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reginam314
Jun 20, 2008, 08:26 PM
My boyfriend and I are expecting a child soon. We both refuse to take a paternity test but others say they will request it at the hospital. Does that mean we have to take one if we don't want to even though were only 17?

Me and my boyfriend are 100% sure who the parents are.we're never away from each other.his family doesn't like me and want him to take a test when the baby is born. We don't want the confusion of having to wait for him to sign the birth certificate. Does he have to take the test even if he doesn't want to and he is only 17?

J_9
Jun 20, 2008, 08:27 PM
It all depends on where you live. What is the reason you don't want to take the test? Is there a chance he is not the father?

If you are positive that he is the father then the paternity test can only benefit you.

Fr_Chuck
Jun 20, 2008, 08:43 PM
Depending on where you live, it is possible he can request to have one, he can not force the boy without a court order. But as noted you want to prove it, and get custody orders and child support orders in place.

froggy7
Jun 21, 2008, 08:23 AM
It's best for everyone that he does. If he's the father, then you have legally incontrovertable proof so that he can't suddenly beg off in 3 years. And if he's not, he learns that now, and not three years from now when the bio-dad suddenly shows up and wants to be part of the kid's life. So, I strongly suggest you just get the test done.

JudyKayTee
Jun 21, 2008, 08:25 AM
Me and my boyfriend are 100% sure who the parents are.we're never away from each other.his family doesn't like me and want him to take a test when the baby is born. we dont want the confusion of having to wait for him to sign the birth certificate. Does he have to take the test even if he doesn't want to and he is only 17?


I don't understand your reluctance to take the test - if his family doesn't like you you have no idea what will happen down the road.

I'd take the test and answer the paternity question now.

You have posted the same question twice - that doesn't give you any better or different answers. The posts should be combined.

Fr_Chuck
Jun 21, 2008, 09:05 AM
Posts combined

N0help4u
Jun 21, 2008, 12:19 PM
Are you sure that they will require a paternity test.
Were I live if a guy is willing to just sign the birth certificate they do not require a test.
Usually a test is required if the father denies paternity.
It is possible they do require a test anyway but I never heard of it.

reginam314
Jun 21, 2008, 12:25 PM
Not to be rude but there are no other chances of a different father considering he is my first and my only.
I shouldn't have to prove anything to anyone regarding who the father is, especially if they didn't play a part in our actions. The answers were great but why should we have to give a test when we both will know the outcome. Who said I want my child to be with held from her father for about a month because people want to put in there 2 cents. Thanks for the answers, but only if they say a test is required will I take one.

N0help4u
Jun 21, 2008, 12:33 PM
Did you ever watch Maury?
Tons of girls go on there swearing up and down their guy was their first and only and there is N0 way any other guy could be the daddy. Three shows and 19 guys later they still haven't a clue who daddy is!
Check with the hospital and see if a paternity test is actually mandatory if he is willing to just sign the birth certificate.

JudyKayTee
Jun 21, 2008, 01:00 PM
Not 2 be rude but there are no other chances of a different father considering he is my first and my only.
I shouldn't have to prove anything to anyone regarding who the father is, especially if they didnt play a part in our actions. The answers were great but why should we have to give a test when we both will know the outcome. who said i want my child to be with held from her father for about a month because people want to put in there 2 cents. thanks for the answers, but only if they say a test is required will i take one.



That's fine today when you're together. If the time comes when you are no longer together, then that's not going to be so fine. Then you will have to prove who the father is.

Why would your child be withheld from her father while waiting for the results of the paternity test?

I noticed you said neither one of you wants to take a paternity test - you don't have to be tested. You are pretty obviously the mother, at least in my State.

So you both know 100% he's the father - so take the test and prove it to everyone/anyone who doubts you. I think the more the two of you refuse the more it looks there's a possibility he's not the father.

froggy7
Jun 21, 2008, 01:01 PM
Interesting question... since he is a minor, can he legally sign the birth certificate? A minor can't legally enter into a contract, and I'd say that there is no bigger contract than legally agreeing you're a father.

And not to be rude, but you are having a child with someone that you are not married to at the age of 17. His parents are supposed to be looking out for the welfare of their son, and I were them I would want to know for sure that this is his child before making him assume responsibility for it. If you are going to play at being grown-ups, then it's time to start acting like it. You are going to be tied to his family for the next 18 years, minimum. Do you want to start by refusing a test that is just going to show what you know already? If you do, then it's almost positive that they are going to use it as a sign that you have been sleeping around with someone else, and don't want him to know that the baby's not his. And that's going to poison your relationship eventually.

