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Sonador101
Jul 14, 2008, 06:53 PM
OK I am freaked, well not reallyjust confused. You see sometimes randomly all the sudden I want to cuddle someone, then I'll feel all alone, then I'll feel sad, sometimes I start crying. I really want somebody to hold me and take care of me, and then that's all I can think about, I start thinking of the perfect man and get sooo frustrated knowing he won't show up forever, and knowing I am too young to do anything romantic.
thing is how do I suppress it, or fulfill the need. (no I have no boyfriends, dads not avalible for a hug) HELP! This is getting annoying! Help me

simoneaugie
Jul 14, 2008, 07:50 PM
Having a kitten who adores you can really help. I used to cuddle my kitten and tell him how lonely I felt. He always understood.

ISneezeFunny
Jul 14, 2008, 08:03 PM
Sometimes a stuff animal (a large one) will suffice as well... and who says you need a hug from a boy, why not hug a good friend?

Sonador101
Jul 14, 2008, 08:06 PM
Well its not the same, see I tried that and it didn't really quite clinch it, you know I'll try the stuffed animal I got a ton.

Wondergirl
Jul 14, 2008, 08:08 PM
How about signing up to be a volunteer at an animal shelter? There you will find more unconditional love than you will know what to do with.

Wondergirl
Jul 14, 2008, 08:10 PM
How about reaching out to people you see who are sitting alone or looking sad or crying or being unhappy and then bring joy into their lives? Only by losing yourself will you find yourself.

bushg
Jul 14, 2008, 08:18 PM
Sonador... do you think that it could be associated with PMS... I know it has been a little while since you have mentioned these longing feelings. PMS can take your feelings and intensify them, making a mountain out of a mole hill.
I was raised without my father so I know you are having it rough on so many levels.

Sonador101
Jul 14, 2008, 08:26 PM
Fist thanks you all great idea.
Yeah these feelings are emphasized during PMS, but I feel them all through the month. But thank you guys cause even if I am exaggerating you have told me how to deal with it.

Wondergirl
Jul 14, 2008, 08:52 PM
fist thanks you all great idea.
yeah these feelings are emphasized during PMS, but i feel them all through the mounth. but thank you guys cause even if i am exagerating you have told me how to deal with it.
You're welcome. Yes, we've given you ideas. Now, what is your plan?

N0help4u
Jul 15, 2008, 10:28 AM
I have been on my own for years and loved the independence but every now and then I would feel like I needed a hug. Other than a kitten, teddy bear and volunteer work, I would remind myself that there are people out there that are worse of than myself and many of them need and want a hug more than me. Not really a solution but it did get me through some lonelier times

soccerchick28
Jul 16, 2008, 09:26 AM
I agree what with most people said, get an oversized stuff animal.

plonak
Jul 16, 2008, 11:05 AM
You know, honestly, I think you're craving, (as everyone does but a lot of people ignore it) is a relationship with Jesus Christ... When I'm not close with him I feel a hole in my heart, that can't be filled any way.. not even a boyfriend..

He wants to be there for you and wants your love.. are you religious?

Sonador101
Jul 16, 2008, 11:12 AM
Yes myfamily isreligious andi am getting there, and I do talk to hi,but I really think this is a harmonal thing.

plonak
Jul 16, 2008, 11:51 AM
OK well pray to Him that he helps with that hole that you feel.. just completely give yourself to Him and let Him take control and you will see your problem start to fade.