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kita_1
Jun 22, 2008, 10:27 AM
Ive Been Dating This Guy 4 Like 8 Months And We were In Love Until He Started To Talk To This Other Girl And He Broke Up With Me For Her What Do I Do To Get Him Back to me And Away From Her

N0help4u
Jun 22, 2008, 10:32 AM
The more you try the more he will resent you.
You need to let it go and get on with your life.
Breaking up with somebody is always hard and the hurt can remain for quit awhile but
You get over it eventually. Very few actually get back together and then it takes two to make it want to work.

confused1145
Jun 22, 2008, 10:33 AM
I know how you feel, I've been there. Really there's nothing you can do. You can't force someone to love or want to be with you. Boy do I wish it was different myself. All you can do is sit him down and find out his true feelings for both of you. If he no longer wants to be with you, you will have to move on.

feddy101
Jun 22, 2008, 04:33 PM
I've been there and beleve me the only thing to do is to sit down with him and clear the air!
Then move on!

Fr_Chuck
Jun 22, 2008, 04:37 PM
Normally you don't, and I know it is hard, this is what dating is all about, most likely you will have many boyfriends who at first will always seem like the best or even "the one" but often they will not be.

mimi03
Jun 22, 2008, 04:56 PM
Nothing! Don't call him, text him, email him... do nothing. If he was truly "in love" with you he'll contact you when he's ready but the last thing you should do is "try to get him back"...

With time and space you'll get over him!
Remember he has someone else so while you're crying over him he's putting his energy into his relationship with his new girl, you don't want to waist time on this guy!!

Just take it a day at a time, it'll get easier and less painful until one day you can look back and be thankful that it ended when it did...

JBeaucaire
Jun 22, 2008, 06:07 PM
Think this through. If you managed to "convince" him to leave her and come back to you, what would you be getting back?

You wouldn't be getting back that great guy you dated 8 months ago. He's gone. You'd be getting back a guy who can date and dump TWO girls in a short period, and YOU were one of them. You'd be getting back a guy who's decided you're not worth his time if he gets distracted by another skirt walking by.

Is that REALLY what you want? You want that BACK? Wouldn't it be awful to end up longer-term with a guy who thinks it's OK to treat you this way? Wouldn't that be worse than working through this painful period and getting over him?

I say let her have him and be glad. You're hurting because HE dumped YOU. But the pain goes away.

Silent Breeze
Jun 28, 2008, 01:49 PM
Oh boy – this really hurts. It’s a very terrible thing you’re going through and I don’t have to imagine being in your shoes I was in your shoes and I guess I still am. I am not an expert on this since as I mentioned I’m going through the same. But I do advice you not to try to bring him back. He chose her, no matter how hard it is to accept it, he did, whether he is wrong or right about doing so. Getting him back won't do you any good; he’s changed. As hard as it is you have to accept that what you once shared is over. As much as you can try not to think of all you two have shared and think of new things and new adventures to do. How? By keeping yourself as busy as you possibly can. Work. As crazy as that sounds but working and putting an effort in something physically or anything other than putting an effort emotionally by continues thinking of him will do you a lot of good. Summer is in the air, enjoy it.

scronklover
Jun 28, 2008, 05:08 PM
Move on! You're WAY too good for him if he dumps you for someone else! Walk up to him, tell him you hope he has a nice life, and then walk away! That'll get the message across better than anything else!

hjpan
Jun 28, 2008, 05:10 PM
this guy is an @$$hat.. 4 months is not a long time..

it's ok :)

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