Hi there,
I am married to a bipolar disorder man for 6 years now.we have a very beautiful 5 years old daughter.before pregenancy everything was so fine and beautiful but after pregnancy my husband to sit online and start meeting girls for sex.and I also found out that he had physical relation with few.since he is bipolar he is most of the time in his mood swinging episod and depressed. If I creat argument and when I do he askes me to leave him.I stayed with him thinking that may be one day he will change.and now its been 5 years and nothing changed at all.I believe that with his behaviour I have found myself to be too annoying and crazy sometime.I talk to myself when no one around and sometime imagine myself being senseless.I wish that memory was gone completely.he even had affair with one girl for 6 months and when I finally said that I will leave him he cried and cried asking for forgiveness which I did but still the situation is same.he is online most of the time asking girls for sex and I am in bed wishing that he would stop someday.he says that he is very happy with me and cannot live without me and I believe him but on the other hand I can take it no longer.I am not god and I have lots of pain inside me which I cannot bare anymore.we talk several time but all conversation ends up nicely.he says that he will no longer continue but he starts over again.he says that he don't want to spoil our relationship so we even talk with his psychatric but she gave him some sleeping pills and said that if he sleeps then he won't chat if he still continues the he is like that she cannot help.wel he is still chating with girls and trying to meet them so what should I do?I even decide to leave him but I love him so much that other sex partner is a less expenisve when it comes to our love but still those things hurt me and is making me insane day by day.I right now live in poland and findinf girls for him is not hard. Help me before our relation is destroyed completely and I bocome insane.
Thanks

It will never change. I stayed with my bi polar x for almost 10 years.
Every time I left he swore he would change. So we would get back together and within 3 weeks to 3 months he would be back to the very same ways.
I stayed for the (4) kids. It isn't worth it.
You can not change him. You have to live with it or get out of the sham of a relationship.
As long as you stay he will think everything is fine, take you for granted and never change.

Do what is best for you and your child, Move on with your life, staying with someone that will cheat on you is not worth it at all.

I agree with the above. Your child deserves better. You want her to see what a healthy relationship is, and right now she's growing up thinking that the way your relationship is with your husband is the way a relationship is supposed to be. It's not. Don't you want better for your daughter? And yourself? If even therapists can't fix him, how could you? People don't usually change for love. Only in the movies. He has learned that being manic one minute and depressed the next allows him to get by with more things. My best friend is bipolar. She is always full speed ahead bouncing off the walls, and the minute anyone or anything upsets her, she gets really angry to where you're scared of her or gets depressed and says she'll kill herself if whatever is happening continues to happen. Her mother treats her like a baby, but I don't let her get away with anything. I tell her she's being ridiculous, acting out, and I tell her when she's depressed that the world doesn't revolve around her, even though she is a good part of it and I wish her to stay. She doesn't change, but she listens for the moment. What I'm saying is your husband has learned that being bipolar gets him things because he can scare people into it or make them feel sorry for him (not that he chooses to be bipolar, but he capitalizes on it and uses it to his advantage). It has worked on you so far. You are still with him after 5 years of this behavior. He is treating you horribly. If he didn't have bipolar disorder, you wouldn't be with him. Knowing what you know now, would you have married him? You can't change his life, but you can change yours. Don't let his disorder ruin 3 lives. Do right by yourself and your daughter. She will thank you for it one day, if she understands it. Best of luck.

Bipolar people as a rule are quite selfish and manipulative. I have known several (lived with one for 1 1/2 years) and they all seem to be alike whether male or female. If you want to stay and keep on keeping on for the next 100 years nothing is going to change him. He can't even change himself. They only tend to get worse when they are going through their cycling episodes. Had my house complely trashed by a bipolar. I threw him out shortly afterwards when I realized he's nuts , not me. He kept trying to brain wash me into having him stay here by saying stupid stuff like I would be alone, etc. Didn't fall for it. Am quite happy and content with my life some 3+ years since I told him to hit the road Jack and don't you come back no more, no more, no more.

You are starting to doubt your own self worth. Please stop and take stock of yourself. Sit down and make a list of yourself with him and a list of yourself without him. See which list makes YOU happy. Forget him, he probably does not know the meaning or feeling of love. Most of them don't. I know this for a fact. Have heard it out of their own mouths many times that they have virtually no idea what love is and how to treat another person in a loving way. As a friend of mine so aptly put it "they have a head full of bad wiring" and they aren't wired up for emotions the way you and I are wired up. Don't beat yourself up over this. It is not your fault. You tried, you tried your best and didn't fail. You just woke the heck up and started living your own life without his BS.

Wow. This sounds almost like me. He was diagnoses right after our first daughter was born. He carries on interent romances. Not sex but just as bad. His latest is with a girl in Texas. They are always far away. He believes that it does not mean anything. It is hurtful. I am 8 month pregnant now and I should have known better but I believed in him. He stopped taking his meds for 2 months and it all went down hill. So here I am with a major decision to make. Move on from my comfortable home and life or stay and be torchered. What if he eventually progresses to an affair. He could give me a disease because I cannot trust that he would be safe. I have to move on. He has not taken full responsibility for his actions. Good Luck.

I also agree with all the above. I know how much it hurts to leave someone that you love but its true that he will not change for you because he would have stopped and meant it the first time. I promise that the pain will go away and you will be able to move on and possibly meet someone else that is going to treat you so much better than him. It will take time but that time will be so worth it in the end. Oh and by the way, if you two were seeing a therapist and they say they can't help you, then you are seeing the wrong person. No therapist or counselor should ever give up on people. But the choice is yours whether to leave him and start a new beginning for yourself.