Hi I'm 14 yrs old. I just recently met my mom after her being gone for almost 11 yrs with out contacting. And secret about him molesting me for as long as I can remember was revealed when coming down with my dad to finally meet her. And he was sent to a hotel and was supposed to wait until the court date but disappeared not being heard from since. It was almost 5 months ago. I would like to know how to cope with him being gone after the secret was revealed. And yes he was around but I practically had to fend for myself for a few years and I would also like to know what I need to get emancipated when I hit the age of 16 wich is less then a yr and a half.

Hi! I need help to figure out how to find myself. So here's the story. I just lost my dad 5 months ago and I don't know where he is. And I just recently found my mom after not seeing her or talking to her in almost 11 yrs. And my dad and I came down here so I could finally meet her but when my dad left and I was placed under my mom's care my ENTIRE personality changed. When I was in Arizona I was running the streets getting drunk and high all the time not giving a crap about anything. And because what I was enduring from my dad I built up barriors around me so if people started talking crap I would knock there teeth out or cuss them out. And I never needed anybody and didn't lean on anybody or let anyone in but this one girl. And so she was put behind my barriors and I was willing to give up my life for her. Then I let this guy in (which was a stupid idea) and we were together for almost 4 months until I came down here to Indiana. I also never listened to my dad or anyone for that matter. But now if people talk crap about me I don't let it get to me. I'm going through some emotional problems because of my dad and the girl I let in. I crave weed more than ever now and I smoke more than used to. And because of what I've gone through most of my life I'm to the point of wanting to get emancipated as soon as I hit the age of 16 Just so I can be sure that my family can't hurt me any longer. So how do I find myself now? I'm lost in an unfimiliar world.

At least it sounds like you are going in a better direction. You will find yourself. Learn something from things that happen and try to use everything for the positive. Think long term about things and where you would like to see things going. Set goals and work toward them. Eventually it will all come to you and you won't feel that way.

It would be helpful to know at least something about the big secret that was revealed in order to help you the best here. Nothing to fear here. You are anonymous here.

Thanks!