N0help4u
Jun 21, 2008, 05:53 PM
Good point. They may require the test being that he is a minor and they do not want legal complications if he ended up not being the father.
I heard that in my state once the guy signs the birth certificate he is responsible for child support even if he isn't the dad. Then he has to go through a really big hassle to change it.

J_9
Jun 21, 2008, 05:55 PM
If the two of you should ever split up and you want child support. Paternity must be determined. You should get it over with now just in case that should ever happen.

Alty
Jun 21, 2008, 05:56 PM
Why are you so reluctant to take the test? This only proves who the father is, unless of course you have something to hide, that's the only reason to go against the test in my opinion.

N0help4u
Jun 21, 2008, 06:00 PM
I said a couple years ago that I thought hospitals should require a paternity test because
A. It is no longer in the hands of the alleged father to request. Then you aren't getting into domestic disputes about 'he wanted a paternity test so he must not trust me'.
B. Too many fathers ARE paying child support because they THINK the baby is theirs.

aikmdad
Jun 22, 2008, 06:33 AM
My daughter was born in MO. I didn't take a DNA test, her mother and I just signed an affidavit of paternity at the hospital and they put my name on the birth certificate. That was all when she was 17 and I was 18. Be fair to him and his family, do the DNA test. It'll make it easier to get child support later if you break up and he actually is the dad.

twinkiedooter
Jun 22, 2008, 11:11 AM
You are not thinking clearly in not wanting to take the DNA testing. You should be doing this for the sake of the child. What would happen to the child if something happened to you? If the paternity of the child had been established 100% as your boyfriend, then you would have nothing to worry about. Also, if his parents do not like you to begin with and NOT having the testing done, then they can continue to not liking you for good reason. If the testing is done and proven that the boyfriend is the father, then I am sure they will come around as after all, you ARE the mother of their grandchild. If they wish to see the child, they will have to see you and interact with you for the next 18 or so years. You are really doing the child a disservice in not positively establishing his parental rights.

JudyKayTee
Jun 22, 2008, 12:26 PM
You are not thinking clearly in not wanting to take the DNA testing. You should be doing this for the sake of the child. What would happen to the child if something happened to you? If the paternity of the child had been established 100% as your bf, then you would have nothing to worry about. Also, if his parents do not like you to begin with and NOT having the testing done, then they can continue to not liking you for good reason. If the testing is done and proven that the bf is the father, then I am sure they will come around as afterall, you ARE the mother of their grandchild. If they wish to see the child, they will have to see you and interact with you for the next 18 or so years. You are really doing the child a disservice in not positively establishing his parental rights.


This is the difference in thinking between being 17 years old and being an adult -

An adult who is basically accused of having unprotected sex with more than one person (and that appears to be the argument here - the parents of the father don't think he's the father) would have the test to prove the alleged father's parents are wrong and it IS his child.

A child digs in and refuses the test because "she already knows 100% who the father is."

No wonder "his" parents have their questions.

So she puts the alleged father's name on the birth certificate, he has visitation with the baby, he (or his parents) have DNA testing done on him and the child. The DNA comes back NOT his child, he goes to Court and gets Court-ordered DNA. If the test comes back that it IS his child he can either go to Court and get Court-ordered testing or just let it go.

cdad
Jun 22, 2008, 07:55 PM
Something you might need to consider is that if you are both minors then how the actual law applies to your situation. Depending on where you live having a child may give you automatic emancipation. He may need a DNA test in order to prove he is the father because from a legal standpoint a minor can not be obligated to a contract unless they are emancipated. Which may happen if he is " proven " the father. Since your NOT married there are legal issues that need to be worked out including child support and the birthing of the child. Does he work ? Are you planning to marry ? Until you are married he needs to get an order for child support and visitation going so no matter what happens he can still be involved in the child's life.

lindsey84
Jun 26, 2008, 12:08 PM
my boyfriend and I are expecting a child soon. we both refuse to take a paternity test but others say they will request it at the hospital. does that mean we have to take one if we don't want to even though were only 17?

Me and my boyfriend are 100% sure who the parents are.we're never away from each other.his family doesn't like me and want him to take a test when the baby is born. we dont want the confusion of having to wait for him to sign the birth certificate. Does he have to take the test even if he doesn't want to and he is only 17?
Just to let you know, I have three children.. and never once was asked to take a paternity test for the father to sign birth certificate... as long as he signs before you leave the hospital

JudyKayTee
Jun 26, 2008, 12:20 PM
Just to let you know, i have three children..and never once was asked to take a paternity test for the father to sign birth certificate...as long as he signs before you leave the hospital


The other part of the question is whether the father's parents can force DNA testing and/or prevent the father from signing the birth certificate.