and avoid carrying my friends who are too drunk to walk themselves.::liver saying THANK YOU!:: i rather go to the movies with my friends or play some sports, workout, stay at my house and chill,
But hey thats who i am:D . Anyways.... it's really hard looking for girls that actually have brian cells in their heads and talk about something interesting. Don't get me wrong there are plenty of women, not girls, who are extremely smart and interesting, but not the girls my age(well at least the majority). I'm afraid of going into "The Game" and be disappointed.

It's just that i want a relationship that lasts and not just a fling. I know that I'm asking too much for my age but, there has to be a girl my age who's actually worth it.

Girls have been telling me that they like me but I'm not sure if i want to take that course.
I'm outgoing and not afraid(well in some occasions ) to talk to girls but i am afraid to take it to the next step.I feel that I'm going to get hurt, like all the other experiences. i know that it might be different this time but i still don't find the nerve. It's just that i usually give the relationships my all and i don't think i can take the pain again.

I know i need to give it a shot but what do you guys recommend?:confused:
What guidelines do you guys think i should follow to find the "that special someone"?

I need help...
Dear MGcali,
First of all, I want to say you are not alone. It seems that you have a good head on your shoulders. You are kind of like me... I like to have fun but not the drinking abd drugs type of fun-the innocent type. I am having a hard time finding a guy who won't hurt me. My advice is just give it time. Some girl will come up and will be the girl of your dreams and then you will live happily ever after. And never EVER do anything like drink or stuff for a girl... because to us girls it doesn't actually show that you will do anything for them, but it seems like you are insecure about yourself and won't act the way you actually are.
Just be you! The right girl will come... and she will be very lucky to have you!
Soccerchick228