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scared123
Jul 10, 2008, 10:16 PM
I'm really scared because I mite be pregnant and I don't noe how to buy the test or where and I haven't told mi parents how do I tell them please helpp
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Sincerely :confused: under stress

ChihuahuaMomma
Jul 10, 2008, 10:21 PM
What is occurring that makes you think you might be pregnant? When was your last period? When was the intercourse?

You can purchase a pregnancy test at a grocery store, or better yet, go to planned parenthood and have a pregnancy test. They do not have to let your parents know.

ChihuahuaMomma
Jul 10, 2008, 10:30 PM
Can you answer so that we know how to help you?

scared123
Jul 10, 2008, 10:36 PM
OK the sexual activity was like a month ago and I haven't gotten my period yet mi breasts hurt and I've been craving weird foods

ChihuahuaMomma
Jul 10, 2008, 10:38 PM
When is your period usually? Did you guys use a condom? Are you on birth control?

Alty
Jul 10, 2008, 10:42 PM
How late is your period? Is your period regular? Best to test around a week or two after your period is late, you can get a home pregnancy test at your local pharmacy, use first morning urine. Or, like CM said, go to planned parenthood for a test, they'll also provide you with support, and hopefully birth control if you aren't pregnant.

Now I play the Mom card. Honey, you're 13, why are you having sex? Are you old enough to care for a child? If not, then don't have sex, because, news flash, even with protection, the pill, a condom and a backup, you could still get pregnant. You are too young to be doing this, so please, don't throw away your future, stop.

Okay, that's out of the way, having said that, it's a bit late for your situation. Get the test, get the result, we're here if you need us.

Good luck.

number9forlife1
Jul 11, 2008, 04:59 PM
Wow!I am 14 and if I were you I would go straight to a friend and tell them until the time is right to tell your parents! If your scared to tell you mom or dad or whoever live with make plans to go to a friends house and if they haven't checked the mail yet write a letter and put it in there,so your gone when they read it!but make sure you tell them and not hide it from them!all the best of luck to you!

ChihuahuaMomma
Jul 11, 2008, 08:11 PM
wow!i am 14 and if i were you i would go straight to a friend and tell them until the time is right to tell your parents! if your scared to tell you mom or dad or whoever live with make plans to go to a friends house and if they haven't checked the mail yet write a letter and put it in there,so your gone when they read it!but make sure you tell them and not hide it from them!all the best of luck to you!

You know, I'm going to have to disagree with this. I don't think telling her parents that she had sex will do anything but cause a problem, especially if she isn't pregnant. That's the reason that planned parenthood does not require parents to come with or even know a thing. Like I said, go to planned parenthood, get a pregnancy test, and then you'll know. When they call with the results they can even say that its one of your friends. I don't really know what telling a friend will accomplish, what confuse another 13-year-old?

ChihuahuaMomma
Jul 11, 2008, 08:13 PM
Oh, and STOP having sex. If you are not old enough, resposible enough, and stable enough to be a Mom, then you aren't ready to have sex. Simple as that. Sex does not equal love. And at your age its going to be very easy for you to get a bad reputation if you continue like this. Stop having sex until you are AT LEAST out of high school. Please?

number9forlife1
Jul 12, 2008, 12:27 PM
You know, I'm going to have to disagree with this. I don't think telling her parents that she had sex will do anything but cause a problem, especially if she isn't pregnant. That's the reason that planned parenthood does not require parents to come with or even know a thing. Like I said, go to planned parenthood, get a pregnancy test, and then you'll know. When they call with the results they can even say that its one of your friends. I don't really know what telling a friend will accomplish, what confuse another 13-year-old?



Well going to planned parenthood and NOT telling you parents is lying and going behind there backs!!

ChihuahuaMomma
Jul 12, 2008, 12:33 PM
It's not lying if she doesn't tell them anything. And for this situation I think it would be okay to go behind their backs.

Sonador101
Jul 12, 2008, 12:46 PM
Look herparents can help her,I'd make sure you were pregnant,but honesty is always best. Your feel better if you tell them. If you are pregnant they will be mad, but they love you, and will help you.plus you canthide being preganant, I mean your body will change and they'll nottice.

