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LADIIJOKER10
Jul 2, 2008, 09:19 AM
My Man Drinks And Smokes Kush And I Want To Know If That Is What's Causing Use Not To Be Parents?
plonak
Jul 2, 2008, 09:37 AM
OK what is kush? And why did you put this in the teen section.. my God hope you're not a teen that's trying to get pregnant.
smokedetector
Jul 2, 2008, 09:50 AM
Ha at first I thought it said "My man drinks and smokes sushi"
I was thinking, honey you've got bigger problems than not getting pregnant.
Anyway, I don't know if smoking and drinking causes infertility or decreased sperm count or anything, but from read your other post about it only being 3 months, I say don't worry about anything for another couple of months at least. If you want to try to increase his sperm count, I saw a study done that if a guy as 1-3 fresh fruit smoothies a day, it can significantly help in some cases, though it was over a six month period. And if you are a teen trying to get pregnant, I urge you to take a look at similar posts about teen pregnancy and seriously consider waiting. You're going to do what you want regardless of what we say, but at least gain a little more perspective on the situation. Good luck.
LADIIJOKER10
Jul 2, 2008, 10:45 AM
We Are Thinking Of Waiting Because He Wants Me To Finish School And Get My Carrer Ready Even Though We Do Want To Be Parents Right Know We Try To Think About The Consecuenses That Are Going To Be Poping On Us I Play Vooleyball And I Have A Passion For It And He Don't Want Me To Get Pregnant And Blame It On Our Kid That I Can't Play But Honestly Ill Leave What I Have Just To Take Care Of My Babies Because That's The One Thing That Will Make Me The Happiest Mom And Wife I Tell Him Nt To Worry About It Because Ill Leave Anything Just To Take Care Of Them And Be Happy I Know I Won't Ever Regret This
plonak
Jul 2, 2008, 11:05 AM
I have a suggestion.. before you decide to do this.. go volunteer at a day care, in the infant section... stay there the whole day.. try this out for a week, then spend time with the toddlers and help take care of them for a week.. just try it.. it may give you some perspective on what it's like to be a mother of screaming children
Sonador101
Jul 2, 2008, 11:08 AM
You will. He's right grow up get a career LIVE A LITTLE. Then have a baby. I know how it feels to want a baby, but will the baby even be happy, can you guys even afforda baby.you put this in the teens section so I assume you are a teen and by your posts you don't sound like aresponisble mother. Don't have a kid, like I said you will regret.
Look think about it, what do you want to do in your life.(other than have a kid) OK forget about 95% of it, you'll have to putit on hold for the next18 years. OK maybe you can leave the kid alone for awhile when he's 15 but still/
OK I know you will do what youwant to do no matter what we say, but he is right, listen to him
smokedetector
Jul 2, 2008, 11:27 AM
What is wrong with doing both? There is a good option here, which is play volleyball and finish school and get a career and become financially sound enough and THEN have a baby. Then EVERYBODY is happy instead of the kid growing up embarrassed to tell other kids his mom's as young as some of their older sisters and you not having enough money to send a lunch with him to school and going on welfare and food stamps. You can have your cake and eat it to, if you're just a little patient. Get a plant, a dog, a job at a day care center over the summer, or babysit your cousin or something. Make absolute SURE this is something you want to do RIGHT NOW and you are willing to not do ANYTHING else that you want to do for the next 2 decades. There's no harm in waiting, but there could be a lot of harm in rushing things. I'm not trying to put you down, I'm just trying to point out to you that what you read in book or see on TV doesn't come CLOSE to what it's like to live it 24/7/365 for 18 years. Your kid will be your age one day. Scary, but true. Lead by example, and start now. If you wouldn't want your teenager to get pregnant, don't do it yourself. Just something to chew on.
LADIIJOKER10
Jul 2, 2008, 11:47 AM
Ive Been Going Through This For About 8 Years I Have 2 Lil Sis And I Always Take Care Of Them Me And My Man Since My Mom Is Harly Home I Take Care Of Them They Cry And Do There Things I Know What It Is To Be A Mom I Practecly Took My Moms Place For Them We Kan Afford It He Has A Full Time Job And Rigth Know I Have A Part Time Job We Got A House And He Has A Car I Now Its A lot Of Responsibility And I Know I Kan Take It