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bush
Jun 27, 2008, 02:31 PM
So ex broke up with me 4 months ago, same old story, were seeing each other a lot soon after, she goes away for month, then says we need time space, pretty soon were seeing each other again (b/c of school/work stuff), having lunch and coffees etc, she goes away again, comes back same deal, then both of us go away for month, message 3-4 times during that time, then again she says she needs time to heal bit more before seeing me again. I give her NC for couple weeks, we see each other at all day work thing, say short hello in morning, I do my thing all day, she does hers, then we walk out together, she diverts to walk me to my car while we "catch up" a bit, she tells me what she up to for next couple days saying not much planned for wknd, she initiates the good old hug and says "maybe i'll see you around..?", I playfully answer "Maybe.." then we go our own way..
I would love to be back together with her, but have come to realize might not happen and am OK doing my own thing (for the most part).. Should I just keep the NC thing going or wait few days and do coffee or something? During our relationship she did most of initiatin so maybe that's why I feel like if there is a chance that I should be the one doing the work..

Thanks for help, this long winded as hell, sorry

CheekyChop20
Jun 27, 2008, 03:08 PM
I know that its easier said than done but now you need to look out for yourself. Don't make yourself available to her. I was also the submissive partner in my relationship, and thought it would be a good idea for me to 'fight' for her. It does not work - you end up making yourself look stupid and its frickin soul crushing. That being said at least I can say I tried to make things right but failed.. I now have no choice but to move on, maybe this is the closure that you need?

chuff
Jun 27, 2008, 03:13 PM
I think she's given all the clues but not come right out and said it. When she says "I'll see you around" she has no plans to go out of her way to see you. It's time you leave her where she was, in the past and move forward focusing on your own life.

bush
Jun 27, 2008, 03:58 PM
Thanks for input.. I think it's just tough because both of us are in the same profession and we will end up seeing each other, even working together over the future. We were together 3 years, and obviously have a lot of feelins for each other (both admittedly). No bad break up, just a lot of small stuff was addin up, and we weren't taalkin like we should have been.. things just came to a head. With some time apart, and time away from work stress etc, we starting to be more like we used to be, more fun, getting out there more, more like what it was for us for a long time...
When you think you know someone and they say stuff like "it was really nice seein ya again, etc, " you think they're dropping hints, or that they mean more than what they say.. just not sure if I was foolin myself.. I know I should probably just nc it, but a little part just isn't convinced, and advice from people who know us both is pretty much 50/50 as well.. ah well, we'll see I guess..

talaniman
Jun 27, 2008, 06:50 PM
maybe that's why I feel like if there is a chance that I should be the one doing the work..

A chance at what? A relationship?? Coffee maybe, love, No.