My friend has been bringing her son to my house swimming. He mastubates all the time. He does not care who sees him. I asked my friend to tell him to stop and do it privately I have a six year old daughter also in the pool. She says its his comfort when he feels anxiety.Is something wrong with him?I am ready to tell her they are not welcome here anymore.Taren

To say it's a comfort thing about anxiety does not make it right. There is something wrong if the parent does not see anything wrong with this. Masturbation in itself is not bad but when the kid is doing it everywhere, yes there is something wrong with him. Remember though it is not the child's fault and never blame the child. Sounds like the parenting is something to be desired. These parents should be seeking out help for this child instead they are hiding away and accepting his behaviour which is not helping the kid.

There is SOMETHING WRONG WITH THE PARENTS, IN MY OPINION. For allowing it to go on without helping the child. Who knows what has happened to the child. Sounds like deeper issues are going on and does need some one to step in.

That is my opinion, does not mean it is right.

To say it's a comfort thing about anxiety does not make it right. There is something wrong if the parent does not see anything wrong with this. Masturbation in itself is not bad but when the kid is doing it everywhere, yes there is something wrong with him. Remember though it is not the child's fault and never blame the child. Sounds like the parenting is something to be desired. These parents should be seeking out help for this child instead they are hiding away and accepting his behaviour which is not helping the kid.

There is SOMETHING WRONG WITH THE PARENTS, IN MY OPINION. For allowing it to go on without helping the child. Who knows what has happened to the child. Sounds like deeper issues are going on and does need some one to step in.

That is my opinion, does not mean it is right. __________________

Well... how old is this child? If he's 5 or 6... then he's just curious, and a simple talk may adjust this behavior. If the kid's 11... then we may have bigger issues.

He is 6.He just does it all the time.

The kid might have issues or he just might be horny.Who's to say? He probably thinks it's normal to do it anywhere if his mother allows it anywhere.

Does he have a mental impairment by any chance?

I doubt there is anything wrong with him BUT the mother needs to be respectful of YOUR house.There is nothing wrong with wanting him to NOT yank the doodle out in public, especially in front of your daughter (which might be why he's doing it... hopefully not!)

You need to let her know that it is not acceptable and you do not want your daughter exposed.If he cannot go somewhere private and do it then maybe they should not come over to your house until he learns how to control it.And if it is anxiety, she needs to take the little fella to get help on how to control it because he cannot use that as a crutch all of his life.

PAREN:

You posted this twice, so I'll answer the same thing here.

The kid's 6, which means that he's probably not even doing this as a sexual mechanism, but more along the lines of curiosity and enjoyment. A simple talking to may correct this behavior.

As far as your house goes, it's your home. You can tell your friend she's not welcomed there as long as the kid's exhibiting this sort of behavior.

At the age of 6 a child does not masturbate for sexual release. As Sneezy said, this is curiosity and enjoyment. It's time for mom and dad to have a talk with junior, let him know that it's his body, and that's his private place, and as such touching himself should be done in private, not in front of anyone.