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Johnny Knocker
Jun 22, 2008, 05:14 PM
Ok so I have never really had problem picking up girls, but there is this one that is confusing the hell out of me.

Me and my girlfriend (on and off) of 5 years just broke it off for good a couple weeks ago. She moved 500 miles away and it just wasn't working. Well while she was here at school she met a few friends, introduced me, and we still all hang out even after she left. Well one of these friends and I have become pretty close since she left.

Ok well when her friend first found out that we had broke up she called me and left me a voicemail saying my ex would be OK, that me and her are still friends and to call her so we can go get dinner, just us two. I am a fairly successful person, I own my own internet business and go to school full time, and I know she is pretty broke. Even when we go out as friends I used to offer her drinks and she woud always refuse, I pay for drinks for all my guys friends a lot because I know they are broke and I have more than I need, it's just my nature I guess. She just left Friday to go down south on vacation, and we have hung out almost every day since I broke it off with my ex. If I don't see her one day she'll always seem to have a reason to text or call me.

I am really interested in this girl, we get along really well, we both enjoy each others company, but I cannot for the life of me tell if she wants to be more than friends. I am not really looking into getting into another relationship but with her I wouldn't mind because we get along so well.

How the hell can I tell if she wants to take it to the next level? She is really confusing, she acts like she really likes me, even my good buddie and my brother said something the other day about it, but I just can't tell. And I don't want to misread her and lose our friendship, so what the hell should I do?

JBeaucaire
Jun 22, 2008, 06:02 PM
You know what? If you're going to get good things in life, you're GOING to have to put yourself out there. You are GOING to have to risk.

"Good things come to those that risk, buses come to those that wait."

Just ask her out and worry about salvaging your friendship if you ACTUALLY damage it by asking her out. It's silly to dilly-dally on something like this while fear over something that may not even happen cripples you.

Just ask her. Use that backbone.

RedneckMama
Jun 22, 2008, 06:30 PM
JB... I love that saying,. "buses come to those who wait"!! Ha!

What great advice too... I 100% agree... how else you going to know for sure?

And another thought... what would you do differently if you DID know for sure?