OK, so my wife was out on the town with some girl friends. She kissed a girl because I asked and sent me a picture.

Since then I have wanted her to (do more) with another woman. Possibly bring another woman home with her.

First aspect of this question... What are some tips to look for if she would want to do more with another woman,

2nd part of the question, how do I make it happen...

Anyone with experience with this?

Yes, fantasy, but...

Don't do it. There could be consequences.

You're married, and you want to have a threesome, well, I don't know what to say.

Since you asked though, and even though I don't agree with it, I'll give you some advice. Both you and your wife have to be comfortable and okay with this. It's best that you don't choose a friend that you or your wife knows, someone that is pretty much a stranger to both of you, someone you'll never see again.

You do realize that this type of fantasy, when brought to reality, usually doesn't work well, in fact, it will most likely end up in divorce. But hey, who cares, as long as you get your fantasy.

When does she get to bring a man home and fulfill her fantasy?

I would have to agree with Altenweg 2834728934%

I also want to point out that this is a great way to introduce std's into your marriage.

STD's, extramarital affairs, intramarital affairs, divorce, litigations, oh so many possibilities.

Nope, this isn't the way to go. Do you remember your vows? Remember, when you where at the church, in front of all those people, something about forsaking all others? Ring a bell?

Again, I have to agree!1

Yeah I'm thinking its not a good idea... keep as a fantacy and move on/...

Nothing wrong with fantasy, but some fantasies shouldn't become reality. This is one of them. You don't want to lose your wife over one night of fun. I'm glad you won't be going there, some road are better left untravelled, trust me on this one. :)

I would think so. Have you suggested perhaps watching porn of a threesome with your wife? Perhaps that's the safest way to live out this fantasy. There are certain things that you give up once you say "I do". And outrageous fantasies are one of them. Especially if you want to keep that marriage alive. Have you asked her what her fantasies are? You could possibly have as much fun or more living out one of hers (as long as its safe).

Safe and just the two of you.

Yeah that's the funny thing and I think the real reason I ask this question///// she doesn't like sex..?

However, when she came home that night I popped a porn in... first time we watched one and she was all about the sex... maybe the alcohol?? Not sire

Porns are okay until they become a crutch, too much of anything isn't good. Have you considered going to a sex shop, getting some toys, doing some role playing, just touching each other, exploring without sex.

By the way, how old are you two?

Has she said, "I do not like sex"? Most people that I have heard think that their partner doesn't sex is because they are not taking that partner's wants, needs, and desires into consideration so sex becomes more of a chore than a bonding experience.

Done the shops... got the electronics... only when she's drunk... seems like there's a problem other than me wondering if she will bring a girl home...

Oh no... she indicated she doesn't like sex... we have dated / been married for 10 years

Perhaps she doesn't KNOW how to like sex. Try pampering her, and see how that works. Set her up with her favorite romantic flick, rub her feet, and cuddle with her. $20 says she'll start to feel a little frisky!

Thanks for the advise... I'll give her a shot

You are welcome.

Have you asked her WHY she doesn't like sex? That could be a BIG piece of the puzzle here.

Oh... and if she's not liking sex with just the two of you--bringing someone ELSE into the picture isn't going to do anything but destroy your marriage.

It sounds to me like you need to communicate more about your sex life before taking your sex life to a different level. Seriously--if you can't talk about sex with each other, openly and honestly, you aren't going to HAVE good sex with each other. If you have a lot of difficulties discussing it, perhaps a third party (a marriage counselor or sex therapist) could be brought in to help the conversation move along the way it is supposed to.

I agree that if she doesn't like sex then asking her to do something like that can very likely totally destroy it all for you. What if she doesn't like sex because sub conscientiously she was brought up believing it was something wrong. Like Synn said you have to talk to her to see what would make it better for her.
I know that I do not like it all that great because I see it as a guy in control and not giving.
Like ChihuahuaMomma said you need to find out 'how' to please her so she gets to the place where she DOES enjoy it.
Your asking her to be with another girl could make her feel like she has less of a part in your intimacy and only make things worse.

ok, so my wife was out on the town with some girl friends. She kissed a girl because I asked and sent me a picture.

Since then I have wanted her to (do more) with another woman. Possibly bring another woman home with her.

First aspect of this question... What are some tips to look for if she would want to do more with another woman,

2nd part of the question, how do I make it happen...

Anyone with experience with this?

Yes, fantasy, but....


Have you thought about the possible downfall to this?

Perhaps your wife getting her pleasure from someone other than you? Or how you wife will react to seeing you with another female?

A marriage is about TWO people...

Doing what is easy, and not what is right, is a real road to ruination for you and for your young wife!

What is easy, a quick fix for a complex situation, always has great allure---an attractive "solution", easy, requires no thinking, instant gratification!!

You know, you don't have to act on every impulse you have. :D

CM, I just looked up ruination on my on-line dictionary... surprise! It is a word. :D

What? Jibberish, I say! Yet, I agree! Ruination it is!

You could really end up in a bind. What if she discovers that she would rather make love with another woman than with you? The situation could easily backfire on you. I have had several women co-workers over the years who decided to give it a try (after having decided that all men were bums) and none of them ever went back to men after that. It is a dangerous chance to take.

You do realise that threesomes don't actually end up being sex between 3 people, it usually ends up 2ppl have sex and the other person watching, so unless you're wanting this other woman to watch you 2 then either you or your wife will technically be cheating.

Plus you would have to be willing to bring a man into the bedroom for your wife (theoretically or otherwise) in order to avoid appearing selfish

Plus if you ask you wife she will most likely think she is not satisfying you and your looking for more