The ex left a year ago to go back for a 3rd time to her absive boyfriend, while I treated her great she never got over him, (my story was on her awhile ago)

Anyhow she knew I had a hard time over her leaving, she's living with him and I heard planing on getting married. I have been in NC for awhile now, while part of me does miss her and would give it another shot,I do care about her, but I am moving on to others now and have met some nice women.

I have heard others say she does not look happy when they see her walking around at work, they say she is not the same happy person she used to be, I have heard this from 3 people.

Anyhow after not having any contact at all with her since March, she sends me a message at work asking me how I am doing, I said OK. Then awhile later she says this "I know you miss me very much" ( was she fishing?)

I did not respond, then later she says I am sorry. I reply there is nothing I have to say. She said "I said that because my ears, eyes and heart know this "
The next day she contacts me again and asks me if I am OK to talk, I asked her what she wanted and them she said she changed her mind, For some reason (because I was upset) I said I feel she is not happy, she responded back she is, I brought up some other things and she said hold that thought as she was leaving work, I said It did not matter and she does not have to explain anything to me. She then said " Dont be so mad and prideful' and logged off.

I have not heard from her since, this was 3 days ago. While I know she cares about me, I thought her comment was not called for, even if there was some truth to it, but she is the type of person who does care about people

It really suprised me that She said " I know you miss me very much " seeing she knows how hard it was on me, It made me mad, a good friend of mine has warned me that I have not heard the last from her.

What is she up to now or did I overreact to her comment ?

She wanted to see if she could have you if she wanted you and that to asure her that she very well could have you back anytime she wanted. You gave her a boost. She is playing games. Now I do not know the whole situation but stop falling into her trap. Only when she for real sees that you have truly moved on without her will she begin to think and stop playing games. How long did you have NC for? Who stopped the NC?

You would not have to react, or overreact, if you had not replied to her.

You would not be asking this question, if you had ignored her and kept no contact.

Now that you open the can of worms, you have to close it back, forget her and her situation, and go back to what you were doing, and KEEP NO CONTACT, all over again.

She sounds like she is pyscho and likes to play mental games on you, Avoid all contact with her, don't feed into her games. She was looking for a rise out of you, it seems to me that she likes the attention and the fact in knowing she is missed.

She wanted to see if she could have you if she wanted you and that to asure her that she very well could have you back anytime she wanted. You gave her a boost. She is playing games. Now i do not know the whole situation but stop falling into her trap. Only when she for real sees that you have truly moved on without her will she begin to think and stop playing games. How long did you have NC for? Who stopped the NC? I have been in NC since the first part of the year, she has been breaking it, I have not heard from her since April.

Lynx, its hard but you have to keep it...
I went NC on my ex out of the blue.. and every so often she would send me a message... by the end of the first two weeks she was saying "I know you're ignoring me on purpose..whatever".. and it was the hardest thing to do but I stuck to my guns.. a month went past, she was still messaging, 2 months, 3 months, 4 months... last one was a couple of weeks ago...
She dumped me, and I know her well enough to know that she has no interest in reconciling, and I know that if what she had to say was THAT important she wouldn't be doing it over a stupid message..
Stick to your guns

Honey, it's her problem, not your's.

You have always responded to her whenever she felt she needed to talk to you. She knows that and whenever she feels down, she knows you are an easy contact.

But, when she is not down and has her happy moments, I doubt very much that she even thinks of you or your feelings.

The advice given here and on the other posts to leave her be and let her sleep in the bed she made is what you need to do. You need to let her know that you are going on with your life and would appreciate it if she found some other shoulder to cry on - and that she is right when she thinks you care, that's just the kind of guy you are.. but that you also know that she does not care enough about anyone else in her life and you don't want to deal with her problems anymore.

She will always make her life a drama, just don't let her write you into her script any more.

Tell her you hope that she has a good life and let you have your's.

Go out and pursue your own interests and find new friends and new romances with less drama. You don't need to carry anyone else's baggage but your own.

So, as Tal said, close that can of worms and keep on trucking!

You were doing good, don't take anymore backward steps, please.

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The ex left a year ago to go back for a 3rd time to her absive boyfriend, while I treated her great she never got over him, (my story was on her awhile ago)?

If she cares for you enough, she shouldnt leave and get back to you like a dog in a first place.Exes w/ respect, don't bother their dumpee and if they treated you like that, they should have a second thoughts if THEY SHOULD HAVE A NERVE TO EVER BUZZ.. Don't let be the second great choice fallback. You deserve better than that!


I have been in NC since the first part of the year, she has been breaking it, I have not heard from her since April.

Change numbers now!