Hello, My name is elly. I am 17 years old. I have lots of friends but one very special friend. He has been my best friend for about four years now. We are not like normal bestfriends, we act like a couple. When we are not with each other we spend our time talking about one another or on the phone to each other. I know this because he tells me as well as everyone else. But when were with each other all we do is wind each other up and have peti little arguments but the funny thing is, we enjoy it. Its like we almost thrive of one another. The reason why I am writing this is because I am terribly confused. He'll hold my hand, play with my hair, tickle my arm and back. The reason why I am confused on how he feels about me is because I have always had very strong feelings for him and he knows this. I feel like he is playing on my emotions. We could be in a room full of people and the only person he will notice and talk to will be me. I would ask him if he fancied me myself if I wasn't so shy. I am scared if I came out upfront to him that he will deny everything. We sleep in the same bed at sleepovers all the time and end up cuddling and holding hands during our sleep. I just love him so much :( . I'm so confused in what to do or think, Please could someone help me. Thank you x x x x:confused:

It sounds like you do have a lot of communication, so can I ask you a few questions? Have you EVER expressed your romantic feelings towards him directly? No kidding around, but in a serious conversation. He might be shy about his feelings, and waiting for you to make the first move, to open up the conversation between you. It sounds as if he is being repectful towards you. Another thing to consider... could he possibly be gay? Just a thought. Is it also possible that he has a hard time opening up with his feelings?

I would just come right out and tell him slowly and carefully, that you've come to have special feelings for him, and see how he reacts. Then you can take it from there, depending on his answers. He just may be feeling the same way you do, but if neither of you make the first move, and open up the communication, you will both sit and wonder if it might have been! Take it slow, and just let it fall into place.

Good Luck!

Communication is key here, you can't expect us guys to pick up on hints, we are extremely dumb when it comes to female hints. They may seem obvious to you but not so much to us. Just sit him down and lay it out on the line. If he doesn't feel the same way, it would hurt for a little bit but at least you would know for sure and not be in limbo all the time.

Another thing to consider...

Maybe its just me (I hope not), but women tend to expect the guy to make the first move, chivalry and all that. A lot of times the guy can't see the signs and it is a huge leap of faith to open up to a girl like that. He might be scared of rejection (most are) and might be afraid to tell you.

Maybe he's just a little scared...

Bit the bullet, and end your torture, Talk about it with him.

I remember when I was your age and the same thing happened to me, I just told the boy how I felt and he said the same... or you could kiss him then he will know how you feel , if he kissed you back he likes you to, and from what you have said its pretty obviouse that he likes you a lot :)