ChihuahuaMomma
Jul 12, 2008, 01:11 PM
I'm not saying that she should hide her pregnancy. I'm saying I see no reason that she should tell them if she isn't. Should she walk up to her parents and say, "Mom, Dad, I just want you to know that I'm NOT pregnant." What will that help.

DoulaLC
Jul 12, 2008, 01:12 PM
Oh, and STOP having sex. If you are not old enough, resposible enough, and stable enough to be a Mom, then you aren't ready to have sex. Simple as that. Sex does not equal love. And at your age its going to be very easy for you to get a bad reputation if you continue like this. Stop having sex until you are AT LEAST out of high school. Please?


I agree... if you feel you are ready and mature enough to be having sex, and all the possibilities that it can include, then you should be mature enough to be able to discuss it.

Feeling as though you might get in trouble if someone finds out, or that you have to hide what you are doing, is often a signal that you are probably doing something you shouldn't be just yet. Give it some careful consideration... and you can likely save yourself much unnecessary worry.

number9forlife1
Jul 13, 2008, 12:57 PM
Yeah but still I think she should just go up to her parents and be like yeah I'm not 100 percent sure but I might be pregnant,and they could help but if you go to Planned Parenthood and you ARE pregnant and you tell your parents they might get mad that you didn't tell them in the first place.that's what I was trying to say in the first point but I didn't say everything I meant to say

Fr_Chuck
Jul 13, 2008, 03:24 PM
Well of course as most know I would not send my worst enemy to Planned Parenthood, esp minor children, And also a for a 13 year old to have sex there had to be a boy involved and this type of thing needs to be told to a parent to put a stop to this sort of thing, and depending on the age of the boy perhaps something seroiusly done.

At 13 someone has raped this girl since a 13 year old can not agree to sex by age.

Next at 13 there can be other issues of having sex which may be best checked with a doctor that can only be done with the permission of a parent.

ChihuahuaMomma
Jul 13, 2008, 06:05 PM
Why do you dislike Planned Parenthood?

harrisinfinity
Jul 13, 2008, 06:17 PM
I know being young and pregnant is scarey, I have been there. I didn't know how to tell my parents either... one thing for sure is that you have to tell them so that you and the baby can get the care you have to have for you both to be healthy. I can understand that you are probably not ready for a baby, but remember a baby is a blessing from God and he does not make any mistakes. You have to do right by your baby or God will punish you for it. It is not easy trust me but you can do it. When your Baby looks at you they see no wrong everything about you is perfect to them. So give your Baby the PERFECT LOVE.

HAVE FAITH YOU CAN BE THE BEST MOTHER IN THE WORLD TO YOUR CHILD!!

ChihuahuaMomma
Jul 13, 2008, 08:12 PM
I know being young and pregnant is scarey, I have been there. I didn't know how to tell my parents either.... one thing for sure is that you have to tell them so that you and the baby can get the care you have to have for you both to be healthy. I can understand that you are probably not ready for a baby, but remember a baby is a blessing from God and he does not make any mistakes. You have to do right by your baby or God will punish you for it. It is not easy trust me but you can do it. When your Baby looks at you they see no wrong everything about you is perfect to them. so give your Baby the PERFECT LOVE.

HAVE FAITH YOU CAN BE THE BEST MOTHER IN THE WORLD TO YOUR CHILD!!!!!!!!!!!!!

She is not even sure if she is pregnant. And she does have options.

Sonador101
Jul 13, 2008, 09:03 PM
Oh I forgot to say something,
If you are pregnant, look into adoption. Because that way it can have a loving full mom and dad home. This way you can be a teen a little longer, and your kid can be in a family of adults.
Hope this helps (hope you aren't preg)
Sonador

number9forlife1
Jul 14, 2008, 07:26 AM
Why do I dislike planned parenthood?cause I have heard A lot of bad things about it!! my brother's ex girlfriend went there when she was pregnant and they wouldn't help her with anything!that's why I'm so against it plus they do abortions!! what kind of people would do that for a living?it's just a human that you are sucking out of the womb!

ScottGem
Jul 14, 2008, 07:37 AM
but remember a baby is a blessing from God and he does not make any mistakes. You have to do right by your baby or God will punish you for it.


OH PLEASE!!

A girl gets raped and this is a blessing?? Not everyone has your faith in the omnipotence and omnipresence of a god. You don't help a scared 13 yr old by telling her god will punish her. She probably feels god has already punished her for having sex.

