I have know this guy since I was about 16 at the time he seemed to be interested in me but I was dating someone else and not very interested, but we still hung out from time to to. As I got older we continued to spend time together despite my other relationships and I began to like him a bit more. When ever he and I would hang out he would usually take me out for drinks at a bar or club or take me to dinner at some restaurant but he has always been very unreliable. On several occasions he would say we were going to hang out and he would either stand me up or call and cancel. I've gotten mad, gone off on him and stopped returning his calls here and there yet he has persisted in trying to communicate and spend time with me. I am now 26 years old and he's 28. When I was about 23 or 24 we slept together once and although he didn't last long I felt good about the evening. Later on he then told me that it was a mistake and that we acted out of lust. Naturally I was upset and hurt because I wondered why he'd been pursuing me for all these years just to say that and end it after one encounter. But I let it go, I did not go off, I was seeing someone else anyway. (Im always seeing someone else).

Anyway he's since apologized for that statement and stated that he regrets it etc. And we've continued to spend time together. We talk on the phone about once every month. When we are together things are hot, he's all over me, but not in a disrespectful way. He rubs my back legs, kisses my neck etc.

Once we hung out and I even threw up on him after having too much to drink. He cleaned me up and stayed there with me all night while I was passed out.

My question is after all this history between myself and this guy I wonder what he wants from me? Does he just want to be friends or does he want more? If he wants more why hasn't he taken more assertive action to get what he wants? I'm so confused especially now that I actually care what he wants.

I think he sees you as a sister and maybe wants more but can't get past a sister image.
Also, he can't get past the I was seeing someone else anyway. (Im always seeing someone else).

Idk, it just seems like he's debating making it serious. Like NH4U said, it can be all just a sister image. Maybe he doesn't want to be serious, and just wants a friend-fling? Just keep your heart out of it, if you can, and just try to use your mind. He stood you up, but kept calling you. You guys slept together, but he said he regretted it. It's the things like that, that should make you wonder what should really happen. You know? Hope I helped.

I think you should ask him "what does he want with you or where does he see what your have going." If you don't you will continue to confused as well and instead of guessing, see what he has to say. Just be prepare for anything. He might want more or just want to be friends, but you never know for sure until you ask him.

It doesn't matter what he wants. It only matters what you want at this point. You two have know each long enough to not need to "decode" each other. You can just talk, or if you want more then kiss the boy! These things should progress normally and naturally and not need "interpretation".

His actions speak for him, he's there, he's attentive, he's playfully physical. I'd say his actions say he's interested and not a sexual brute. That's all.

So, what do YOU want. Go with that answer and act it out. Time's a'wasting!!

He likes you a lot, that's clear, If it wasn't for the physical, you would be great friends, but honestly, he really isn't into you that deep, or he would have made a move. I think your to available for him to even consider the next level. I really think your to close to the situation to know how you really feel, let alone him.

Many guys have a distorted idea of love they think it is that you are caring, you do this for them, you do that for them, you are there for them and then they take you for granted because they are liking you for you but leaving themselves out of the equation of what they need to contribute to the relationship.