italianbella
Jul 1, 2008, 12:00 PM
I was with my boyfriend for a year, and nothing was wrong we spent every moment we could together because we enjoyed eachothers company. Like every relationship we had our arguments but it was always over stupid meaningless things. He'd tell me he'd need his space, and id give it to him and we were fine again.
On our one year anniversary he took me out for dinner, everything was fine we joked we laughed we talked, it happened to be victoria day long weekend so there was fireworks going on downtown which we had plans for to see later. After dinner we went back to his place to watch some of the basketball game, and then left to catch the fireworks around 9:30, still at this time no problems no issues we were completely fine. On the way home I suggested passing by his house again to finish watching the game so we went back there and just hung out for a bit. Later when it was time for me to go home I jokefully said no (as I always do) and being the sweetheart that he is, he agreed to 5 more minutes, when I turned to look at him and smile he pushed my face away down onto his chest, but kind of rudely (mind you we have a joke about this where I like to bug him and he laughs it off by pushing my face away.. I know it sounds corny and dumb but it's a joke) anyway this time when he didn't it, it seemed almost like there was an anger towards it, so I slowly moved to the edge of the bed to grab my purse and jacket, and while I was sitting there he just sat there and watched me for 5 minutes until he finally got up and walked in front of me and said I'm sorry you don't deserve my attitude. (he can be a very grumpy and stubburn guy sometimes, but I put up with it because he's an amazing boyfriend he treated me like a princess, everyone gets grumpy sometimes). I turned to him and sort of laughed it off like oh wow your apologizing you never apologize why you say that now? And he responded because you don't deserve that. Jokefully I was like well treat me nicer then, or would you rather not be with me. Stupid thing for me to say I know but I wasn't thinking, but he never answered, so I was confused. One the drive home we weren't talking at all and when I looked over at him his face was very sad looking, and I asked him what was wrong, he pulled over and started sobbing and crying tell me how he cared about me so much and that I'm an amazing girlfriend and the perfect girl for him, but he needed space and he needed time to be alone. Obviousely I dunnowhere this came from, but he promised me he would take me out and we could be friends and what not.
Well anyway, that week, because that happened on a Monday we didn't talk at all, until the Friday when I received a message from him asking me if I wanted to hang out and go see the movie he promised me we would see. We hung out and everything was great we had fun. That weekend I left him alone and he called me on the following Monday and again we hung out on the Friday and everything went great again.
The Friday after we never hung out I sort of left him alone because we had a REALLY hot day and he's a roofer and it's a very drainig job for him, he spends a lot of his time sleeping. I thought everything was going good so I decided to have "the talk" with him, well boy was I wrong it went terrible he still told me he wanted his space and that he cared about me a lot and he wasn't asking me to wait for him if I didn't want to but he still needed time. After that we hadn't talked for a week maybe and I haven't seen him since, but he kept in touch with me, I asked him if he wanted to hang out 1 night and he told me he would call me back and he didn't. But the following day he apologized like crazy because he had fallen asleep. I told him it was okie and he promised me he would take me out another time.
That week he called me a few times to talk to see how I was doing. When the Friday came around I got really frusterated with the situation and when he called I asked if he wanted to grab a coffee, well he was going to a friends soccer game and told me if it wasn't late he would pass by and see me, because he had a busy weekend with work ahead of him. That was fine but when 9 30pm rolled around I really started getting annoyed so I sent him a text msging telling him it was late and I'm sure that with his busy schedule he'd be tired so we would reschedual for another time. Sure enough 15 minutes later he called me on his drive home apologizing because the game had just ended but it was late. He could hear the grumpyness in my voice even though I was trying to hide it, I guess he knows me to well so he asked if I was mad, and in a kindest way I could I asked him what it would matter to him if I was? And if he still cared about me like he said he did. He said of course I care but I don't think this is the right time for this conversation, mind you its been a month and a half , when the heck ever is the right time? Anyway. We spoke about it he told me he cared and I told him if he did than he needed a better way of showing it, so we kind of resolved the conflict and ended that conversation and he said he would call me soon. That was 2 fridays ago. Last Monday I had some exciting news to tell him so I called him and when he didn't answer I thought it was OK because he would return my phone call like he always has, but he never did, its now been over a week and I've heard nothing from him.
I know I should just move on and forget about him, but I care about him so much, no matter what I do everything and anything reminds me of him. The last thing I want is to lose contact with him, and I'm terrified I'll never see or hear from him again. I really just want to be with him again, but I don't know how to go about it.
