OK there's a lot to this story but most doesn't matter a hole lot... we met we fell in love we got pregnant everythings great we wanted the child now come to find out she's bi-polar she keeps pushing me away... having said that she's in Chi I has to move back to MD to survive she doesn't refusse I'm the father (100% I'm the father) but wount agree to half custody 50 50.. I want to be a big part of my child's life not just travle out there when I can... and if I have to ill go move back out there with what I got but then ill be just about worthless to the child money wise... so my question is... no one refusses I'm the father can I get custody of my un born child and bring her back to MD with me I just want to know if its possible... OK just to say it she lost her other child already.. her Obgyn told me she could be a harm to herself or child in front of me and he told her to seek help for being manic before and after the birth and to watch her closely and she has a long history of mental disorders... that being said I do love her and I'm so sorry I'm thinking of doing this but I'm scared and I want to be with my child as much as possible and she's not going to let me... I can say all the bad things I want like I said I don't want to be mean I'm just scared

ok theres a lot to this story but most doesn't matter a hole lot... we met we fell in love we got pregnant everythings great we wanted the child now come to find out shes bi-polar she keeps pushing me away... haveing said that shes in Chi i has to move back to MD to survive she dosnt refusse im the father (100% im the father) but wount agree to half custody 50 50.. i want to be a big part of my childs life not just travle out there when i can... and if i have to ill go move back out there with what i got but then ill be just about worthless to the child money wise... so my question is... no one refusses im the father can i get custody of my un born child and bring her back to MD with me i just want to know if its possable... ok just to say it she lost her other child already.. her Obgyn told me she could be a harm to herself or child in front of me and he told her to seek help for being manic before and after the birth and to watch her closely and she has a long history of mental disorders... that being said i do love her and im so sorry im thinking of doing this but im scared and i want to be with my child as much as possable and shes not going to let me... i can say all the bad things i want like i said i dont want to be mean im just scared
Yes, with what her OBGYN said and her medical records, you can fight for your daughter. You will want to do this asap before she has the child because otherwise, she is a major threat to your child! Post partem (ms) blues and major depression is a major issue here as well as SIDs if the child is not well taken care of... please save your unborn child, even if you have to bribe your ex girl into giving you custody - oh, and make darn sure your name is on the birth certificate, if you have to physically be at the hospital when the baby is born, you better be there!

Good luck, God Bless & I will be praying for you and your situation... IF you are telling the truth, then do the above, I would pray that no one would be deceitful here.

If you can prove she is unfit because of her medical problems you should be able to apply for full custody and see what the Judge says. Sometimes people take bi-polar lightly and think everything will be okay so you need to get everything possible to support you.

Everything is true here I wish it wasn't or I can help her she just won't let me I'm still trying I'm not going to give up on her I love her I'm just scared being this far away from it all

Yes, with what her OBGYN said and her medical records, you can fight for your daughter. You will want to do this asap before she has the child because otherwise, she is a major threat to your child! Post partem (ms) blues and major depression is a major issue here as well as SIDs if the child is not well taken care of...please save your unborn child, even if you have to bribe your ex girl into giving you custody - oh, and make darn sure your name is on the birth certificate, if you have to physically be at the hospital when the baby is born, you better be there!!

Good luck, God Bless & I will be praying for you and your situation....IF you are telling the truth, then do the above, I would pray that no one would be deceitful here.


You cannot get legal custody of an unborn child (or file for custody of an unborn child) in any jurisdiction to my knowledge because until that child is born and DNA is done there is no guarantee you are the father.

You must ask an Attorney how to proceed.

And bribing the mother to get custody can and possibly will backfire in your face and then for sure you won't have custody. I never recommend lying, particularly when a Court action will need to be brought. Children aren't puppies or kittens - you don't just hand them over and then somebody runs for the door. You would need legal custody.

OP says he can barely support himself - a Court needs to know if he can support this child, emotionally, financially.

And as far as SIDS and infant death - there are many, many factors. People who lose children to SIDS feel guilty enough. Please don't compound that by making a statement that SIDS and not taking care of a child are connected. Or perhaps you have a source for that statement. If so, I would be interested in what it is.

You will have to wait till the child is born, if you are not listed on the birth certificate you are going to have to take her to court. Now I will say, you chose to move back, you did not have to, you could have stayed nearer to be closer to your child when it is born.

Getting 1/2 custody living in another state is harder often than getting full custody, and if you are going after her not being fit, you will have to try for full custody

It is really hard to prove a mother unfit. Even with the problems that she has, you still may not have a very good case for full custody. Most courts would need some proof from a psych doctor saying that she could be a threat to the child. Do you really think that she would hurt her own baby? If so you need to try to get a mental hygiene order against her to get some proof. If you don't think that she would harm the baby and you really do love her, don't put either of you through a full custody battle. You sound like you want to be a good dad so I would say for you to go for joint custody either way. It's your right! As someone else said, you may want to move back before the baby is born and make sure you are stable to ensure that you are at least granted joint custody.

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