Dr Watson
Jul 8, 2008, 02:00 PM
Last Feb/March I had a break up with my girlfriend of a year... several long posts on this site with lots of great advice back then. I was in pretty bad shape there for a while...
Now it has been about 4 months since our breakup and I have been working at moving on. There have been occasional texts between us but for the most part no contact has been the norm. Since the breakup I have moved back to a my old neighborhood, closer to my old friends and family, increased my time in the gym, limited my time at the local pub, lost about 15 lbs and am playing golf 3/4 times a week, even started dating a little. Positive changes all.
But, I haven't been able to forget her. I have been surviving the "detaching" of our relationship, but still unable to completely put "us" behind me. Then, out of the blue, 2 nites ago she texts me and asks to have a drink, that she needed some advice. I KNOW I should have ignored the text, but I didn't and I met her last night. It was a little weird at first, not having seen each other for so long, but our "drink" lasted about 5 hours. There was a bad storm and everyone had left but us and the bartender and the music was playing and we were laughing and reminicing. Then with a hug and a kiss she was gone.
And I am left today "dazed and confused"! Why would she, after all this time, even text me in the first place? And now where do I go from here? I am both swept off my feet and devastated at the same time! Does she miss me, because lord knows I miss her even if I don't let myself think about it. I need some objective help. Fast.
Now it has been about 4 months since our breakup and I have been working at moving on. There have been occasional texts between us but for the most part no contact has been the norm. Since the breakup I have moved back to a my old neighborhood, closer to my old friends and family, increased my time in the gym, limited my time at the local pub, lost about 15 lbs and am playing golf 3/4 times a week, even started dating a little. Positive changes all.
But, I haven't been able to forget her. I have been surviving the "detaching" of our relationship, but still unable to completely put "us" behind me. Then, out of the blue, 2 nites ago she texts me and asks to have a drink, that she needed some advice. I KNOW I should have ignored the text, but I didn't and I met her last night. It was a little weird at first, not having seen each other for so long, but our "drink" lasted about 5 hours. There was a bad storm and everyone had left but us and the bartender and the music was playing and we were laughing and reminicing. Then with a hug and a kiss she was gone.
And I am left today "dazed and confused"! Why would she, after all this time, even text me in the first place? And now where do I go from here? I am both swept off my feet and devastated at the same time! Does she miss me, because lord knows I miss her even if I don't let myself think about it. I need some objective help. Fast.