Any advice on what I should do from here on out?? :(
On our one year anniversary he took me out for dinner, everything was fine we joked we laughed we talked, it happened to be victoria day long weekend so there was fireworks going on downtown which we had plans for to see later. After dinner we went back to his place to watch some of the basketball game, and then left to catch the fireworks around 9:30, still at this time no problems no issues we were completely fine. On the way home I suggested passing by his house again to finish watching the game so we went back there and just hung out for a bit. Later when it was time for me to go home I jokefully said no (as I always do) and being the sweetheart that he is, he agreed to 5 more minutes, when I turned to look at him and smile he pushed my face away down onto his chest, but kind of rudely (mind you we have a joke about this where I like to bug him and he laughs it off by pushing my face away.. I know it sounds corny and dumb but it's a joke) anyway this time when he didn't it, it seemed almost like there was an anger towards it, so I slowly moved to the edge of the bed to grab my purse and jacket, and while I was sitting there he just sat there and watched me for 5 minutes until he finally got up and walked in front of me and said I'm sorry you don't deserve my attitude. (he can be a very grumpy and stubburn guy sometimes, but I put up with it because he's an amazing boyfriend he treated me like a princess, everyone gets grumpy sometimes). I turned to him and sort of laughed it off like oh wow your apologizing you never apologize why you say that now? And he responded because you don't deserve that. Jokefully I was like well treat me nicer then, or would you rather not be with me. Stupid thing for me to say I know but I wasn't thinking, but he never answered, so I was confused. One the drive home we weren't talking at all and when I looked over at him his face was very sad looking, and I asked him what was wrong, he pulled over and started sobbing and crying tell me how he cared about me so much and that I'm an amazing girlfriend and the perfect girl for him, but he needed space and he needed time to be alone. Obviousely I dunnowhere this came from, but he promised me he would take me out and we could be friends and what not.
Well anyway, that week, because that happened on a Monday we didn't talk at all, until the Friday when I received a message from him asking me if I wanted to hang out and go see the movie he promised me we would see. We hung out and everything was great we had fun. That weekend I left him alone and he called me on the following Monday and again we hung out on the Friday and everything went great again.
The Friday after we never hung out I sort of left him alone because we had a REALLY hot day and he's a roofer and it's a very drainig job for him, he spends a lot of his time sleeping. I thought everything was going good so I decided to have "the talk" with him, well boy was I wrong it went terrible he still told me he wanted his space and that he cared about me a lot and he wasn't asking me to wait for him if I didn't want to but he still needed time. After that we hadn't talked for a week maybe and I haven't seen him since, but he kept in touch with me, I asked him if he wanted to hang out 1 night and he told me he would call me back and he didn't. But the following day he apologized like crazy because he had fallen asleep. I told him it was okie and he promised me he would take me out another time.
That week he called me a few times to talk to see how I was doing. When the Friday came around I got really frusterated with the situation and when he called I asked if he wanted to grab a coffee, well he was going to a friends soccer game and told me if it wasn't late he would pass by and see me, because he had a busy weekend with work ahead of him. That was fine but when 9 30pm rolled around I really started getting annoyed so I sent him a text msging telling him it was late and I'm sure that with his busy schedule he'd be tired so we would reschedual for another time. Sure enough 15 minutes later he called me on his drive home apologizing because the game had just ended but it was late. He could hear the grumpyness in my voice even though I was trying to hide it, I guess he knows me to well so he asked if I was mad, and in a kindest way I could I asked him what it would matter to him if I was? And if he still cared about me like he said he did. He said of course I care but I don't think this is the right time for this conversation, mind you its been a month and a half , when the heck ever is the right time? Anyway. We spoke about it he told me he cared and I told him if he did than he needed a better way of showing it, so we kind of resolved the conflict and ended that conversation and he said he would call me soon. That was 2 fridays ago. Last Monday I had some exciting news to tell him so I called him and when he didn't answer I thought it was OK because he would return my phone call like he always has, but he never did, its now been over a week and I've heard nothing from him.
I know I should just move on and forget about him, but I care about him so much, no matter what I do everything and anything reminds me of him. The last thing I want is to lose contact with him, and I'm terrified I'll never see or hear from him again. I really just want to be with him again, but I don't know how to go about it.
Any advice on what I should do from here on out?? :(