crushed33
Jun 29, 2008, 02:57 PM
I dated this girl for four years. We met while I was in my freshman year of college and she was a senior in high school. We instantly feel in love and had a summer of romance. I was her prom date and we did everything and anything together that summer. She went away to college in the fall and every weekend I went up to visit her. WE could not be apart for more than 4 days. One day after a stupid fight she hung up the phone and told me she never wanted to talk to me again. A month and half later of no communication she called me to ask me if I moved on. She was re hangin out with her ex boyfriend so I played it smooth. That night she was at a formal and some guy raped her. She could have called anyone but she called me. She woke up the next day and acted really cold towards me as if she still hated me. We began talking slowly again and by winter break we were on our way to getting back together.
I know she had been through a lot but 1 week after she went back to school for her winter break we found out she was pregnant. I know it was from me but from the rape because we hadn't had sex since being back together. I was there for her and told her no matter what she wanted to do I would be there for her. I told her she could either have the abortion or I would drop out of college and become a police officer because I had already passed all the tests and we would just tell everyone itw as mine. She went for the abortion and I did everything and anything to pay for it. I went every single week and drove her back to my house on the weekends for the enttire semester. The next year she attempted to go back but ended up coming home to be with me. HER CHOICE! Every time she went to visit her sorority sisters she was a little different. She didn't want to go to counseling so I was her crutch. She always thought of me as her hero. Eventually she gained enough strength to go to a counselor and get help 2 years later. The second session she told her mom about the rape and not the abortion. After that the counselor said she was good and didn't need to see her. Six months ago she finally came out and told her mom she had the abortion. She has not seen anyone since but always told me she wanted to.
Anyway in January we went on a cruise and were so in love. When we came back I graduated college and got a teaching job right out of school. After that life was busy. She was doing her student teaching and time was very busy. All of her friends were graudating college and she still has another half of a semester. THe last time she went to Rhode island we got into a fight and she said she couldn't do this anymore its over. She called me that Sunday and said iw ant to do this in person and broke up with me in person.
For 2 months there was no contact until the other night. SHe called and was yelling and crying because her friend got engaged and she said that was supposed to be her and I ruined everything. She said she hated me and that she was the happiest she had ever been and I never loved her,, and I will never get her back and that she wished me a life of misery.. and to never speak to her again its causing her too much pain(she said all this crying hysterical).. I responded with I loved her and I wish her all the happiness and that I'm not angry with her. THough I wasn't always perfect in the relationship I know I was a great boyfriend... what does all this mean?
I know she had been through a lot but 1 week after she went back to school for her winter break we found out she was pregnant. I know it was from me but from the rape because we hadn't had sex since being back together. I was there for her and told her no matter what she wanted to do I would be there for her. I told her she could either have the abortion or I would drop out of college and become a police officer because I had already passed all the tests and we would just tell everyone itw as mine. She went for the abortion and I did everything and anything to pay for it. I went every single week and drove her back to my house on the weekends for the enttire semester. The next year she attempted to go back but ended up coming home to be with me. HER CHOICE! Every time she went to visit her sorority sisters she was a little different. She didn't want to go to counseling so I was her crutch. She always thought of me as her hero. Eventually she gained enough strength to go to a counselor and get help 2 years later. The second session she told her mom about the rape and not the abortion. After that the counselor said she was good and didn't need to see her. Six months ago she finally came out and told her mom she had the abortion. She has not seen anyone since but always told me she wanted to.
Anyway in January we went on a cruise and were so in love. When we came back I graduated college and got a teaching job right out of school. After that life was busy. She was doing her student teaching and time was very busy. All of her friends were graudating college and she still has another half of a semester. THe last time she went to Rhode island we got into a fight and she said she couldn't do this anymore its over. She called me that Sunday and said iw ant to do this in person and broke up with me in person.
For 2 months there was no contact until the other night. SHe called and was yelling and crying because her friend got engaged and she said that was supposed to be her and I ruined everything. She said she hated me and that she was the happiest she had ever been and I never loved her,, and I will never get her back and that she wished me a life of misery.. and to never speak to her again its causing her too much pain(she said all this crying hysterical).. I responded with I loved her and I wish her all the happiness and that I'm not angry with her. THough I wasn't always perfect in the relationship I know I was a great boyfriend... what does all this mean?