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ahollywoodstar
Jun 16, 2008, 01:49 PM
Please help me, my boyfriend said he wanted nothing to do with me, and didn't want to see me again and asked me to leave him alone...
I can't accept as we were online chatting for 2 years and had relatively good relationship.
I make a mistake and he used as an excuse and said 'leave me alone'... 'don't bother me again.. "
He still keep msn open to talk to me... but he still said he want nothing to do with me... but I refused... he knows I invested, involved all my feelings with him for 2 years...
I still say I love him and he is the only person I want to be with... help me, what can I do now... he doesn't close the msn and still talk to me...
Do we have hopes to get back together again, we have been this way many time before... but this time seem more serious...
Help... help...
waystogetexback
Jun 16, 2008, 02:20 PM
Don't let him see you in a desperate situation. Give him some time to get his space. Apparently something went wrong somewhere. If he gives you no explanation, you need to be patient. Give it about a month and if he still does not say anything, then make the bold mood of asking him why. At least an explanation will allow you to have some kind of closure to this. You said you had a relationship with him for two years over email? Is that what I am understanding. If that is the fact, that kind of relationship for two years is really not one that is on a firm foundation. Is there a way that you can meet him somewhere to discuss the relationship face to face? Maybe that is your next move.
ahollywoodstar
Jun 16, 2008, 03:01 PM
We basically chat online almost everyday for the past 2 years, we met sometimes for intimacy, he didn't want a relationship with anybody but he knew I was interested in a relationship and still keep contacting with me online. We had good times and trying times before,but my patience and caring personality win him back. But maybe he sense that I am getting closer to want to a relationship with him as exclusive boy/girl friend like...
Up to this morning he was still on msn and available for me to talk to him... he didn't close the door for me to communicating with him.. although he still said 'I want nothing to do with you,. leave me alone" last night... I could not take it and I said I couldn't do it...
NotMyName
Jun 16, 2008, 03:13 PM
"If he wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay."
talaniman
Jun 16, 2008, 03:14 PM
Your not going to like this, but you have taught him its okay to treat you this way, and he knows your not going anywhere, and he can call you, and your more than eager to meet his needs.
The perfect mistress, low maintenance, low emotional investment, and always ready for him. What more could he ask for.
Change the pattern and get your dignity back, by leaving him alone. No on line chats, no emails or texts, or phone calls, and above all no booty calls.
You have taught him you don't need much, to give it up.
Rockstar714
Jun 16, 2008, 03:22 PM
Well said talaniman!
I agree. With you always being there whenever he wants to talk or to "be intimate" or whatever, that's allowing him to just push you aside whenever he finds something better. Your relationship seems very 'internet based' which isn't the most healthy thing for a relationship either. He's told you he doesn't want a girlfriend, but he's toying with you. It sounds to me like he's using you, and that you should get out and find a nice guy while you still can.
I strong recommend reading "he's just not that into you". It opened my eyes to guys like this (and trust me, I've found quite a few)
Fr_Chuck
Jun 16, 2008, 04:34 PM
You are a good time sex friend, I would bet he has several others, perhaps even a wife or live in girl friend.
This is so common, ( but you won't believe me, I know you are going to say, not him, he is different)
How far apart do you live.
When you meet where do you meet at.
But the best, move on and find someone that is not just online but a real dating life.
starwishing
Jun 16, 2008, 04:40 PM
Why do you love a person who doesn't deserve your love? The elementary thing in a relationship is mutual devotion. You should back off.
sokay
Jun 16, 2008, 10:21 PM
You definitely deserve better than this. This isn't even a complete relationship. Not a real one. Honey, please, realize this guy is not the one for you, does not deserve you. Move on with your life without him. Just walk away.
ahollywoodstar
Jun 17, 2008, 01:17 PM
Thank you all... I feel much better today. I now realized that he is not a 'relationship' guy for anyone... his emotions is not available for anyone except for his daughter I guess.
Just wondering that online dating is not going work anyway, why so many people out there seeking one? I don't want to go on dating website ever again... one time hurt is enough...
Thank you again for all your support...