My girlfriend and I have been having problems in the last few months and she decided to end things. I know I wasn't treating her right, and wasn't giving her the time and attention she needed. After a week or two I called her at work and told her I wanted to talk and asked if I could pick her up after work to give her a ride home. She was OK with all of this and I met up with her that night. We talked. We both cried. She told me she was seeing someone else already but that they were just hanging out. She told me that she didn't know what she wanted and if I wanted her back I was going to have to work for it. So I have been for a month now and it seems as though everything I have done has led her to decide she wants to be best friends, and she tells me how much she likes this other guy. The thing is, I know her so well(we were together for 3 1/2 years) that when I make eye contact with her and when we hang out I can tell there is still something there. She tells me she loves me still, but that it's a different kind of love. I feel like I have tried everything except leaving her alone. Last week she said "I feel like you have been struck by a lightning bolt and I'm worried you'll be struck again and go back to the old you" and I started trying to convince her I wouldn't but it seems that she is stuck on wanting to be my "best friend". She also said she misses me and wants to hangout when I'm not around, but that it's a "friendly" type of missing me. I'm confused as hell and need all the advice I can get. I am madly in love with her, and feel like if I let her go, I will be losing my soulmate. What do I do from hear? HELP!

P.S. I told her I had her figured out and said " I know your with this guy because he's providing you with everything I wasn't for so long(the extra attention, making her feel special and wanted) and your worried to let that go to give me another chance because you're worried you will regret it." and she nodded her head... then she said she felt guilty hanging out with me,because this other guy told her "he can't trust girls" and " he has to be in the right state of mind to have a gf". I just can't believe she's holding on to someone that says those things straight out basically screaming" I want to be with more than one girl" rather than giving me another shot. - Help me please!

Actions speak louder than words my friend. You will never fully change if you are doing it for her. Do it for yourself, so your life is better. You need to understand that first, you need to allow yourself to heal.

You are complaining about her hanging onto that guy when he's basically saying "i want to be with more than one girl"... have you looked in the mirror? You are doing the Same thing!

I don't understand. I'm changing for me because time apart has made me realize how horrible of a boyfriend/friend I was. Also, how is anything I'm doing implying that I want to be with more than one girl?

Shot in the dark here, but perhaps she's one of those girls who is turned off by adoration. She prefers to chase herself, the guy who's mildly interested in her, the drama of the bad guy. You know what I mean?

If this is true, hopefully your needs include a healthier girl than this and you can live with the loss since long-term this girl-type would make a man of your type miserable. And it's avoidable by just trying again with someone else.

You gave it your best shot, and it didn't work, so let it go, and stop this futility. You have admitted your mistakes, and tried to correct them, but to late. Her interest are elsewhere, and frankly so should yours be. By the way, a female that tells you to work for it isn't interested in working with you, to build a relationship. Sad, but true. So stop wasting time trying to impress someone who is not impressed, and leave her to her own life, and get your own.

Learn your lesson, love 'em while they are there, because when they leave its to late!!!