Hey there... I need some help. Actually, I need a lot of help but the kind of help I need I think someone can honestly give me if I give them honesty in return.

You see, I found my dream girl. She's a rebel, you know? And not in the teenage angsty way, either. If a bunch of folks raided parliament, she'd be right there. And I'd be right beside her.
I'm 16, she's 15. I've never seen her, but from a reliable source she's very beautiful. I've talked with her twice on the telephone, and to be honest I met her through the Interweb. The deal is, though, that she lives less than 5 miles away. Five freaking miles. Yet, I don't know her address, my dumb friend won't tell me, and I'm too scared to ask to meet her (and I don't know how to ask).
I love her, but I'm not sure what to do now. She dated my 'reliable source' once, and then said she didn't want to get into a relationship again. Essentially, he blew my chance by being overly aggressive, mean (to me), selfish, and a prick. He thought she was "the one", just like all the others are "the one". Just like the girl he thought was "the one", the next week after Sarah ditched him.

The thing is, it's 2:41 AM, I've been up thinking about her for the past month and a half, and I love her. With all my heart I love her. But I don't know what to do. I want to tell her so badly, but I'm so afraid. It took me fifteen minutes to work up the steel to even call and talk to her casually, in which case she wasn't even there.
She's the most beautiful thing I have ever seen without looking at her. Her voice speaks to me in a tongue I can't comprehend, and which drives me to the point at which I could collapse.


I wrote a poem, that maybe best describes what I'm feeling... cause I'm just so tense right now. I want to send this to her, but I'm not sure if I should. Everything is true, except the pants bit might be overly-exaggerated... but in my honest opinion, it isn't.
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What does one do if they've never met their dream girl?
If they've talked on occasion,
But neither know what each other's faces
And the only bridge between them
Is a friend who thinks he has a chance...
Even though his main interest, lies inside her pants
And she is quite unaware, despite many attempts
But something is bungled, something mistaken
And all the boy can seem to do is cry
While anger he vents?

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I hope there's someone out there who can help me... please!

HI, Tron,
Welcome to the site, and thank you for asking a question here. I am sure you will get many answers.
You have taken the first step, and now the rest is up to you about contacting this girl. You say you "love her". I am sure you have feelings about her, but "love" only comes after knowing someone, and establishing a relationship with her. What you feel at this point might be "infatuation", or might not be.
I would keep calling her, talk with her, and maybe she might be interested in you. If she isn't interested in you, then you will know, and can get on with meeting other girls.
Remember; SMILE, and others will smile with you. At 16, you are going to have many girlfriends and know many girls before you are 20!
I do wish you the best, and hang in there. All you can do is try calling her again.

You sound like a young guy so I won't jump on you to hard.There is no way you can be in love without having spent time personal and up close to someone. You may be in love with a voice on the other end of the phone but your setting yourself up for failure by being consumed by what you call love.Take your time and get to know someone first and don't dare confess feelings of love until you both have a chance to meet and get to know each other or else you'll come across like some immature weirdo freak that will surely scare her off. Take your time and act like a man who is self-confident and mature,not some needy kid who doesn't know how to romance a young lady.Forget that love stuff until you find out what it really is.:cool:

I also think you are in love with your internal perception of this person...

Do not put this girl on a pedestal and worship her. She can never live up to that and you'll be extremely disappointed.

Don't be afraid of this girl either. You will be surprised how often girls just like to get the attention and power over a guy - and have no intention of pursuing anything real.

You need to get the guts to talk to her, ask her out, and get to know her. Once you know her, you can decide if you love her, or just her voice.

Yeah. You can get intense about how you feel. How exciting it is.

But stop with the you love her with all your heart.

You like her like mad. You're crazy with excitement.

But listen to the older guys here when we say you don't love her. Cause we've all been through this intense phase when everything is new.

The problem is you're going so overboard its almost scarey. Most girls like some compliments, like most guys do. Flattery is nice.

But there's a very real possibility that if you go all out like this she's going to back off. Worse yet, shell latch on and expect you to worship her.

The problem with that, and you really only get to see this with time and experience sometimes, is it isn't true to yourself. You may feel intense about her, but the relationship isn't about her.

Every time I've put a person up on a pedestal its come back to haunt me. You're just setting yourself up for a fall eventually.

So relax a bit. Then figure out how to talk to her without all of this noise.

It is beautiful to hear you speak so passionatly.. but your not in love. That comes with time.. it something that grows and is not formed automatically. But wheather you are or are not.. the point is you want to see her. If she's a rebel and has a strong personality you must be able to handle that... and get your nerves together and call her! If you can't do that you can't handle her strength.

You sound like a young guy so I won't jump on you to hard.There is no way you can be in love without having spent time personal and up close to someone. You may be in love with a voice on the other end of the phone but your setting yourself up for failure by being consumed by what you call love.Take your time and get to know someone first and don't dare confess feelings of love until you both have a chance to meet and get to know each other or else you'll come across like some immature weirdo freak that will surely scare her off. take your time and act like a man who is self-confident and mature,not some needy kid who doesn't know how to romance a young lady.Forget that love stuff until you find out what it really is.:cool:

Dear, talaniman knows what he's talking about. As a man, he's been there, done that - and knows about INFATUATION. This is something unreachable to you right now and that makes the feeling stronger. You're looking for a 'hero' in female form for some reason, maybe because you have not developed your own strength yet. Please listen, learn, and take things slow - you have a long life ahead of you yet.
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P.S. I like your poem.
Stay with us and know we'll be here for you. If you can't face her yet, tell her of your feelings on the net, then at least you'll know what your chances might be.