Lets try to help the OP (like others have) rather than force your religious beliefs on her.

ScottGem
Jul 14, 2008, 07:41 AM
why do i dislike planned parenthood?cause i have heard ALOT of bad things about it!!!my brother's ex girlfriend went there when she was pregnant and they wouldn't help her with anything!that's why i'm so against it plus they do abortions!!!what kind of people would do that for a living?it's just a human that you are sucking out of the womb!


Every Planned Parenthood location is fairly independent. So its defintiely possible that brother's ex got a bad office or even a bad person. Or maybe there were other reasons they couldn't help her. But PP performs a valuable service to millions of people.

As to how people can do abortions for a living, its because they believe that the mother should have control overr their own bodies. They believe women have a right to not go through a pregnancy they didn't want.

I'm not saying I totally agree with them or that I would do such, but I do believe it's a service that some woman want and need.

Sonador101
Jul 14, 2008, 03:42 PM
Look I am going to say something, and if you want to start a thread go ahead just let me say.
I am sorry but abortion is ending the life of a human being, wheather she was raped or not.you can't say she has the right to choose because we can'tchoose to kill our children that are out of the womb, can we? So if a child has a beating heart, its alive, and its murder I am sorry.

ScottGem
Jul 14, 2008, 03:59 PM
look i am going to say something, and if you want to start a thread go ahead just let me say.
i am sorry but abortion is ending the life of a human being, wheather she was raped or not.you can't say she has the right to choose because we can'tchoose to kill our children that are out of the womb, can we? so if a child has a beating heart, its alive, and its murder i am sorry.

This has been discussed in other threads so I'm going to answer you here and then no more discussion here.

The belief that life begins at conception is a religious belief, its not established scientific fact. You are free to believe what you want, but the law of this land is that life does not begin at conception and therefore abortion is not murder. The people who are pro-choicehave the right to believe what they want.

Yes, at some point a fetus can survive outside the womb. But until that point, its not a life, in my opinion and the opinion of many others. As such it's a part of a woman's body and her choice. You also have to remember, what pregnancy does to a women's body. Again her choice to go through that. You cannot impose your beliefs on someone else.

ChihuahuaMomma
Jul 14, 2008, 08:30 PM
I'm going to be honest, I see this thread going in a dangerous direction. I think it's probably time for it to be closed. I was already horribly offended by my rights as a woman being attacked, and the things that were stated being incorrect yet other people agreeing with the incorrectness,so I cannot imagine how this affected this terrified, confused young lady. However, this is the young lady's choice, she's gotten her answers, and has yet to return. I no longer see a purpose for this thread.

melissa1978
Jul 15, 2008, 11:20 AM
Should this really be about telling or not telling parents? It is about a child possibly having a child. The vast majority of parents will forgive in the end, if not right at the beginning. This girl needs to get on the ball and do SOMETHING! Time has not come to a screeching halt, and there may be a baby developing at an alarmingly fast rate inside her uterus! Go to the drugstore, or Planned Parenthood, or wherever, and buy a test. Pee on it, read the box, and compare the results in the test window with those on the box. Then if it's positive, tell your parents. You thought you were old enough to have sex, now act like it! I am in no way judging you. I am 29 and have 3 children. I had sex when I was 12!! Should I have? NO WAY! But I did. Good luck with this. Everything will be OK. I am sure of it. Just get over you fear. Fear does not stop reality.

ChihuahuaMomma
Jul 15, 2008, 11:58 AM
Melissa, don't run around giving people reddies because they ask a question. Was my question factually incorrect? No. Read the rules here before using the functions, please. You seem like someone who could be here for the long haul, I'd hate for you to not know how to use the system

melissa1978
Jul 17, 2008, 12:28 PM
What the heck is "reddie"? And what is this about gaining reputation around this place? I originally stumbled upon this site to find the title of a movie, and thought it was something fun to do while nursing the baby! But no trouble was meant to be caused. Sorry.

southerngalps
Jul 17, 2008, 01:13 PM
Melissa, if you've noticed, under the first comment you stated, I gave you a agree comment. This is starting your reputation. If you go to your profile, you will see a green mark. Your disagrees will give red marks. This is building the reputation. Disagrees, really, are only supposed to be used for factually wrong answers. I came to thius site for a movie as well. You'll get the hang of it. :)