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poppysue
Jun 16, 2008, 06:00 AM
Hi everyone
Well my Parnter/Lover ( well I still call her that as I just can't accept that after 18 years she ended our relationship) As you now I am in a civil Partnership with another Woman - we still live in the same house and share a bed (even so nothing happens as she does not want me touching her) - neither want to move out or sell the house at the present time. One because she has no proper job at the moment - working for aan agency who might have work and then they might not. Also with the house prices as they are its not worth for either of us financially.
Plus a lot of other factore I can't go into right now.
We are amicable and quite - well NICE to each other - apart from her going out and disappearing every weekend the homelife is - well shall I call it NORMAL. The slightes hint of a discussion on "What will happen now?" I always get the same answer " I don't want to discuss it right now".
I had a lovely day on my own at Liverpool yesterday and when I came back (quite pleased with myself and happy, that I made a move to change my social life) I noticed that she removed her wedding band. I asked where her ring was and she said "in my wallet" well I asked "arn't you wearing it anymore? She shock her head and said "arn't you wearing it anymore? She shock her head and said ". Well I thought, even my stomach was in knots and got very upset - OK .
I need to know what it means. Doeas it me its over for good or is there a chance we will be together again. HOPE is what makes me get up in the morning.

talaniman
Jun 16, 2008, 07:05 AM
I think your first few sentences says it all, things have changed, and either work together, to resolve your issues, or do what so many others do, go your separate ways.

You can't just go along like nothing is happening.

JBeaucaire
Jun 16, 2008, 08:39 AM
Does your partnership include ANY sort of protections whatsoever?

If yes, time to start acting like a jilted wife, not a jilted partner. You don't take it lying down, you throw every obstacle in the way of the breakup. You fight for what is yours.

If no, then your 18-year-long date is ending. She gets to walk if she wants, same as you.

bigbird213
Jun 16, 2008, 09:24 AM
I'd say walk away from the entire situation. It isn't healthy to be stuck in a situation with so much tension. It is obvious that things aren't the same... why pretend they are??