So I have this friend that I've known since I was in 2nd grade (so that's looking at 16 years or so). I didn't realize how bad she was until lately. Its like she's trying to push all my buttons for some reason. She was always easily persuaded, but I didn't think she was a bad friend.

Lately she has been acting more like the spoiled brat she has been all along, I guess. She still lives with her parents (at 24), they charge her $100 and that covers her insurance and her cell phone, she's never lived on her own and she pretty much only has a car payment and 2 credit card bills. Her parents co-signed on her car, so she barely has to pay anything for her payment and she makes decent money as an accountant. They've paid for her school, bought her laptops, ipods, food, clothes, boobs, everything.

She knows that I'm looking for an apartment, and toying with the idea of buying a condo. She has made it her goal to tell me every time she talks to me that her parents are "helping her" buy a condo (just like they "helped her" get a boob job) and just last night she said "oh, I could never rent, I'd have to file bankruptcy in the first year if I rented because I wouldn't be able to afford it". She also has said she won't live anywhere that's at least $1000 a month.

She also knows I want to be a photographer, and she knew that I am trying to buy a nice camera. Well, she used her stimulus check to buy a camera. And is now rubbing it in my face that she has a nice camera. (Mine isn't great, but its not anywhere near professional)

So my question is, how do I tell her that I don't want to be friends anymore?

I really don't like being around people that have to try to be "one-uppers" and that they act like they're so neglected while they get everything handed to them. I have paid for everything myself since I was 12 years old, I am paying for my school myself, I got my car myself and everything else I own.

Whats the best way to do that without sounding incredibly cold?

sorry this is so long!!!

I don't know how to tell anybody I don't want to be friends anymore because I have always just told them I am busy and only bothered with them to the degree I felt comfortable with.
For one thing, quit giving her information like what you are going to do and anything about you. Especially when you do find a place. If you tell her where you move she just might build a house right next door.
Personally, me, I would be tempted to tell her that I bought a condo in the Bahama's and let her one up you on that one. Adios amigo!

Sounds ike your friend has a self image problem. She boosts her self image by trampling yours... not the sign of a good or even mediocre friend!

If you two spend a lot of time together... curtail it, stop visits, phone calls, etc... if she does not get the silent message, then be forthright and tell her exactly what you feel and make it clear that the "friendship" is no longer mutual.

The Bahama condo deal sounds great to me... LOL!

Thanks NOhelp!

I didn't think she would try to out-do me on everything, I thought she was my best friend and we have VERY different interests, but I guess that's what happens when mommy and daddy have thought for you and done everything for you your entire life.

I think I may try the bahamas thing... that would end it, I'm sure. :)

Thanks Irulan!

I rarely call her anymore, she leaves messages saying "ok, we need to hang out soon!" and I get around to calling her back 3 days later, but that's about it. And when we do make plans, she bails, so I don't lose any sleep over it. My boyfriend doesn't like her because she's tried to sleep with all his friends.

And you're definitely spot-on with the low self image thing (she talks herself up, but she's not all that attractive)

Hey
I also have the same situation, I've been friends with this girl since 1st grade, we're now 30, she has always done everything I do. Now it's gotten to a point where we're adults and it's still a competition. I'm in a happy loving marriage and have 2 great kids, she's in a terrib;e relationship, where her mother bought her her engagement ring, house and supports her and him completey, she has a kid and of course is having another. He was terrible when she had the first and she was miserable and who was there to pick up the pieces. When she told the first time she was thinking of having a baby I told her it might not be a good idea, but she gets whatever she wants, I can't handle her with another one. I have a great life and am so happy but for some reason she BOTHERS me so much, I literally get upset. I just want to tell her how stupid she is and don't want to be her friend anymore, but then I look like the bad guy, I need her out of my life, how do I nicely do that where I don't look that bad??
Any help

I am in the same boat my buddie is always one upping me on everything and thinking he is better than me and downgradeing me always I've had it I deleted his number out my cell and if he texts me or calls I just don't answer him and if he drops by unexcpectivly I'm just like hey man how you been etc... but really can care less cause I've tried giving him a chance over and over but he always seems to piss me off bad and I'm trying to walk with god and he really is a bad influence on me I have a friends list and a buzards list and he is on the buzard list the buzards hang around dead stuff and wants to lay there burdens on you and one up you and out do you and never lift you up but you always lift them up and always there so stop getting walked on and make yourself a buzard list and who ever is on the buzard list stay away from them if they make you mad cry or upset then they need to be on the buzzard list