Hey,

Rightttt. I have known this boy for about a 3 years ish- introduced as friends. He split up with his girlfriend of 2 years and told me about a month later how he liked me. We got closer and decided to see how things went. He suggested we took it slow then start things properly as soon as he got back from his mums. I couldn't imagine myself with anyone else and I only wished we'd started things sooner- seriously he's amazinggg.

Then we were sat speaking one night about how we'd always be together and he said he had to tell me that he had slept with his ex girlfriend one night while we were together. (having been about 7 months by now). He told me exactly when it was, so it was the night I couldn't get over and see him as I had work till late. The first time we haven't been able to see each other.

So after he told me this I didn't speak to him for about a month. I just couldn't face him. I went into like a serious state of depression, not eating, crying, not sleeping etc. then I bumped into him while he was out with mates. And all he said was how we could use his mates flat 'for an hour'. I'm sooo heart broken and I don't know what to do. He said he loves me and he can't stop thinking about me. I even had to change phones to stop myself calling him. But at the same time I'm not the same as I used to be. I don't know what to do.

:( he text me saying never to speak to him again. Then I ask why and he just says 'becuase he misses me too much'.

I think I love him. But I can't trust him. Isn't love-trust. I'm reallly stuck

Goshh seems like I wrote loads. Even this helpeddd :D
Xxxx

A relationship is based on trust. If you don't think that you could ever get past this than the two of you shouldn't be together. Sounds like he needs a rebound. Don't stoop to the level it sounds like he wants you on. It's hard to let go of someone you love, but you don't want or need someone that you can't trust.

thank you =]

its surprising how much this helps- just to hear what someone else thinks other than people that know you (and him).

thankss again xxx

like confused said //////// trust in a relationship is about everything and in anything...

but for your boyfriend being honest to you about having sex with the ex in one of the day you guys were dating...

I admit that it is his fault in everyway and you have the right reason to be mad at him but as he being so honest yet he got shot down from you like that ^^ >...

should you guys sit donw and have a talk ^ ^

I am not really good at this situation but the best I can do is saying COMMUNICATED is the key... for you and for him... for the best ^^

THINK ABOUT IT

I know what you mean by me shooting him down for telling me the truth.. I am happy he told me but at the same time. I can't see him as the person he was.

I have tried talking to him but he just says 'ok so I've listened- do I get sex now' and then says he's jokin. If we talk then all he can say is 'trust me I love you'

We have had a big argument today and I'm actually crying at this moment in time. I don't know what to do. And I know people say like move on and stuf but I cant.

Aghhh :(

You need to clear your mind and the only way to this is to have no contact with him to see if you really want to be with him. Yes, you love/hate right now and you have every right because he cheated on you. I'm one that's not for cheating but would you rather he have told you 3 years from now or when he did. Most cheater never tell their girlfriend/wife until they found out from whatever way they did and sometimes still deny it.

Give yourself some time to think and be secure in your decision. If you can't accept him cheating then leave him alone, your hurt at first but in time your heal but know his actions are not your fault and all guys are'nt the same.